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And now my parents add to my nightmare

luckymrs.luckymrs.
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As if life wasn't sucking enough, my mom did something really crappy last week, and my dad told me to "drop it!" literally about 10 seconds after my mom announced the sh*tty thing she did, and I opened my mouth to question it.

We've been trying to work through it, but my dad just made HUGE steps backwards during our conversation.  The last thing he said was that when you get to be their age you've lived through a lot of horrible things.  I said, "or even at our age.  The last 8 months have been a nightmare."  To which he said, "that's nothing."  I said, "do you want to rethink that comment before you make it?"  He said, "No,  It's been nothing."

I then announced the call was over, hung up on him, and went sobbing to DH.  

Really?  Can you be ANY more insensitive?  Cause blaming me being upset about the crappy thing my mom did to us on "my hormones being out of whack?"  Yeah, that wasn't enough.

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  • BrilaneaBrilanea member
    so sorry! Family is...ugh family sometimes :(

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  • megstarwsumegstarwsu
    I'm so sorry.  Family can just be so horrible sometimes when they don't think before they talk.
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  • jerriesgirljerriesgirl
    Wow, that was a horrible thing to say.  Family is something else.
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  • ravenorchidravenorchid
    What an awful thing to say! I can't believe you have to deal with that on top of everything.
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  • EclairAngstEclairAngst
    Indifferent  People are unbelievable sometimes.  I'm so sorry your parents are behaving that way. 
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    My God, that's horrid. HORRID... Big big hugs to you! 

     

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  • luckymrs.luckymrs.

    Thank you ladies.

    My dad refuses to apologize, and my mom is backing him.  They contend he said nothing wrong--that I misunderstood what he meant.  Umm, how??!  We agree on what he said.  

    Unreal.

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  • camdenfaithfulcamdenfaithful
    Indifferent  That is unbelievable.  Did he try and say what he actually meant?  I mean to me it's pretty clear what he said was sh!tty but I'm curious to hear what he thought he was saying.
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  • luckymrs.luckymrs.
    According to my mom (my dad wouldn't talk to me to explain it), he meant that "things could always be worse".  (although that's not what he said--at all).  And really?  Even if that's the case (undoubtedly so), do you tell someone (your daughter) that who just lost her child a month ago (along with a list of other crappy stuff this year)?  And then defend saying it?
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  • camdenfaithfulcamdenfaithful

    Saying "things could be worse" is what you say when you have a fender bender.  It is NOT what you say to someone in your situation.

    I'm really sorry.

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