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Who cares if your kids name match?

Reading posts below make me scratch my head and say who cares if or if not my kids name match. IMO if you like a name use it! This is in direct response to the person who has one child named Madeline and wants to name another girl Estelle. IMO they sound very cute together as they are both older names. However, I don't see a reason why your names have to "match" as a poster replied to this message. Is anyone else with me on this? Your kids are separate people that will have separate lives, right?

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  • My kid is Sullivan and I plan on the next one being Tuesday if it's a girl.  Match?  Hell no.  Do I care if people on a forum think it matches?  Even less.
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  • I think it only really matters if it matters to the parents.  They're your kids, you have to introduce them and talk about them as a collective.  "These are my kids Jane and Joe," or whatever.
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    I am glad I am not the only one who thinks this way! Great minds think alike!

  • I must be in the minority, because I really, really care.  My daughter is Clara, so I feel like I have to use another old-fashioned/classic name for my next child (good thing those are the ones I prefer)  To each their own, but that's just me.  This baby is going to be Elisabeth or William.  I can't imagine having a Clara and then giving my next child some really trendy name.

    For example, I have a friend whose first daughter is named Trinitee (yes, with that tragic spelling)  Trinitee's baby sister is Agatha.  I don't know...they just don't "go" together for me, but they're not my kids.   

  • I can honestly say I didn't think too much about this when naming my boys. It was very low down on the list of considerations. I was more concerned with just finding a name DH and I could both agree on. I do think, though, that it usually happens naturally that the styles match.

    I guess you could say Logan and Jacob are a bit of a different naming style, although not too drastic. I would have preferred it to be Logan and Patrick, but ya know, it's all about compromise. ;)

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  • imageHeidisean:
    Reading posts below make me scratch my head and say who cares if or if not my kids name match. IMO if you like a name use it! This is in direct response to the person who has one child named Madeline and wants to name another girl Estelle. IMO they sound very cute together as they are both older names. However, I don't see a reason why your names have to "match" as a poster replied to this message. Is anyone else with me on this? Your kids are separate people that will have separate lives, right?

    Since I'm the one that posted the comment about matching sibling names, perhaps I should be the one to answer--if you're going to deliberately call someone out, why not just use my screenname and make it personal?

    "Who cares?" Clearly, I do. I care very much whether the names I choose for my children match one another. While I don't think they should all start with the same letter, end with similar sounds, or all contain my initials (heaven forbid), I like them to be of similar length and style--classic with classic, modern with modern.

    The decision to have names of matching style has nothing to do with my child's future life as an individual. Of course all of my children will be individuals. I could have an Agatha that loves hard rock music and wants to be a professional body builder--does that name seem to make sense for her? No, not really, but how could I have known her likes/dislikes before she was even born? We (the collective) all choose the names we like, in many cases regardless of our child's feelings and/or future personality. If baby naming was all about naming them as individuals, we wouldn't have a familiar term like "sibling set," or the diminutive, "sibset."

    The OP of the other thread asked for opinions from board readers; I gave mine. It is my opinion that sibling names should match. If every other response said Estella and Madeline were a perfect match, that's perfectly fine, because that's an opinion, too. I would hardly expect that we all classify names the same way, either. In the end, the OP will choose the name she loves the most, most likely without taking into account my personal opinion. You're welcome to do the same. But, please, remember an opinion is just that--you don't have to agree with me.


     

     

  • While I don't like matchy-matchy names in the least (themes, or each child starting with the same letter- gag), I do think its weird when siblings names are completely different from each other. I have a friend whose boys' are named Javier and Aiden. Talk about a head scratcher. I think the Agatha/Trinitee combo is equally as strange.

    So, no I don't think names have to match, but I can see why people like their sibling sets to have similar styles.


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  • I care very much.

    Elizabeth had to be one of our names (DH & I had reasons). DH loved Payton for a girl (me? Eh. It was Ok). But I see no way you can pair a classic, beautiful name with a trendy, uni-sex name. Just--no way.

    I agree with Strangebird & everyone else.

    And how immature to call someone out.  

  • I agree. If I take a name poll, I don't pay any attention to the siblings' names.
  • I agree I'm not putting to much thought into making my kids names "match." Honestly, when people tell me the names of their children I don't think to myself those names match or don't match.

    It's hard enough to choose a name you and DH like much less if they "match" well enough.

  • I know some parents who had three boys and named them all after gun brands... Remington, Browning, and Weatherby.  So, I think that's pretty wrong.  I think most people are just trying to get some ideas for names and want to know if other people have some ideas that fit into their style, based off of their other children's names. 

    Another strange naming of siblings... my grandmother's plumber named his daughter Piper.  Their next child, boy or girl, they want to name Copper.  And a third girl?  Penny.  He even said himself : Piper Copper Penny, and then he chuckled.  How ridiculous.

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  • Wow. I think this whole thing was really rude! Just because you don't agree with someone's opinion doesn't mean you should come back and post poo-pooing it. Their opinion is just as important and valid as yours.

    I like old, classic names with a Southern sound to them, but DH wanted to name our DD Lily really badly, so we compromised and named her Lillian so that our future kids' names can match. I think it matters a lot.

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    imagebraveangel2:

    I am glad I am not the only one who thinks this way! Great minds think alike!

    This, especially the bold part, smacks of arrogance. It just makes the whole thign worse, IMO.

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    imageHeidisean:
    imagebraveangel2:

    I am glad I am not the only one who thinks this way! Great minds think alike!

    This, especially the bold part, smacks of arrogance. It just makes the whole thign worse, IMO.

    Wait, me with the link or just the response? I'm going to bet no one bothered to read my response in the original, and much nicer, post, but I didn't say I agreed or disagreed or thought pigs should be painted blue. The whole point of posting the link was that it had just been talked about the day before. When did this turn into a fight?

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  • Put it this way: nobody gets confused about why somebody would want a middle name to flow well with a first name. It's just understood that people want the two names to go nicely together.... even though very, very, very rarely is the kid ever going to be called by both names.

    Same goes for sibling names. You probably won't go through life saying, "These are my sons, Henry and Brayden" multiple times a day... but it's still logical that you'd want the names to "match" to some degree when they ARE said together.

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    imagebraveangel2:

    I am glad I am not the only one who thinks this way! Great minds think alike!

    This, especially the bold part, smacks of arrogance. It just makes the whole thign worse, IMO.

    Wait, me with the link or just the response? I'm going to bet no one bothered to read my response in the original, and much nicer, post, but I didn't say I agreed or disagreed or thought pigs should be painted blue. The whole point of posting the link was that it had just been talked about the day before. When did this turn into a fight?

    Sorry, I think I phrased that badly. You did nothing wrong. It bothered me that the OP said "great minds think alike," like everyone who said they want their kids names to match was wrong and only her opinion was any good. I just think this whole thread was bad. Very antagonistic.

  • WHOA!!!! This was not to call out one person (my response was to the poster not the person who commented if you read what I posted)...I see this in many of the posts about names and just used one example from a recent post. So, step back girls! This is said often and was even said to me when I wanted to name my 2nd girl Guiliana. I was told it was too matchy to Giada. So, it actually is said both ways. People either comment that they are too matchy or who cares if they match. This is a post to see WHO REALLY CARES if they match or not...don't take things personally!

  • I want to find something that flows well with Betty, because Betty IS such a retro name, I think it would be ridiculous to have one kid named Betty and one with a really modern name. It just doesn't sound right, it looks bipolar on our parts!
  • Oh okay...thanks for responsding and clearing that up. And yeah there are nicer ways OP could have stated her opinion. She's posted on here before, and I've seen her around the Bump, and from what I remember she's been okay...or maybe I'm thinking of my awesome self Stick out tongue hopefully it was just a random bad day or something, because to call out strangebird like that was weak and caused some unnecessary anger.
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    WHOA!!!! This was not to call out one person (my response was to the poster not the person who commented if you read what I posted)...I see this in many of the posts about names and just used one example from a recent post. So, step back girls! This is said often and was even said to me when I wanted to name my 2nd girl Guiliana. I was told it was too matchy to Giada. So, it actually is said both ways. People either comment that they are too matchy or who cares if they match. This is a post to see WHO REALLY CARES if they match or not...don't take things personally!

    After reading the above, I went back and read your original post. With clarification, I guess I can see that you might have meant this as a general inquiry, but I think your phraseology was very poor indeed. The phrase "who cares," is generally accepted in America to mean "why care?" and pretty blatantly contradicts what you said above. 

    In your original post you said:

    imageHeidisean:

    This is in direct response to the person who has one child named Madeline and wants to name another girl Estelle.

    But then promptly contradicted that with:

    imageHeidisean:

    However, I don't see a reason why your names have to "match" as a poster replied to this message. Is anyone else with me on this? Your kids are separate people that will have separate lives, right?

     

    Which seems pretty inflammatory. Whenever you specify an individual person's opinion, whether mentioning that person by name or not, it's going to come across as an attack. I was the only one who mentioned the two names matching/not matching, so I naturally assumed you were taking me to task for having and sharing that opinion. Further, it sounded as though you were mustering an army to defend you, too (see Italics).

    I'd be lying if I said I wasn't a bit offended by your post. I thought it was really rude and unbelievably childish, because it seemed to be directed, not at the previous OP, but directly at me for daring to say that two names were poorly matched--and clearly, I wasn't the only person who read it that way.

    Since that is not what you apparently intended, I'm sorry this whole thing was blown out of proportion.

     


     

     

  • Since you're just looking to see who cares and who doesn't, I'll throw in my two cents that I care. Stick out tongue

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    I think parents are trying to avoid "head scratchers" in the future.... Imagine standing at the playground and calling Matthew, Christopher, and Xanadu..... seems weird to me if they are of totally different styles.

    ETA: but I definitely don't like when siblings names are "too matchy" like Rosemary, Sage, and Basil or Daisy, Rose, and Iris. That's taking it too far.

     I once met triplets named, Nadia, Natasha and Ashley. The Ashley was a head scratcher for me...So I can see why. It matters to me a bit since me, DH and LO all start with a "K" sound...So im thinking it would be weird to have another child start with a different sound.

    I also don't like "too matchy" names either since I knew sisters all named Summer, Wynter, Autumn, and June. Moms name was Mae and Dad was August. Last name was Spring.

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    I must be in the minority, because I really, really care.  My daughter is Clara, so I feel like I have to use another old-fashioned/classic name for my next child (good thing those are the ones I prefer)  To each their own, but that's just me.  This baby is going to be Elisabeth or William.  I can't imagine having a Clara and then giving my next child some really trendy name.

    For example, I have a friend whose first daughter is named Trinitee (yes, with that tragic spelling)  Trinitee's baby sister is Agatha.  I don't know...they just don't "go" together for me, but they're not my kids.   

    I totally agree with this. I need the names to "work" together. Now I naturally think it's going to happen because we like older classic names, so we're unlikely to suddenly name our child Chaynnetah. So we won't have to try hard.

    Our little girl is Elizabeth. I happen to love Margaret, Anna, Jane, Cora, Harriet, James, George, Oscar, Oliver. So like I said they will naturally work together.

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  • I can see why people would like them to "go together". I do find the posts agonizing over it a bit odd myself. I don't mean go together as in rhyme or match, I just mean I like names that sound good together. Like Christopher and Nicholas go together. But Christopher and Jayden don't really. KWIM?
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    My kid is Sullivan and I plan on the next one being Tuesday if it's a girl.  Match?  Hell no.  Do I care if people on a forum think it matches?  Even less.

    Why Tuesday??  Just curious. 

  • I can see going with names that are similar style, but I personally wouldn't do "matchy" names. Having a theme, rhyming names, or names that all begin with the same letter is just NMS. Like someone else mentioned, if you have kids with names like Sara, Joseph, and then something completely random like Tallulah, then it just seems like the parents were on something when they named one of the children. 
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  • Actually, I do care about how names sound together and have nixed a few I like because they sound silly together. I don't want to tell someone "these are my daughters Amalia and Natalia." They rhyme, ick! If that doesn't matter to you, great, but it does matter to a lot of people.
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  • Well, I personally like names that go together. I don't necessarily want them to match, though... know what I mean? Like, I don't want Evan and Ethan; too matchy. I also wouldn't want Evan and Ulysses; to me, those are odd together because they are such different styles. Evan and Nicholas I would do, however, because they 'go together.' Some people don't care though, and thats fine. Its really a matter of personal opinion, nothing to call people out for. 

  • It matters to me that their names "fit," in a sense.

    I'd rather have a sibset of Harper, Leighton, Davis, and Avery than say, Arden, Allegra, Charlotte, and Penelope.


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