How many guests is too many @ a shower?

LuckyladyJ · August 2010

I know my two @ home showers will be pretty big, just like my wedding was.. I am curious to hear what everyone thinks is a customary amount of people to have @ a shower... I know it all depends on costs & if you know allot of people etc,but I would still like to see what everyone thinks?

AndysGrl08 · August 2010

I am having one big shower. There was about 55-60 invited. Not sure how many will be able to come, but I'm guessing it will be around 40-45.

I think once you get over 75 at one shower its a little big in my opinion.

MrsDe2008 · August 2010

My mom wants to keep the baby shower to a minimum and I don't blame her, they can get expensive if you're having it outside the house (plus her and my dad just bought us our baby furniture and mattress). I have about 35 people on the list, but am anticipating about 25-30 coming. With that said, I think the average size of a baby shower is about 50 people. I agree with the pp, anything over 75 is crazy. We only had 100 guest at our wedding. lol

Angeldcf · August 2010

Depends on your social circle. For my in-laws side, I hear 60 invites have been sent (I invited 2 friends). No idea.

My parents' friends: come & go Sun afternoon shower for at least 100 people. Have 10-14 hostesses. Very typical.

LovesMM · August 2010

I think we are inviting about 60 people. My sister and I are having a shared shower so it counts our family and mutual friends and then our H's family and friends.

cc51705 · August 2010

Mine is gonna be kinda HUGE. I come from the stereo-typical mexican family-you know how we multiply like rabbits! Wink

We usually have one nice, BIG, annual dinner. Every brother, sister, grandma, grandpa, aunt, uncle, cousin, half/step-whoever, etc. is invited, so that we get the chance to spend some time with everyone. So my mom has decided to convert that annual dinner into my baby shower. Plus I am inviting some co-workers & friends and FI's co-workers and friends. It will probably equal out to be the same as if I had 2 or 3 showers. It seems a bit greedy, but that's just a perk of having such a BIG family. Big Smile

babyonthebrain2010 · August 2010

I think over 30 is too much. people don't wanna watch you open gifts from that many other people. I say if there are more than that you should have 2 smaller showers, if possible.

SuperClou83 · August 2010

I am having 1 shower that my sister and mom are hosting at my house. There are about 20 invites being sent out to my family/friends and 58 are being sent out to H's massive family. To me that is too many H's family gets their feelings hurt too easily so I'm letting them invite everyone to keep the peace.

LaLaaaa · August 2010

I agree with PP's, once you hit 75 it seems like a lotta peeps. And really, who wants to sit there with 75 people watching them open gifts? My worst nightmare... ::shivers::

KColette · August 2010

My mom and I were debating this topic just today. I guess there are 60 on the list, but soooo many of them are family! I didn't get to invite many friends to my wedding shower, or wedding for that matter, since it was out of state. My mom is afraid that all 60 will show and that she won't have room for everyone. But, when does that happen? And, she has a pretty big house, and a large outdoor area... I really don't want to have 2 because I'm onlyin town for a few days and I'm just afraid it will be too much for me to have 2!!!!! Thoughts? Suggestions? Ideas???

jennthomas · August 2010

KColette:
My mom and I were debating this topic just today. I guess there are 60 on the list, but soooo many of them are family! I didn't get to invite many friends to my wedding shower, or wedding for that matter, since it was out of state. My mom is afraid that all 60 will show and that she won't have room for everyone. But, when does that happen? And, she has a pretty big house, and a large outdoor area... I really don't want to have 2 because I'm onlyin town for a few days and I'm just afraid it will be too much for me to have 2!!!!! Thoughts? Suggestions? Ideas???

why not have 2 in one day family in early afternoon, and all small friends dinner get together. Or something like that so you can spend time with fam and friends while not being overwhelmed.

eaburger09 · August 2010

There are going to be around 30 guests at my shower.

alicb · August 2010

I am inviting 30 expecting 25, but mine is being held at a restaurant and is being catered, so I didn't want to go overboard since my hostesses are paying per head.

I will say I went to a shower a month ago and there were 45 people there. The gift opening was a little painful, it took forever, a few people left while the mom to be was opening gifts.

lulu8109 · August 2010

I think 20-30 people is normal for any single shower... that being said, one of my baby showers will be a lot bigger than that. I'm having separate showers for family and friends, just like I did for my wedding. My family shower will probably be 20-30. And my friends shower will be like 50-60. We're doing a co-ed shower and inviting like 75 people, but I think only about 50 will be able to come. I know it's a lot. If it was just my girlfriends, it would be about 30... but DH and I wanted a co-ed thing, so we have to invite my gfs' SOs and his friends and their SOs, so it kind of blew up. We offered to and will be paying for the room rental fee so that my sister and SIL who are hosting don't go broke.

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