Hmmmm, hesitant to join the Bump community...

newife · August 2010

I guess I'll need to feel it out...but I just posted my first post...and probably didn't post it in the right place, and felt like I got some snooty responses...it brought back some memories from The Knot (6 years ago) and I realized....hmmmm, maybe I don't want to participate if it's going to be a bunch of caddy (sp?) girls hyped up on hormones, comparing their pregnancies...that's WORSE than the knot. Guess I'll find out soon enough...hope I am not offending anyone...take it for what it's worth.

mrsz2008 · August 2010

Really, you thought those were harsh?

Yikes.

Dr.Loretta · August 2010

catty It's important to lurk, especially on certain boards that are particularly tight or particularly snarky. If you don't like it, you don't have to participate.

DefiantRose · August 2010

Check out the monthly boards. There really are friendly people around. I've posted some on the 1st Tri board, its a hit or miss sometimes, but mostly really friendly there as well. But I've never had any problems/seen any problems in my month board.

eowynmn · August 2010

I suggest quitting the bump now while you're behind, and not completely internet annihilated.

musicalkatie · August 2010

I have also gotten extremely snarky, rude, defensive and counterproductive comments on posts.

I don't know what to tell you. I've been debating the same things. Goodluck!

bahamama10 · August 2010

There are DEF some rude catty people on here, But I actually learn a lot from some of the posts, it helps to know that I'm not the only one going through something.. I mostly just read posts and IF I comment I say my piece and give my opinion in the most neutral way possible, unless some posters seem to be ganging up on someone else, my MAMA bear instinct comes into play, I just can't stand to see any one being picked on!

jferring · August 2010

I have been trying to figure out how to post a comment on a thread. I feel pretty lame but the only thing I can see is to reply to the pp and it seems like it's going to repost their entry too. I have been lurking for quite awhile but I have never posted.

megan4804 · August 2010

I mostly lurk and read advice - reading these treads have been more helpful to me in the past few months and I only say something on a board or topic I feel confident and comfortable enough talking about. It's been a couple months, but I have finally started opening up a little more. I'm open to new friends and ladies that share the same issues I do! Just give it time... and if you still don't like it in a month or so, decide then. Don't just give up, buttercup! (:

Dr.Loretta · August 2010

jferring:
I have been trying to figure out how to post a comment on a thread. I feel pretty lame but the only thing I can see is to reply to the pp and it seems like it's going to repost their entry too. I have been lurking for quite awhile but I have never posted.

To post a reply to a thread, hit Reply under the first post.

If it's reposting someone else's entry too, you've hit the Quote button intead.

*Mandi10* · August 2010

im just confused... i didnt know that when you posted a blog you had certain places you needed to put it. I'm new to the bump and i guess its safe to say i have no clue what i'm doing. where can i go to find out information. i was wondering y no one commented on my post

Scout05 · August 2010

musicalkatie:

I have also gotten extremely snarky, rude, defensive and counterproductive comments on posts.

I don't know what to tell you. I've been debating the same things. Goodluck!

Since this was your first post, I fail to see how that is possible.

But nice try.

MicahAnn · August 2010

I don't always take people being rude very well and I've come across this a lot on thebump but I have reminded myself over and over again that these people are internet strangers and when they are rude (or mean) I don't take it to heart. Some people will never outgrow being in middle school/high school and being the mean girl or maybe it is that they were the ones that girls were mean to in school so now that they are typing something on the internet and not face to face, they feel like they can say anything they want. I will second what someone else said, lurk lurk and lurk before posting b/c it allows you to get a feel before posting plus try out your month board.

If what they said to you on that post hurt your feelings, the bump may not be for you. I hope you find a place where you do fit in, I have for the most part really enjoyed my time on the bump.

MamaPosh · August 2010

Wow I totally agree! I was attacked on a board for venting in my 2nd trimester about gaining too much weight and crying because I couldn't afford some designer shoes I seen for the baby on the internet. LOL I was like really? Don't most people feel this way? And why are people angry that I feel this way. So of course I didn't take nicely to the people who attacked my post and made fun of my babys name!! (GASP! That should be illegal! LOL) And when I replied, other people from the board who were friends with the poeple attacked me also!! Telling me I was on the wrong board, etc. It was like elementary school all over again! So I apologized for venting on their board and said I would find another board and called them petty for wanting to kick me off their board and they are still posting rude stuff! It was funny at first but after a while I wanted to meet up with them and beat them up (36 weeks pregnant! LOL!) Don't worry just get yourself a blog or find a board that mirrors what you're going through in your life right now. (I post on blended families..) And ignore the pissy people. I'll be your friend girl LOL

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