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Vent/concerns/question/help (Very Long)
This is my first time posting on this board. But i figured you guys might be the best to help me out.
My DH just graduated and is waiting to find out his order for the Air Force. Up until yesterday all we knew is that it was going to be fiscal year 2011 (Oct 1st). So we have just been waiting and both of us have been working just to make the time go by.
Yesterday my DH went in to talk to his colonel to see if anything else has come up. He said nope. My DH said that is fine but we would just like to find out something since I am due at the middle of December. His colonel was shocked to find out I was pregnant, and asked him why he didn?t tell him sooner. My DH said he told everyone else in the office and is shocked it didn?t get back to him. Well, his colonel said it is one of the conditions the air force has, since I am pregnant that means he should be able to get out as soon as possible and get his orders.
Well DH came home and told me all this. So we figured we would find something out with in the next few weeks. An hour after DH gets home; he gets an email with asking if this would work:
Be down in Alabama by 10/11/10
Be in California by 12/9/10
And Montana by 5/26/11
We started to freak out because now we have the dates.
The only major issue is that we will be driving to all of the places and we will be starting off in Wisconsin. So I will be driving across country when I am very pregnant and plus my due date is 12/11. And we are supposed to be reporting to California by 12/9. I have no clue what we are going to do. Our little one is going to be born on the side of the road somewhere in southern U.S.
I really don?t think that anyone has been through anything like this, but I need some of your ladies opinions. I am not sure what to do. This will be our first child. We are a young couple. We will have no family with us since they are all in Minnesota or Wisconsin. At this point I am extremely scared about what might happen. Any help or any advice would be great!!!
Thanks
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Re: Vent/concerns/question/help (Very Long)
I suggest that you pick a place and stay there. Most likely either Minnesota or Wisconsin with your family. Your DH has to go where he has to go, but once you get close to your due date, I suggest you pick somewhere and stay put. You can rejoin your DH a few weeks later after you've recovered.
It's not ideal, but neither is delivering your baby on the side of the road.
Agreed. I would just stay put at home and deliver close to your family. No doctor will allow you to make a road trip for that long that far into your pregnancy anyway. There are all sorts of things that can go wrong including blood clots.
Let's say you go on to Alabama with your H. You can't travel at all two days before your due date. A doc won't let you go further than an hour away from home. Riding in a car to go to the grocery store is so uncomfortable at that point, you wouldn't want to do a road trip anyway. Flying is out, too. You would have to deliver in Alabama with no husband or family. Not ideal.
Just throwing out senarios. I vote for staying put at home while he does the things he has to do. He can always hop on a plane to get to you.
What the first two posters said.
Your best bet if he has to do this will be to just stay with your family, and doctors, and give birth there. You can join him in CA after a few weeks, or even wait until he's in Montana in May so you don't have to move AGAIN with a new baby.
Good luck!
When can your DH separate from the Alabama duty station? For example, for our last PCS, DH had a "report no later than" date of January 25th, but he was able to separate from his previous duty station in mid December. If I could make it to the next duty station several weeks before my due date, I would go as long as I'd discussed it with my doctor.
Also, the email asked if those dates would work. Well, obviously they don't. Not if your pregnancy was the central reason the orders were cut right away in the first place. I know my DH would meet with the Colonel and try to work something out that would be mutually beneficial.
Agreed. We have a RNLT date of Sept 26, but we'll be there a few weeks before then. I also agree with letting them know your EXACT due date so they're aware of travel and docs. The AF is very good about being family-friendly. Just don't try to use that to get your own way all the time and "mess with the system" and you'll be fine. But, in this case, I suggest requesting different dates due to medical reasons. They'll probably accommodate you just fine in this instance. If not, I agree with staying put with your family. It's not ideal for YH to not be there for the birth, but it's a heck of a lot better than you delivering on the side of the road with no doc/medic in sight. Just sayin...
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DItto this
Thank you all for your responses. With DH not even being it the AF yet it is super hard trying to get this stuff figured out with out knowing how they system works.
You all are a great help!!
Just wanted to say we are stationed in MT and it is not as bad as some would make it out to be. Ditto the pp, you won't want to be travelling as your due date gets closer.
Good Luck