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Nasty
Hi All,
My husband and I have been married for a little over a year and are beginning to talk about trying to conceive in the new year. We are just waiting find out if we are moving interstate for his work or not.
I was excited to join The Bump so I could speak with others who are facing similar situations and share experiences. This was until I read a few of the message boards and realised how cruel some people can be. Personal attacks on posters, plain rude comments and general nastiness.
But why? What is the point?
I wanted to share an exciting time with others, like all the users here. Clearly, this post will probably end up ignored or hated on, but at least I have said my piece.
*steps off soapbox*
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Re: Nasty
::lurking::...
If you introduce yourself on an appropriate board, share, offer support, post, etc., you will find that many ladies are great. If someone acts like a douche, they are always called out on it.
Don't shy away from posting just because of a few negative comments.
ETA: Posts about meanie-head posters are usually not very well received... just a heads up.
This!
Haha I figured that wouldn't be received well, but I have lurked for a while now and it makes me really upset to see stuff. I try not to make 'soapboxing' a habit
I just saw one particular post that really made me rethink if I wanted to post about my experiences. Anyway, comments appreciated and will definitely try to find the right kind of thing I am looking for, be it on The Bump or another site.
Thanks ladies.
I hear ya. It seems like for the most part, most of the ladies are really nice! But then again there are a few folks who try to make you feel bad or just want to be rotten. The conclusion I've come to is to just ignore it and that it's part of posting - if we don't like it then we don't have to read it.
On the other hand, the other conclusion I've come to is that it's unfortunate that there are people who really have nothing better to do than to respond to every post with nastiness. Hopefully they will find a better hobby soon!
Just my two cents - I'm still excited to be here!
This
8/25/10
i kind of agree with all of this both good and bad, it has taken me months to comment on anything and while i don't really know the proper etiquette or if my own comments are well received i have to say i have had a few comments on my own posts that kind of surprised me. opinions are one thing every one is entitled and we ask for it by posting at all, but there is a limit to how rude you should be to some one who is obviously seeking comfort or advice and not a public stoning
i think some people forget that maybe not everyone is as savvy at this as they are. anyway good luck !
I'm new too and have only recently started opening up. I post on "Babies on the Brain" and "Trying to Get Pregnant" and so far everyone has been very nice and supportive. I make sure to lurk a lot so I get to know the "feel" of the board and to get to know the posters a bit better.
I have seen some nasty comments but honestly they are usually only in response to silly questions. Obviously if you go on the "Trying to Get Pregnant" board and announce a pregnancy as your first post you are going to get some rude comments because that's inappropriate and inconsiderate. Use common sense and you will be absolutely fine. Don't be scared