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Do you have an IF stopping point planned?
Just wondering if you all have discussed the "what ifs" with your DH? Have you discussed when or if you will stop trying? For example, I know some people dont want to do IVF...but I was wondering if you have decided, for example "We will try for X # of years"...or "We will try X # of IVF cycles" etc.
We are at the beginning of this journey...but being told to go straight to IVF w/ICSI makes me wonder about these things. I am already so emotionally overwhelmed and I havent even gone through a small percentage of what so many of you have gone through.
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Re: Do you have an IF stopping point planned?
I don't know. Right now I am kind of feeling over all of this and am not sure I am interested in doing another cycle if this one doesn't work. But the reality is that I will most likely get over that feeling and at the very least use whatever frozen embies I have left and will probably do IVF until we don't have coverage/can't afford it anymore.
I think you can't make such a prediction in advance really. Five years ago I never would have thought I would do IVF but here I am. When it hurts more to keep going then to feel like you gave up, that's when it is time to move on. Hopefully none of us will have to get to that point but I have definitely seen women on here who have and it is so incredibly sad. I cannot even comprehend the feeling of loss they must have.
I know this is a conversation I need to have with my DH but I just can't bring myself to do it. Having this conversation means moving towards accepting my life w/o kids for me and I just can't bring myself to do that yet.
I got pg on my first round of injectables. It ended in m/c but we hope it will work for us again. We have about two cycles before the end of the year. If we are not pg by then, we will be pursuing IVF. I don't know the # of IVF's we will do but I am praying it is not a road I have to travel.
If we are not pregnant after 3 rounds of IVF, we're done and will be kid-free. We are on cycle 22 and doing our 1st round of IVF.
If we had the resources to pay for IVF or had full medical coverage (we pay about $7k per IVF cycle), we might go farther, but we can't jeopardize our future (especially given today's financial climate) more than we already are.
Honestly, when DH & I first talked about it, having an end point helped me see that our life won't always be lived in 2 week incements. I hate, hate, hate, IF and I'm insanely jealous of women who get pregnant so damn easily. . . .I wouldn't wish this on anyone.
WE have been going through treatments for a year and are about to start our second IVF cycle. I told my husband that I needed some sort of end date. We know we will be parents some day. It just depends how we get there. I chose a tentative date of my 37th birthday next August. When we get to that date and see how we feel then. It will definately be a crossroads moment.
Christine
We were prepared to stop before IVF... until the doctor told us it was likely IVF was our only chance.
Now, once we get more testing done (since we're stuck because of lack of money with my being unemployed and being completely OOP) we'll probably move that way. I'm pretty sure we'd try to get into a shared risk program, either prepaying for two or doing the 6 cycle payment thing. After that, well... if it doens't work, we'll move towards adoption.
well, for me - my answer have changed over the course of medical treatments.
When we first started I thought I would go to the ends of the earth to get pregnant again. I figured if IUI was not successful, I would without question move to IVF.
But, now with 3 losses under my belt, my answer has changed.
Our only option right now is IVF with PGD, it adds a lot of stress and a lot of money. There is a good chance that I could go through the entire thing and not have one good embryo. No refund if I get crappy results fromt he pgd.
So, this might in fact be our stopping point. We are looking into adoption but MIGHT still do one ivf w/pgd.
If we do ivf with pgd, we are only doing one fresh cycle. We will freeze whatever we can and do fet.
So, I guess that would be our stopping point.
We really do not have the money for ivf with pgd, so if we decide to do that, we will have to find the money somewhere
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Yes, we've talked about it in theory - but, my approach to this has been to acknowledge that I can't know in advance how I'll feel each time I get that dreaded call that says it did not work this time. ?I actually used to feel like I was not the type to be able to go through all this - yet, here I am. ?I somehow find the reserves in me each time to get back on the proverbial horse. ?At this point, having had an ectopic naturally, (which was much harder for me than any failed cycle has been), a failed IUI, multiple failed natural cycles, a failed IVF, and a failed FET, and now a poor response this IVF cycle, I am getting to the point where I know I am winding down. ?But...as I said - I won't know in advance when to quit. ?I really believe the break cycles are emotionally necessary for me to keep perspective, so that's usually when I map out what comes next.
?We are moving in little steps toward adoption, but still hoping to be one of the lucky couples that IVF works for. ?I am also covered by insurance - which has a TON to do with my stamina in all of this. ?If we were not, I have to say we may not have gone this route. ?
DH is of the exact same mind as I am in all this - if I said 'I can't anymore ...I need life to move forward again, and to get out of this hellish holding pattern", he would immediately say "great - let's get going". ?That goes for whether or not we decide to adopt. ?I'm blessed in that I have a DH who simply wants us to be happy, and enjoy our life - and he can appreciate that vision with children in it, or without. ?So...that's a bridge we'll cross when we get to it.
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