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January 2011 Moms
mchupie
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Keeping names a secret?
mchupie
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Cdobry mentioned this earlier today and I was just wondering what everyone was planning on doing. If you have chosen a name (or names) for your baby, do you plan on telling your friends and family, or keeping it a secret? Please feel free to elaborate.
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Re: Keeping names a secret?
We've decided to share the sex of the baby but not the name. (wasn't what I wanted, but DH really wants to tell EVERYTHING, so this is our compromise)
I don't mind telling bumpies but people IRL will have to wait until the baby's born.
~EDD Nov 18, 2017 with my IUI success story~
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Same with us, except we both want to tell the sex.
We're telling as soon as we have the u/s and know the sex. We did that last time, and I loved that everyone significant in our life could refer to her as Lyla and not just "the baby." At our shower, all the gifts were addressed to her, and people brought books with inscriptions written specifically for her... it was sweet and meaningful.
For us, it definitely helped her feel like more of an actual, individual person and not just a vague entity that existed primarily in the form of a squirmy lump in my uterus.
But I know this is one of those "to each their own" kinda things...
everyone has legitimate reasons for choosing to share or not.
And ETA -- We never got any negative comments about Lyla's name... not a single one. I'm interested to see if that was just an anomaly, or if it'll happen again this time....
When we find out the gender on Monday, we plan on announcing the gender and name ASAP!
ETA: I loved calling DD by name while in utero, and can't wait to do the same with this babe (and have others do so as well).
ETA again: We have had lots of people give opinions on names, but I will only be announcing the name when I KNOW what it will be. A PP said her family laughed at a name they were "thinking about", whereas I will be only announcing THE name, not one(s) we're thinking of.
I wonder if that's why we never heard anything negative, either. We never said "we're thinking her name will be Lyla"... it was always "her name IS Lyla." People may have felt that was too definite to criticize.
Exactly.
This exactly. We're not telling anyone anything!
We were discussing some of our possibilities with various people. H's favorite boy name was Everett, and I was fency about it. We told MIL it was one of the names we were considering, and she said, "*gasp*! We can call him Rhett!" So, just like that, his favorite name was all but off the list. We're not discussing possibilities anymore, except amongst ourselves. lol.
We actually named the fetus, too, so we're not just calling the poor thing it all the time. It'll get its real name after it's born, but for now we're calling it Joaquin. Not on our list, at all. I don't remember how it came about. I probably should've picked something more GN, but meh. Yes, I realize this makes me sound like an absolute nutbar.
We aren't telling my family, because they requested at least one surprise since they will know the gender (rolling my eyes)
DH's family will know if it is a boy because we are going to ask his dad to pick the middle name. DS's middle name is my dad's first. We wanted to do the same for another boy, but his dad's name is Clare. Not only is it a popular girl name now, but he also requested that we not give "our poor son" his name
Hope he picks a good one 
I voted for 'not telling' even though we haven't actually made any progress at all on even brainstorming for names.
We aren't going to tell the sex or the name until the baby is born. It was fun when just DH and I knew we were expecting. (It's fun now that people know, but just very different.) I like having something that's between us. Also, I just don't want the pressure that would go with people knowing names and sexes.