DH is thinking about joining... advice please!

Re: DH is thinking about joining... advice please!

• car012906

  August 2010

  my husband was home schooled also and he was able to go active Marine Corps... i dont know if its the same for the AF. BUT he did have to take a bunch of extra test, including psychological test to go active... thats a long story in itself haha as for thoughts, advice, and insight... this is what i say to all the new military wives and the wives whose husband may be going in... DONT EXPECT THE NORMAL LIFE. your definition of normal will be turned upside down. dont expect to hear from your husband often and usually the first year they join you will more than likely not be together... you will experience a lot of separations but i will say this... THIS LIFE ISNT AN EASY LIFE, BUT IT'S VERY REWARDING. dont plan on things going the way YOU planned, rather it'll be the military deciding your final fate lol you will have one of the best moments in your life because of the military and moments where you are at the end of your rope... you will learn that youre stronger than you ever though. as for not being there for delivery it's a high chance especially since it's his first year of the first enlistment like i said they are gone A LOT and they dont have a lot of say since they are training... its hard im not going to lie but its POSSIBLE AND DOABLE many wives before you have done it. think really hard AS A COUPLE about this decision because it's going to be one of the biggest ones you will make since there's no going back from it. once he steps on the bus this is your life.

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• Lady Leigh member

  August 2010

  I suggest he waits til after you have that baby if your finances can handle that. As I am sure you want him there for the birth.

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• babyonthebrain2010

  August 2010

  my DH is also home schooled   and he is air force reserve, currently active duty... he joined 3.5 years ago, but his deployment is still coinciding with me being pregnant and he will miss our LOs birth and the first few months of his life... it's definitely hard I'd say if he can push off joining for a while that would probably be best... a deployment you don't have so much say in when it is, but with joining and going to boot camp you have more control so if I was you I'd want him to wait.. but you wouldn't be the first to do it "alone" so either way if you want him to join you guys have to decide what's best for you and your family.
  

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• janinaem

  August 2010

  car012906:

  my husband was home schooled also and he was able to go active Marine Corps... i dont know if its the same for the AF.

   

  the active AF used to accept GEDs, but changed their policy once the branch needed to start cutting numbers down.  

   if your DH is serious about the military but doesn't want to miss the birth, after he goes through MEPS and chooses a job have him discuss the dates with you before he signs any contracts.  They have the delayed enlistment program which is used for when people don't want to take a school slot right away or if there isn't one until a certain time.  even if he picks a job that has a long tech school, if the duration is over a certain amount the family can move out and live with the airmen while they're in training.
  

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• lizz_beth

  August 2010

  My husband got things going for the Army when I was 3 months and we were lucky enough that they ship him for Basic in October which means he'll be here for the birth and her first two months.

   

  Good luck and I hope you get as lucky as we did!

   

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