What excuse do you use?

RunningGal900 · August 2010

For not drinking with friends.

I have two girls' nights with different girls coming up and DH and I have agreed not to tell anyone other than parents until after the first ultrasound. I can almost guarantee they are all going to notice when I turn down the wine for sparkling water. I think one group is going to ask me about it more agressively than the other. Just wondering what other people have been saying?

Scout05 · August 2010

I'm a grown up and if I don't want to drink, I don't have to?

I just say, "no thanks," and order something else. If people wonder, they wonder. They're right, so who cares? I don't have to confirm right now if I don't want to.

kristajew · August 2010

RunningGal900:

For not drinking with friends.

I have two girls' nights with different girls coming up and DH and I have agreed not to tell anyone other than parents until after the first ultrasound. I can almost guarantee they are all going to notice when I turn down the wine for sparkling water. I think one group is going to ask me about it more agressively than the other. Just wondering what other people have been saying?

play the designated driver card.

Wildlandwife · August 2010

I've used - I drank a little too much last night and have a little hangover today so drinks don't sound good. That's always seemed to work.

I just had dinner with my family and mind you we are very open about everything, so after I told them this they still pressed me and said are you pregnant? I said no, if I was do you think I would have drank like that? They said maybe if you didn't know. I said I'm pretty positive that I'm not as the wench is about to show up. That shut them all up. Stick out tongue

kje120 · August 2010

We went out with friends and I went up to the bar and got a cranberry and soda so it at least appeared that I was drinking. Another day when we were hanging out at a friend's house and everyone but me had a beer in their hand I made some lame excuse about being really dehydrated and not feeling well.

Now I think I am just trying to avoid putting myself in the situations where I have to make something up because I suck at lying!

NatL · August 2010

I also do the cranberry & soda. I had a wedding this past weekend, and it worked really well!!

Joshsbabymomma · August 2010

I have been saying that I am on a diet that doesn't allow alcohol, cutting alcohol cuts a lot of calories... although when I start to gain weight instead of lose it...

LadyOntheGo08 · August 2010

I have already used the "I drank too much last night" card. Another one you can use is that you're on an anti-biotic (UTI, sinus infection, etc.) so you really can't drink. I will most likely be drinking cranberry & sprite a couple of times to mask my lack of alcohol intake before we go public with the big news at 12-13 weeks

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Hotomale · August 2010

I've had O'Douls poured in a glass, it's not bad. I know there's a little alcohol, but it's not much.

I have a work dinner next week and I plan to sip on the same glass of wine all night.

EDWHIP · August 2010

I'm not good at making up excuses. People see right through them. I like the idea of getting a cranberry and soda to make it look like a mixed drink!

nikki04vb · August 2010

If you're going to someone's house- bring your own drink (make it look like a mixed drink) and if you're at the bar go up to the bar and ask the bartender to make you something that looks like a mixed drink. You could also claim you're just getting over food poisoning... that worked for me for a while.

thatdisneygirl · August 2010

I say that I'm already tired and a glass of wine would just put me straight to sleep. The funny thing is, it's the truth! It's a double excuse because I can also use it when I duck out early to go home to bed.

MarshaBrady · August 2010

I went out for my friend's bday dinner last week. I ordered water and said it was b/c I had a migraine earlier and took medicine for it that I can't drink on. I said I really didn't want to miss the dinner, so I just bit the bullet and took the meds. No one even questioned it and I'm a big wine drinker.

JenWen3 · August 2010

One of my friends ordered a cranberry juice and just told everyone she was drinking cranberry and vodka. You have to be careful not to let anyone else order your drink for you though.

I recently survived a weekend away with friends and just said I didn't feel like drinking, which isn't unusual for me. I think they were suspecting something, but I don't care if they just suspect it. One friend knows about my m/c and would never say anything. She knows I'll share info when I'm ready.

KelinandKevin · August 2010

ambrandau2:

I'm a grown up and if I don't want to drink, I don't have to?

I just say, "no thanks," and order something else. If people wonder, they wonder. They're right, so who cares? I don't have to confirm right now if I don't want to.

This exactly. You don't owe them an explanation.

pghctwife · August 2010

Im a terrible liar so excuses wouldnt work for me. The people who would expect me to drink have been told anyhow!

Right before we told my whole family, we met my sister and her BF out for a drink though. I just got there before them and asked for a martini glass with an n/s mixture in it. WOrked like a charm! ANd you can go back to the same bartender and just ask for another

RunningGal900 · August 2010

We have a wedding which I'm not worried about because my soda water will look just like a vodka soda or vodka tonic or whatever. I'm more concerned about going over to my friend's house because I was just there and when I turned down the wine, she asked me point blank are you pregnant. I lied considering I was only 4 weeks exactly and hadn't told anyone at that point, she's just so aggressive about it and I'm a terrible liar.

ailidespain · August 2010

ambrandau2:
I'm a grown up and if I don't want to drink, I don't have to?

I just say, "no thanks," and order something else. If people wonder, they wonder. They're right, so who cares? I don't have to confirm right now if I don't want to.

EXACTLY!

DaniStg · August 2010

During a recent ball tournament, I washed out some old cooler and beer cans. Since we were camping I could easily go back to our campsite, poor pop in my cooler/ beer can and totally fool everyone into thinking I was drinking.

armandos_girl · August 2010

I'm not a big drinker in the first place, so nobody thinks much of it if I'm not drinking. Especially if DH is drinking, I just say I'm driving home.

a&j111006 · August 2010

I have a few girls' nights coming up and I've already laid the groundwork by telling a few friends that I'm on an antibiotic for a sinus infection. I figured that would keep me safe for about 10 days. I'm a big wine drinker so everyone will ask why I'm not having my usual glass of chardonnay.

luvdv8 · August 2010

Last PG I told everyone I was doing a two month detox cleanse- it also works for why you aren't eating anything you normally do or smoking. By the time everyone started to catch on we were in second trimester and sharing the good news.

sheyscorona · August 2010

Most of my friends/family know... so this isnt a problem. But I like the anti-biotic excuse and the drink that looks like a mixed drink....

"Ill have a Rum and Coke, hold the rum" lol.

I was also a smoker and wino so, everyone knew right away something was up when I stopped bringing wine to the bbq's

MamabirdtoBe · August 2010

I'm dreading this! I am known to put down some serious wine, so I have no idea how I'll play it off. My friends know me so well, that I think they'll immediately know.

DucatiLeah · August 2010

I've tried a few, mostly with success. Ordering a drink directly from the bar that's just a mixer has worked the best, but it's still hard to avoid the rounds of shots at a party... I used the "I drank too much" one as well, and that helped. Lately I've used the "I've been so busy lately, a drink now will put me to sleep" successfully. After our first u/s, we'll finally be able to just be honest, and that will be so much easier! It's hard when you normally like a glass of wine or beer!

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