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How can someone be so dumb? And a wwyd

MominatorMominator
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Okay, so I use to work for company XYZ. Worked there for 6 years and then left to be a SAHM. Well, now that I am divorced, I am back at XYZ but as a Temp hoping to get hired for a full time, permanent position.

 

Back in 2003, I had an ?issue? with a supervisor in my department. I did not report directly to him, but he was at equal level with my supervisor. He made some extremely inappropriate comments to me and so I filed a grievance for sexual harassment and he pretty much never spoke to me again. He did keep his job and I willingly transferred out of that department, mostly to get away from him.

 

Fast forward to yesterday and I ran into him. I figured, 8 years have gone by, bygones and all that, so I said hello and he started making small talk with me. Next thing I know, he kind of sidles up next to me and makes some inappropriate comment about wanting to see my tattoos that I am not showing off (I had on a skirt so he could see the one on my ankle). Basically, he asked me if I had anymore and I said yes and his exact words were ?well, I can?t see them, how about you show them to me?, all the while looking me up and down. Totally gave me the creepers and I excused myself and got away as fast as I could.

 

So, what I am trying to figure out is, was what he said totally inappropriate or am I just uber sensitive because of past issues with him. Also, if it was in fact inappropriate, should I say anything to anyone? I am only just a temp right now and I don?t want to make waves if I don?t have to since I am trying to get a permanent full time job here. What do you think?

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  • r9stedtr9stedt
    Strange.  And you are looking rather hot these days.  ;)   Hoooowever, since he is is a supervisory position, that is highly in appropriate.  I would just avoid him at all costs right now.   Or something along the lines of "I don't feel that is appropriate talk for work" if he says soemthing again.
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  • kittycarrkittycarr
    I think you should try working for Company ABC rather than Company XYZ.  In cases of sexual harassment, you don't just let bygones be bygones, you take this issue with him seriously as though it just happened. Meaning that you steer clear of him as though this is a current issue rather than one that took place eight years ago.
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  • femmegemfemmegem member
    Totally inappropriate. Do what you're comfortable with, but it's completely inappropriate.
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  • MominatorMominator

    imagekittycarr:
    I think you should try working for Company ABC rather than Company XYZ.  In cases of sexual harassment, you don't just let bygones be bygones, you take this issue with him seriously as though it just happened. Meaning that you steer clear of him as though this is a current issue rather than one that took place eight years ago.

    Well, hopefully if I get the permanent job that I am going for I will be in a completely different city than this guy, so I'm keeping my fingers crossed that it goes through. I guess maybe I just thought after so many years that maybe I had overreacted the first time. Now I'm thinking not so much :(

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  • emilykristene2006emilykristene2006 member

    You just need to be on your toes when he's around. If he says something inappropriate, have a comeback. Is he married? If he is I would say, "I don't think your wife would like that." If he's not, "I would let him know that you will not put up with him being inappropriate.

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  • kittycarrkittycarr

    Gotcha. 

    Just avoid him at all costs.  If he approaches you unexpectedly and says something inappropriate, just say loudly "no i will not have sex with you and i suggest you leave me alone".  That'll embarrass him.

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  • JOEBunnyJOEBunny member
    I would not say anything now, but I would document for myself exactly what he said and the date and time, and keep my own little file, if you end up with a collection of such things, I would go to the level above.  I would also make sure that I deflected his comment with something that made sure he understood how I felt about it. 
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