TTC After a Loss

Well, it's official...

We are putting TTC on hold AGAIN! 

We were suppose to start TTC this month but it got pushed back to October because DH was taking an anti-malarial drug.  Now we are probably going to wait until December.  We have been going back and forth about it and I think we have decided it would definitely be best to wait a couple more months. 

If by some miracle, I got pregnant the first time trying in October, there is a very good chance that DH would be in Costa Rica when the baby was due.  Also, if we wait a couple more months, I will have more paid time off saved up and I need to save as much as possible since my job doesn't offer any maternity leave. (Hell, my job doesn't even qualify for FMLA)

I'm not as upset about waiting this time as I have been in the past.  This one was our decision and not something beyond our control like the layoffs and the anti-malarial drugs.  But still, I guess it is just once more I am left wondering if we will ever have the chance to try for our take home baby.

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Re: Well, it's official...

  • I'm so sorry. Even though it was you decision this time, I'm sure its still disheartening and frustrating. (((Hugs)))
    married 09.06.08
    BFP #1 - m/c on 12.22.09 @ 8w3d
    BFP #2 - d&c on 07.22.10 @11w1d
    BFP #3 - DS born on 06.22.11 @41w3d!
    BFP #4 - Due 04.24.13
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  • Sorry you have to wait.  I hope these few months go quickly for you!
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  • That must feel really frustrating, sorry :(   ((hugs))
    m/c 12/20/09 @ 5 1/2 weeks ~ CP 1/25/09 @ 4 weeks ~ missed m/c 4/6/10 (stopped growing @ 6 weeks, stayed with me until 10) ~Foster parent to B, 9/10-1/12~ Proud Mother of Gage Stephen, born 12/26/12 Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
  • Aw hunny! I'm so sorry to hear about that. ))Hugs((
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  • Ugh, I bet that IS frustrating! Hopefully these next 4 months will go quickly for you!

    It sounds like you two are doing what's best for your family and so that your DH will be there for you when the time comes. I would want the same. *HUGS*

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  • I'm sorry you have to wait but it sounds like you are doing what's best for everyone involved.  Here's to a quick few months!
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  • I'm sorry you have to wait but I'm glad you were able to make a decision based on your terms!
    m/c 7/17/10
    Dx: MFI- 3% morph
    IUIs: Gonal-F + Ovidrel + b2b IUI= BFNs
    IVF with ICSI= BFP! EDD 11/25/11
    3/18- Beta #1 452! 3/20- Beta #2 1,026!! 3/27- First u/s- TWINS!
    Our twin boys arrived at 36w5d due to IUGR and a growth discordance

    FET: Medicated FET moved up to 5/23 due to ovulation
    Transferred a 6BB hatched blastocyst- genetically normal female embryo
    BFP! 5/28- 5dp6dt      
    6/1 Beta #1- 223! 6/3 Beta #2- 567!

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  • ((hugs)) You know I think that it completely sucks that you have to wait, but I am amazed at your strength.  I know I couldn't be as patient and cool about all of this considering everything you have been through. 

    I am hoping for a single cycle BFP in December though! 

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  • I'm sorry.  There are a few of us that will be waiting a few more months, including myself.  (((hugs)))

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    We love and miss you Jillian (18w) and Peanut (6w). Welcome to our TAC miracle Jacob!
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