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8 months later - I shall share some insight. * * * * *

just_peachyjust_peachy
in Postpartum Depression

To all of you who are new moms, I say CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!

But I know you may not feel like celebrating.  Your body, mind and soul are on a roller coaster ride right now and you want to get off.  It's ok.

For the first 3 months after my son's birth, I was completely paralyzed with fear, what-ifs, anxiety, compulsion, obsession, worry, guilt, you name it.

I was and still am under a doctor's care.  

At month 4, I could function but I wasn't feeling very connected to my son.  My disorder still has it's hold on me at month 8 but every day I relish at the smile my son gives me and feel I am on the road to recovery.

IT TAKES TIME!!!!!  DO NOT RUSH what the mind and body are trying to do.  

Go with the flow even if the flow is distorted....know that this too shall pass.  It may not pass tomororrow or next week or next month but it will pass.

Do not feel guilty that you SHOULD BE enjoying your baby when you feel like shiiit.   Babies are a blessing and little bundles of joy  BUT....they are a huge responsibility and if your mind, body are in fragile state, they are anything but joyful.  They almost feel burdensome.  It's ok.  REACH OUT.  Keep a journal/diary....Go through the motions.  Love yourself for knowing and recognizing the struggle it is to keep yourself together while carrying a new being into this world.

The REAL WORK now begins.  It's ok if you don't feel like being a mom today.  You're going to be a mom whether or you not you like or want to anyway.

Feelings are neither right nor wrong.  They just "are".  

Things will get better in some ways and feel like they are just as lost in other ways.....it's all part of the process.

I am 8 months post partum now and feel like every morning it is a struggle for me to get myself together and be a warrior mom .  But every night, I magically put my baby to sleep and feel like myself again knowing that I did the best I could for the day by my son.

He is a joy and I am holding on to feeling better but it takes time, patience, courage and strength.

You can Private Message me if you ever need an understanding ear.

I just wanted to let all of you know that it will get better and you will be ok.

God Bless. xoxo

God Bless our sweet baby James. Our son, born 11/22/09. Unplanned, Emergency C-section image
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Re: 8 months later - I shall share some insight. * * * * *

  • livpodlivpod
    i love the honesty and depth to your brief glimpse into what is reality 4 so many mamas.  
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  • dianah36dianah36
    I love this post. I'm almost a year out and it was also around the 8th month where things started to get much better for me.
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  • ka2shazka2shaz member
    Thank you for posting this. I am not having a good day today and it was nice to read something that provided some hope that this isn't permanent.
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