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Yesterday was supposed to be our TPR but
We were excited for Monday and the TPR and placement ceremony, but on Sunday birthmom decided that she wanted our baby boy back. She went about it in an immature and very unplanned way which made our heart break even worse. Yesterday we drove him to the agency where we met with her and were able to say our peace about it. It has been 4 weeks that he was in our home.
The dishonesty and lack of compassion she showed just make the devastation we feel worse. She is very unprepared to parent so I pray that someone is there to help her..to help him. We miss him so terribly but we have great support in each other and our family and friends. Please keep him in your prayers. One of the social workers at the agency did say something that stuck with me - it's not providing me complete comfort but it helps. She said that although the situation seems dim we have to keep praying that the God we introduced him to is there with him still because there is nowhere that God can't go.
I just can't believe this happened this way - just seems like another big slap in the face on our journey to have a family. Every step we say well, that was the hardest thing we've had to do but harder things just keep coming to us. But we still want a family so I guess we must continue to move forward and know that God will continue to give us the strength we need. But for now, I may just throw my head under the covers.
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Re: Yesterday was supposed to be our TPR but
oh my gosh, I feel just sick for you. I cannot believe it. I will NEVER understand why states allow adoptive families to have a child in their home for such a significant period of time and then allow them to be removed.
I am so so so so sorry. I cannot imagine what you are going through.
I am so very sorry. You are in my thought and prayers.
THIS. I am so incredibly sorry this happened to you. Yes it's true that God is with the baby wherever he goes, but your grief and shock are true too. I'm praying for all involved.
I am so terribly sorry for your loss. I can't imagine having to go through that. I'll keep you and him in my thoughts and prayers.
Take care.
I completely agree. That is way too long to have a baby with you while the BM can change her mind.
I'm so sorry and will be praying for you.
this i'm so sorry i can not understand how you can have a baby for one month and they can allow the baby to be taken away.
Oh no! I am so sorry for your loss! I remember you were so close to your 30-days, I'm just in complete shock! I just cannot imagine! State's with 30-day TPR really need to think about the repurcussions to all parties involved, because this just isn't right.
You are in my thoughts.
TTC since May 2006. After 3 failed Clomid cycles, 2 failed Injectibles/IUIs, 2 failed IVFs and 1 failed FET, we moved on to adoption!
Last ditch FET resulted in BFP, and identical twin girls!
I am so so sorry and am heartbroken for you...reading this. We lost our baby girl at 6 months back to birth parents....so I know kinda of what you are going through.
there are no words. I am just so sorry. I never wanted to hear anyone else go through this themselves.
Please PM me if you ever want to talk more...
We have had our little one for 10months and they told us yesterday she will most likely go back to her parents in Dec. She was placed with us as pre adoptive family. The hardest part is knowing she will be leaving in Dec. This is going to be unbelievable hard for us it already is...I am so sorry for you to go so far only to have this happen to you. good luck with your journey.