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Difficult to have joy...
...when I'm puking it all out of my system...
I'm on the zofran but yesterday & today it's like it's escaping me.
my hormones are on crack so when I'm not hugging the toilet or crying like a baby on the floor, I'm snapping at mh.
then I start feeling guilty because my family members tell me if I'm like this my baby will suffer. But I read m/s doesn't affect the baby usually.
don't get me wrong. Mh & I planned this pregnancy & I know I love lucky charms... But sometimes it's difficult to keep everything in perspective when I'm feeling so horrible. I suppose that's what motherhood is about anyway.... Sacrifice...
can I just say, I have a newfound respect for my gma, mom, & sister...
I'm on the zofran but yesterday & today it's like it's escaping me.
my hormones are on crack so when I'm not hugging the toilet or crying like a baby on the floor, I'm snapping at mh.
then I start feeling guilty because my family members tell me if I'm like this my baby will suffer. But I read m/s doesn't affect the baby usually.
don't get me wrong. Mh & I planned this pregnancy & I know I love lucky charms... But sometimes it's difficult to keep everything in perspective when I'm feeling so horrible. I suppose that's what motherhood is about anyway.... Sacrifice...
can I just say, I have a newfound respect for my gma, mom, & sister...
D started out as a LUCKY CHARM but ended up being our LOVEBUG 
hawaii 10.2008 plan ;P married bio ???
hawaii 10.2008 plan ;P married bio ???
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Re: Difficult to have joy...
Ohhhh hon...I've been there, trust me.
The conclusion I eventually reached is that some women enjoy being pregnant...and some don't. It doesn't mean that those of us who don't love the experience (generally because we have a rough time and ESPECIALLY in the first trimester!) don't love or deserve our babies. I think the pressure to be the perpetually happy, glowing pregnant woman is a bit silly and guilt-inducing. It's worth it in the end, but that doesn't mean you have to love every nauseated moment or feel guilty because you don't.
Oh, and don't believe for one second that your baby will suffer if you don't have a good attitude about being perpetually nauseated lol! The only time it's a problem is if you get EXTREMELY dehydrated or lose a dramatic amount of weight off your already-tiny frame (by which point you'd be hospitalized and on an IV anyway). So tell 'em to stfu because you don't need the extra negativity.
I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's reminding me of those times I went through when I told MH that this is gonna be the only kid we'll have because I can't stand going through this again. I know how horrible it feels =(
Have you tried going to the hospital/medical center to get IV infusion? I had to do it 3 times a week (every other day) and it really helps. The weight that we lose due to m/s won't affect the baby but dehydration will, so it's important to get hydrated if you're not keeping down any fluids at all (which was my case). The best thing about IV is that since you're not putting the liquids through your mouth/down to your stomach, you can't throw it up, so your body retains those fluids and I feel a lot better each time I go (the first time I did it, I puked on the way home since I tended to puke whenever I'm lying still in bed). But after a few times, I felt like the IV hydration helped me feel better.
How much Zofran are you taking a day? Are you taking it in the middle of the night too? At my worst, I was taking it every 3-4 hours, even in the middle of the night. I couldn't handle missing a dose, and the nausea would wake me up in the middle of the night, prompting me to take another dose when I would've otherwise slept through it if I could.
Don't feel guilty and just worry about taking care of yourself and feeling better. It's so hard to do it when you're going through it, but just hang in there and do what you got to do to feel better. Lots of hugs your way.
lisa: your reply made me cry. i think you hit on a lot of what i was feeling. when i'm more coherent i'll be able to post something that makes sense. but seriously, your reply made me cry.... in a good way... i was stayigng at my mom's today because the hubbs went to a baseball game. and there i was clutching the toilet and crying. and my mom comes in and asks "are you throwing up?" and i'm in no mood to answer because, i'm thinking "no, i just missed the toilet so much i'm crying." so i remain silent. and thenn she says "i don't know why you don't want to talk to me." ugh.
inamra: i'm on 4 mg every 6 hours- not to exceed 3 times a day. i have to call the dr. to see if i can up the dosage to ever 4 hours. i actually did tell mh that if being pg is like this, i don't want to go through it again. but then i read that no pg is the same blah blah blah. i'm not sure about the hydration. it honestly sounds very good to me. but i'll see how the rest of today and tomorrow go. i just started chewing on ice chips about 10 minutes ago to rehydrate, and my stomach is feeling quesy all over again. not a good sign... =/
thank you guys so much for your words of wisdom.
hawaii 10.2008 plan ;P married bio ???
Oh yeah, I remember this. MH would keep asking if I'm reading to drink anything or eat anything...or if I was okay. But I'd just be closing my eyes and waving no at him because the feeling so so horribly overwhelming that I couldn't even open my mouth to talk/answer him. In the beginning, he kept on asking me why I wasn't answering him until I mustered enough strength to tell him that I couldn't physically talk when I'm feeling that bad, so he understood from that point on if I didn't respond to his questions.
Yeah, the thing about getting the IV hydration was that after the first time (where I puked), if I did it regularly, I would actually be able to hold down some fluids afterwards (but not much else after that, but at least I would be able to hold down something!). Something about your body getting hydrated I think helps. So that's why I got it every other day. I think it eventually helped me cope with it.
I totally hear ya on reading how every pg isn't the same, etc etc. Honestly, I remember that getting pg again was the last thing I wanted to think about during that time. Just do whatever you need to do to be as comfortable as you can during this time and I hope it passes soon!
I had a beautiful pregnancy with Bella and I enjoyed every.single.minute... this time, not so much. I am sick! Not puking like you but SO nauseous that I have a hard time eating or drinking anything. Any time I think about food it gets worse and any time I eat, I get MORE nauseous! It's awful! I really want to have 4 kids but told Ryan yesterday that if this keeps up then there's no way I can go through it 2 more times after this!
We also planned this pregnancy but it is hard to keep it all in perspective when you are feeling awful. I keep reminding myself that the all day sickness is reminding me that the baby is in there growing and to just do what I can to get through. Because I had the m/c in April I think I welcome the sickness a tiny bit just because it's a reminder that they baby is ok, sick and twisted to think that but it's true.
I'm so sorry that you're sick and hoping that by the time you hit second tri you'll be all better!! People have said to me too the "oh it's JUST morning sickness"... seriously makes me wanna punch them in the face, they have NO idea!! Maybe your mom/gma just have forgotten what it's like!
inamra: i called the doctor last night. she had me check my heartbeat. since it was still okay, i just stayed home. i just fell asleep afterwards and it helped out a lot. but i just had my breakfast and i'm already eh. oh but the doctor gave me the okay to up my dosage. but i think the zofran has a side effect of being.. ummm blocked up elsewhere? hehehe ugh. so i got problems on both ends! boooooooooo......
sarah: yeah it sucks! i actually had a full d&c and other things done back in april and i was scared that it would affect my chances of getting pg. so i'm pretty amazed that this happened so fast. that's why we think it's my gma's legacy baby. but it's super painful. just 3-4 more weeks and i'll be in my 2nd trimester... i'm praying HARD!
i really appreciate hearing all this. it helps to know i'm not alone...
hawaii 10.2008 plan ;P married bio ???
I can't remember why but my anatomy teacher said that it's a good, good thing when a women has bad morning sickness during her pregnancy, means a healthy LO. I wish I could remember how she explained it because it made perfect sense.
Although I felt incrediable during my pregnancy, I felt horrible afterwards as you know. Maybe we all have to pay our dues and your paying yours now
Anyway, I hope you start feeling better very soon! *hugs*
I just googled this and found that they think m/s may be caused by the hormones produced by healthy placenta tissue (so I guess a lot of m/s means a lot of healthy placenta tissue?). There have been studies that show that those with m/s were far less likely to have a miscarriage. Also, some believe that m/s is your body's way of protecting your LO from things that may be bad for the baby.
https://pregnancyandbaby.sheknows.com/pregnancy/baby/Morning-sickness--a-good-thing-1021.htm
https://ezinearticles.com/?Is-Morning-Sickness-a-Good-Thing?&id=1174744
I'm mostly a lurker here since I'm not TTC yet, so I can't relate as well as others can, but I hope you feel better soon!
Oh yeah...heh, I almost forgot about that! Although, I thought I was blocked up because I wasn't retaining any fluids and because I couldn't eat anything. I remember going for a week without anything but since I wasn't keeping anything in at all, I figured there wasn't anything that was gonna come out!
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