What do you and DH fight about most often?

ineffect · August 2010

I think we fight most often about how much of a slob... I mean...differences in our opinions on how clean the house should be.

The second most popular topic is money.

ToBeMrsC6907 · August 2010

Money/budget and things concerning those topics!

*sallymad* · August 2010

Right now my work. I'm not booking weddings and I know he's trying to be helpful but it ends up coming off as judgmental that I'm not trying hard enough. So it normally turns into a fight. Doesn't help that I'm stressed about it so I become defensive....

Next would be family both of our families are so frickin demanding that it wears on our relationship when really it shouldn't.

MrsJMB · August 2010

Our biggest fight is house cleanliness. DH is a neat freak. It's annoying.

LynnJones · August 2010

Housework and money.

seethesmiles · August 2010

Housework is really the only thing we fight about.

naturelle25 · August 2010

money & DH's insane work schedule.

oscarkat · August 2010

Just money, and we don't even fight about it. Shamfully, DH just calmly asks me not to spend so much, and makes budgets that are reasonable and tries to give me a little extra when he can. Still, I'm horrible and over spend constantly. I'm really trying to work on this.

Lisichka · August 2010

The biggest one is probably housework/chores.

NHMountainBride · August 2010

Which one of us works harder. And sex.

chels0120 · August 2010

#1 is how much time he spends doing softball and not creating memories with me and DS.

F&G777 · August 2010

About not spending time together...

LillyGrrl · August 2010

#1 Throwdown, drag out, fight is about his ridiculous mother and how much of a cancer she is to our family

#2 Sex

We rarely argue about money, spending time together, or chores.

KatieRL1979 · August 2010

Money. The fact that DH quit his job when I was 7mos pregnant with DD - essentially taking away my chance to stay home with DD, have another baby, etc. If DH had to live on his own he'd go bankrupt.

He's still under-employed, over 18 months later. He brings in as a self-employed person less than half of what he was when he had a job at a firm. I've turned into the primary breadwinner in our family and we of course now have no plans on having more children (well, we do, DH just keeps saying "one more year honey, one more year").

raisbaib · August 2010

How I feel he does nothing around the house to help, to which his reply is always I work in the heat all day and all you do it type. And the second would be money.

Quiksilver620 · August 2010

money

KatieRL1979 · August 2010

Oh I guess #2 would be sex. Sorry honey, but I sometimes have a hard time wanting sexy time with you when I just had to spend our daughter's baby shower money on your child support for your first kid.

gumiberg · August 2010

we dont fight - my dad was a horrible communicator and it destroyed his relationship with my mother. so i have always been very strict with my DH about talking to me if something is bothering/annoying him so we can work it out ASAP.

that said, the thing he brings up most often with me relates to house stuff. I wouldnt say I am a slob per say, but I am not a neat person. I am working on it, though!

katypresson · August 2010

We don't fight often at all. But it's usually me getting upset with him b/c he doesn't do his share of the "chores". Just recently we've been not talking as much b/c he's always depressed (his job is at risk).

cloud9climber · August 2010

Parenting issues - hands down.

kes3237 · August 2010

Sort of money and sort of responsibility lumped into one. DH is just super, super laid-back and I am much more rigid, so we don't exactly have the same standards when it comes to these things.

We also argue about DH working long hours but not as often.

JenLynn11 · August 2010

raisbaib:
How I feel he does nothing around the house to help, to which his reply is always I work in the heat all day and all you do it type. And the second would be money.

errr, I get t his too and it makes me want to PUNCH HIM!! Just because you are a laborer, doesnt mean that my job is stress free!!!

blushingbrideoct07 · August 2010

We do not fight too much and even when we do it never heated or anything. ?The one thing that we have trouble on but try our best to come to an agreement and always work through is spreading? our time equally among both families. ?Our calendar gets booked too quickly and due to living far away its hard to go to everything. ?We have to learn to say "Sorry but we cannot attend."

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ETA: Opps! ?Thought I was on 9-12.?