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My FFFC (s)

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1.  I always have to see what my poo looks like! hehe, I know I am gross.

2.  A more serious one.  DH and I want to try for number 2 but my sister has been trying for her first since Jan (suffered a miscarriage in between) so I want to wait for her to get pg first.  But I am worried that if she continues of have tttc I will start to resent her.  But I know if I got pg first, she would resent me.  DH and I always wanted our kids really close in age.  My sister and I are really close and I think about this everyday and I don't want it to ruin our relationship.  It is very hard- anyone have something similar going on?

You can totally flame me if you want if you are in need of a good flame session Devil

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  • Jen1231Jen1231
    imagefinally2006:

    1.  I always have to see what my poo looks like! hehe, I know I am gross.

    2.  A more serious one.  DH and I want to try for number 2 but my sister has been trying for her first since Jan (suffered a miscarriage in between) so I want to wait for her to get pg first.  But I am worried that if she continues of have tttc I will start to resent her.  But I know if I got pg first, she would resent me.  DH and I always wanted our kids really close in age.  My sister and I are really close and I think about this everyday and I don't want it to ruin our relationship.  It is very hard- anyone have something similar going on?

    You can totally flame me if you want if you are in need of a good flame session Devil

    I am in the same boat as you, minus the miscarriage.  My sister has been trying to get pregnant for about 3-4 months now.  I am pregnant and have been holding off telling her because I know that she will be upset that I am pregnant again and she is not.  I am not really sure what to do about it.  I think I am actually going to end up telling her very soon.  I am hoping that she doesn't get upset and it works out well.  I feel your pain! 

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  • NikibugNikibug

    Having suffered a MC before DS myself and having a sister who is also close in age to me (we are 13 mos apart, i am the oldest) I think it is very sweet of you to think of your sister. I know I was resentful of my sister...I had a mc and then less than a month later she was preg. It was really hard and I couldn't speak to her for a few months.  Thankfully I ended up preg with DS later that year, but I wont lie. It stung like a biotch.

    I think you are very sweet. Maybe you can sit down and talk with your sis about this?

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  • PrincessShay80PrincessShay80
    As someone who was that person who could not get pg, and everyone around me was getting pregnant, including family members and close friends. I think it's really sweet that you are considering your sisters feelings. But you cannot put your life on hold because she is having issues getting pg. I would talk to her- tell her that you guys are thinking of TTC and explain that you dont want to hurt her feelings- if you get pg before her- remember her feelings when making your annoucement. Understand that she may have to protect her feelings a little too. I never wished that my friends and family would not have kids, it just reminded me of how badly I wanted that for myself.
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  • mcbray21mcbray21 member
    I don't think this post is even remotely flame-worthy. You are a sweet person for thinking of your sister's feelings. Good luck with your situation. I am sure everything will work out! :)
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  • finally2006finally2006

    imagemcbray21:
    I don't think this post is even remotely flame-worthy. You are a sweet person for thinking of your sister's feelings. Good luck with your situation. I am sure everything will work out! :)

    Even the poo part?  Stick out tongue

    For everyone else:  I just don't want to be selfish.  I already have a beautiful baby and she does not have one.  It is hard for her to even spend time with Elle so I cannot imagine her ever wanting to see me again if I am pregnant and have Elle. Crying

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  • vmm0016vmm0016
    My SIL had been trying for a baby for 2 years when we started trying.  It took us a year and a half to get pregnant.  I did tell her we were trying because we are really close and I knew she might have a hard time with it.  She had several miscarriages.  She knew I wanted a baby and I am 8 years older than her, so time was kind of running out for us.  Anyway, telling her I was pregnant was the hardest thing I ever had to do.  We both cried!    She had given up hope and her miracle baby came!  I had Keira in December and she had Kacey in July!  Just talk to her, I think it really helped us!
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