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December 2010 Moms
Chick7806
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Don't omit to pay your husband an occasional compliment. If he looks nice as he comes in dressed for the opera, tell him so. If he has been successful with his chickens, or his garden, or his photography, compliment him on his results. Don't let him have to fall back on self-esteem all the while for want of a little well-directed praise.
DON'T for Husbands
Do's & Don'ts for Husbands and Wives-
Chick7806
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Just looking on the linky that was recently posted and came across this. The woman posts from a funny book from 1913 (?) about do's and dont's for husbands and wives. I found this kind of entertaining.
Here's an example:
DON'T for WivesDon't omit to pay your husband an occasional compliment. If he looks nice as he comes in dressed for the opera, tell him so. If he has been successful with his chickens, or his garden, or his photography, compliment him on his results. Don't let him have to fall back on self-esteem all the while for want of a little well-directed praise.
DON'T for Husbands
Don't stubbornly refuse to put on your overcoat on a threatening morning, and then when, after getting wet through on the way to the station and sitting in your wet clothes, you develop a bad cold, take it out of your wife by being crotchety and irritable.
What are your do's and don'ts? 
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Re: Do's & Don'ts for Husbands and Wives-
My don't:
Don't get angry and yell. Your husband responds much better to you when you explain why you're hurt or upset with what he did. Guilt goes further than GRRRR!
His don't:
Don't rely on your wife to be your maid. She is not your mother. 'Nuf said.
lol that's pretty good advice for a hundred years ago.
Her Do:
Ask for things calmly and then thank him when he does them. I've been able to get my husband to do many more things by asking nicely than by nagging
His Do:
Look for things completely before you complain that you can't find something! Yes, that means actually moving stuff around.
If I can find what you were looking for in less than two minutes, you did not look hard enough and I will give you a nasty look.
Her Don't:
Don't expect your husband to change his cleaning ways from when he was in college. If he left clothes around and just surface cleaned back then, he will still do it now that you're married.
His Don't:
Don't wait for you wife to tell you to do something. If you see that something around the house needs to be fixed or cleaned, take your own innitiative to do so.
(i think my don'ts contradict themselves - but still! lol)
Mine are pregnancy related:
Her Don't:
Don't make him shop (online or at the stores) for too long. and Don't think just because you want cereal for dinner he doesn't deserve a hot meal. (guilty of both, learned the hard way it's not fair to him)
His Don't:
Don't half ass something she's asked you to do, what's the point of taking the trash half way to the trash can outside? or putting your dirty dish on the counter directly above the dishwasher? or putting your dirty sock right outside the laundry room door on the floor? t only serves to irritate your hormonal wife
Her Don't:
Don't expect your husband to know why your are mad without explaining to him what he did wrong. Because he really doesn't know, chances are if knew he would have never done it to begin with.
His Don't:
Don't say I gave it to you, when you cant find something because you and I both know you didnt, you just dont want to admit that you lost something.
Don't for Wives
Don't take him on long shopping trips without making sure he is well-fed and well-rested first. Taking a hungry and/or tired husband shopping will lead to a negative experience for you both because he will be at his most "crochety and irritable".
Don't for Husbands
Don't ever come home with a hugely expensive item (car, boat, Bengal tiger, etc) without FIRST discussing it with your wife. Note: passing said item off as a "gift" for your wife won't work.
I like this one.
Her Don't: Don't ever let your husband forget why he fell in love with you. Keep yourself maintained- in all aspects, not just physically. Yes we all go through changes, but don't loose the foundation of yourself or your independence.
Her Do: Do set expectations/standards for your husband. He isn't a mind reader and will need to have some things explained to him. And you may have to do this multiple times throughout your lives together. You set the tone for how your husband treats you. When you lower your standards, don't be surprised when your husband gives you less than you deserve. But, remember that there is a difference between demanding respect and commanding respect. A good woman commands respect.
Now that I think about it: I'd say the same goes for the guys.
I have another....
His Don't: Don't make dinner for yourself with left over spaghetti sauce and use up the sauce without first asking your pregnant wife if she would like some too. (maybe this is more of a vent as I sit here wishing I had some of that yummy spaghetti he ate in front of me, knowing he ate up all the sauce and didn't say anything until I got up to make a plate.....jerk)
For both:
DON'T pay any attention to what other people say about you or your spouse.
DO pay attention to what you say to others about your spouse.
Her Don't: Dont correct your husband (whether he is right or wrong) in front of company. Men are just as sensitive as we are...whether they want to admit it or not.
His Don't: Don't compare your wife to other women...self explanatory (lol)
Jag....I would be annoyed too. Spaghetti sounds yummy though.