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I think my adventures in online dating are over before they began :)

dimakedimake
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I did give my number to some guy, who doesn't have kids...  He's a couple of years younger than me, but it's not by too much.  He's been texting me throughout the weekend and I text back when I have time...  My kids are home all weekend this weekend (and actually the next two weekends, thanks XH!)  Yesterday was errand day, and my kids had meltdowns in Old Navy, JC Penney, you name it...  My hands were completely full all day - from 6:30 am until 10:30 pm - and I'm realizing that this is the way I like it.  I like that my time is mine to give to my kids, and I don't really have the time, energy, or most importantly the desire to share any of it with some guy.

 I did text him last night and say I was sorry for being a crappy prospective date, that my weekend has been quite hectic and I gave him a specific time he could call me today, and he texted me back this morning and said "yeah, you are kind of flakey" so whatever...  I am washing my hands of dating and feel great about it.  Sometimes I feel like I have to get back out there, but when push comes to shove I'm perfectly happy being single right now.  I don't even need some guy to buy me stuff and flatter me, because I can buy my own stuff and I know how fabulous I am.  Stick out tongue 

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Re: I think my adventures in online dating are over before they began :)

  • dimakedimake
    (And I do agree that maybe I'm a little bit flakey about it because now I'm not sure if I want to do it ...  after the fact :P  But it's not nice to say!  Stick out tongue)
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  • haleyw458haleyw458 member
    If I could "like" this post i would!
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  • DaringMissDaringMiss member
    There is no tone or inflection in a text message, so you don't know if he meant it humorously.  If that is the only thing he texted, I might give him a second chance.  
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  • dimakedimake

    imageDaringMiss:
    There is no tone or inflection in a text message, so you don't know if he meant it humorously.  If that is the only thing he texted, I might give him a second chance.  

    This is true.  But frankly, I don't really want to waste his time.  Why get a guy to like me if I'm not ready for it to go anywhere anyway? 

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  • carrieannewcarrieannew member

    imageDaringMiss:
    There is no tone or inflection in a text message, so you don't know if he meant it humorously.  If that is the only thing he texted, I might give him a second chance.  

    I disagree. I do not think they were at the level for something like that to e humorous. I think it's likely if he is younger and has no kids he would not understand. Guys really are not as mature at the same age, so even less with no kids..

    Happily single here. No plans anywhere in the future for that to change.

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  • alibabbbsalibabbbs

    imageDaringMiss:
    There is no tone or inflection in a text message, so you don't know if he meant it humorously.  If that is the only thing he texted, I might give him a second chance.  

    ? Her point is that she wants to give her time to her children, not to dating. Why would she give him a second chance?

    I feel the same way, OP. I don't want to take one second away from my time with DS. It's all about him now. I'm nowhere near ready to date, but even if I was, I wouldn't because I wouldn't want to take time or energy away from my main man!

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  • hdy2102hdy2102
    At least you attempted at putting yourself out there.  I agree that you can't be sure how he meant the "flaky" comment but it sounds like you already know you don't really have time for a guy.
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  • GettinNervousGettinNervous
    I don't want a date, boyfriend, anything. I'm too tired!! I like my life the way it is.
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  • dimakedimake

    Yeah, I had a nice weekend where it was mostly just the 3 of us...  We played at home, we went shopping (although there was an epic tantrum in Old Navy over a puffy vest - my toddler wants a "lifejacket"), we had a playdate...

    I think sometimes I do feel lonely, especially when it's just me...  but I'd much rather go out with my friends than go out on a date.  I don't think any guy is really going to understand what this is all like.  I have my kids all but two nights out of the month.  

    Oh, and yeah - the dude and I were nowhere near the level where there is text joking.  We have only exchanged emails over the course of a week.  If he's going to get annoyed by my schedule now, it's better that we never even start anything. Maybe if he'd thrown in a "j/k" or a ":)" or something, but nope...

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  • dimakedimake

    And I don't want it to seem like I'm judging the ladies on here who have found nice guys - you deserve it, and I hope to be there one day... 

    I just figure that the fact that I get anxious and cranky about giving some guy some of my hard-earned free time (yes, maybe I'd rather sit alone and eat ice cream and watch True Blood than talk on the phone) means I'm definitely not there yet.  And am fine with it...  at least I can say I tried!

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    And I don't want it to seem like I'm judging the ladies on here who have found nice guys - you deserve it, and I hope to be there one day... 

    I just figure that the fact that I get anxious and cranky about giving some guy some of my hard-earned free time (yes, maybe I'd rather sit alone and eat ice cream and watch True Blood than talk on the phone) means I'm definitely not there yet.  And am fine with it...  at least I can say I tried!

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  • peeps61308peeps61308 member
    I agree. New guy taught me that I really missed the companionship, but the thought of putting myself out there to get to that point makes me feel sick.
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  • dimakedimake

    imagepeeps61308:
    I agree. New guy taught me that I really missed the companionship, but the thought of putting myself out there to get to that point makes me feel sick.

    That's it.  I don't want to force myself into something I'm just not ready for yet.

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