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*** Julie who is Jay's girl ***

redshoegirlredshoegirl member
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Hey hon, just wanted to check in and see how things are going with Ryan. Any improvement or still having a tough time?
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Re: *** Julie who is Jay's girl ***

  • jaysgirljuliejaysgirljulie member

    Hi Lisa, thanks so much for thinking about us! We are doing much better! I've realized that Ryan doesn't have reflux, colic, etc..., it's just the way he is. Dr Sears would call him a 'high needs' baby but I think that's crap. I say he is a 'Demanding' baby! He doesn't need, he wants and he demands it! He's doing good enough that we took him to Maui twice this past month. He did pretty good but I still had one of my co workers ask me if Ryan was crying for mommy or if he's always that fussy.

    Sometimes I get sad when I'm around other babies because Ryan is not like them, he is FAR more difficult. I need to learn to accept things the way they are because he is who he is. Most of the time he cries way less now, and usually we can figure out why. That beats the hell out of the hours upon hours of screaming for no apparent reason. This has helped my ppd too because that screaming really wore me down. I never let my happiness depend on a man before but this little man could make or break my day.

    Our days are not tramatic anymore and are pretty fun most of the day. He is a happy baby when things are done his way, and he smiles and laughs a lot now, fuel to make my heart to be happy :-)

    I LOVE your new siggy pic btw! You take some great pics.

    Did you have your talk yet w/MIL about stirring the pot when the pot is empty? lol

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    oh btw- he lets me wear him now !!! ( The first 3.5 months he would have a fit if I even tried to put him in the carrier. Now as long as he's facing out, he likes it. He doesn't like to stay in one place for long though so I'll be wearing him doing the dishes and dancing (if I don't dance he will cry), then he get tired of doing the dishes so we'll go fold laundry for a few minutes, when he's tired of that we'll find another chore to do. Then the cycle starts all over. Whatever, at least I don't feel like he's holding me hostage anymore!
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  • SanHawaii08SanHawaii08 member

    Hi Julie!  I've been meaning to send you a note - first, because I too, have been wondering how you're doing - I'm so glad that things are better with Ryan now!  That's such great news.  

    And also, I wanted to thank you for chiming in on my post about my BM drama - I remember how upsetting and difficult and worried you were about getting pg for fear of your friend's reaction, and it really helped me to read your perspective as someone who's gone through something similar.  I did end up deciding not to continue the friendship, and she wrote back with a response that is just so over-the-top unbelievable, I was completely speechless.  But I'm just going to let it go - that's her problem, not mine!  So thanks again Smile

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  • Married2MrWrightMarried2MrWright member

    Julie, I was wondering how things are going and I am happy to read that you're feeling stronger and that Ryan is doing better.  Kudos to you for accepting him as he is and not how you wished he could be...I find that I have to do that too, with Libby.  She definitely has a mind of her own, even at 2 or 4 or 6 months old and I am learning that I have to meet her where she is...and guide her as I may, but not impose upon her. She is her own person.  That said, it's fun discovering who these little people are, no?  Glad you're no longer feeling hostage...and that you've found some ways to cope with a "high needs" baby (whatever that means...I think all babies, on some level, have high needs).

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  • redshoegirlredshoegirl member

    I'm so glad things are going better! It sounds like you two are working things out (is that weird to say about a baby?)

    It can be so hard to work around their personalities...I know it's NOT the same situation, but it always made me a little sad that Will didn't like to be held when he went to sleep. Well, it's not so much that he disliked it, but he simply would NOT go to sleep if someone held him. So I never got to rock him to sleep or anything like that when he was really little (ironically, he's been super clingy for the last 1.5 weeks and sometimes won't go to sleep unless he's being held now!). Anyway, like I said, I know it's not the same thing at all, but it is hard sometimes to deal with their personalities when you'd like to do something, and you're doing your best, and they're like, "Nope! Not happening! We're doing things MY way."

    Anyway, I'm SO glad that things are better now! I think you're a great mama and he's a gorgeous little boy. Smile

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