Pregnant Friend

*Chicken* · July 2010

So a good friend of mine just found out she is pregnant with her second. I'm not surprised by this, I had a feeling, and obviously I'm happy for her. But I'm still bummed for me. She sent me an email and was really nice about the way she told me. Said she knows it's probably hard to hear and that it will probably upset me, she understands and would feel the same way I do. She also knows that I will get pregnant again soon and have a healthy pregnancy.

I wish I could be so hopefull but two miscarriages kind of sucks the hopefulness out of you. But hopefully, I will get to start trying again in September. I have no idea if I will get pregnant that 'quickly', if anything will come in the way of TTC, or if I do get pregnant whether I will ever be able to sustain a pregnancy (like, ever).

I also have another friend who just started TTC in June and will most likely not have any problems getting pregnant. I predict she will be announcing her pregnancy before I get pregnant again.

This is so much pressure.

Also, the friend who told me she is pregnant today was only suppose to TTC for 6 months because her husband didn't think he wanted another kid. She did so they compromised. This month was the six and final month and, of course, she gets pregnant. This would never happen to me. Putting end dates on things always backfires for me.

So now I know of five people IRL who are pregnant (only one had an issue getting pregnant) four of which are due around the same time I was due. All five started TTC within the last year. Then there's me coming up on three years TTC with 2 miscarriages to show for my efforts.

I must have really pissed someone off in a past life.

cutebride73 · July 2010

I feel your pain - I really do. I know at least 4 people who are pregnant right now. One is a close friend and she is due between what my 2 due dates were. It is their 2nd child and of course, they got lucky on their 1st try both times. I worry that I will never get pregnant again too and if I do who knows if it will be successful. It is so hard to stay positive after trying so hard and then havign 2 losses. You are right it just sucks the promise and then even the (hopefully) eventual joy out of this process.

I know already this month, with my poor response to clomid and my temps looking nothing like they did the 2 months I did get pregnant, I am already fairly confident I am out. ::sigh::

I am really sorry you are having to deal with all of this - it is just so unfair! ((hugs))

shyntrue · July 2010

(((Hugs))) I hope it is your turn soon!

Haribo1 · July 2010

I am really sorry you are going through this chicken. It is hard...so very hard! I also feel like everyone is pregnant. One of my best friends called me this week to announce she was 12 weeks pregnant. The mother of one of my patients also told me this week she was 12 weeks...I am thrilled for everyone, of course, but wish it was my turn too! HUGS, our time will come!

MAH123 · July 2010

*Chicken*:

I must have really pissed someone off in a past life.

I totally feel your pain, my brother (who is great to comiserate with) suggested I kick puppies and be mean to the homeless. His theory is that will change my crappy fertitlity karma. I'm not quite there yet, but am considering a crack habit to boost fertility.

Haribo1 · July 2010

MAH123:
*Chicken*:

I must have really pissed someone off in a past life.
I totally feel your pain, my brother (who is great to comiserate with) suggested I kick puppies and be mean to the homeless. His theory is that will change my crappy fertitlity karma. I'm not quite there yet, but am considering a crack habit to boost fertility.

This made me giggle!!! Perhaps I should join you and boost mine too!!!!

*Chicken* · July 2010

Haribo1:
MAH123:
*Chicken*:

I must have really pissed someone off in a past life.
I totally feel your pain, my brother (who is great to comiserate with) suggested I kick puppies and be mean to the homeless. His theory is that will change my crappy fertitlity karma. I'm not quite there yet, but am considering a crack habit to boost fertility.
This made me giggle!!! Perhaps I should join you and boost mine too!!!!

It made me giggle too! I might start trying that...though I don't know if I can kick puppies...maybe just pull their tails.

Ohhh crack, I hear your fertility improves 10-fold with crack.

You're a genus, MAH! Yes

At least I can rejoice in that I can still have caffeine and alcohol (at least until I start injections). Drinks Coffee (wasn't there a beer icon??)

cutebride73 · July 2010

Oh yes, crack absolutely. DH and I joke all the time if one or both of us would just quit our jobs and get addicted to crack I would get pregnant in no time!!

jandjay · July 2010

I totally understand how you feel. Fertility karma must work opposite of logic. My husband has a drug addict cousin who never worked a day in her life and never wanted children who shows up pregnant every year. Then there's my cousin who has two little girls that have been raised by the nanny and household staff because the kids interfere with her social life. Our turn is coming chicken we just have to hold on.

robynss · July 2010

I totally feel your pain! I am sadly, avoiding talking to the friend of mine who just told me she is pregnant after have one child from iVF (which her inlaws paid for) and now her next IVF (which her parents paid for). I am so stinking jealous that she is pregnant and even more sad for us since we don't have the money and need to go through IVF too!

Also, just got back from the vet, the real one, thinking the past two days that we were going to put our cat to sleep so I have been a mess. Turns out, almost 1000.00 later she will be ok.. So, there went the savings we had for our first round of IVF....UGH! I feel your pain!

*Chicken* · July 2010

Robynss, I'm glad your cat is okay but I totally understand the money thing.

ForTheLoveOf Pink · August 2010

TTC really sucks. It is so hard because it is not logical and there seems to be no justice in who the "babyGods" choose!!!!

If it were only as easy to get pregnant as our Mom's and Teachers told us in our teen years!!!!!

Here is to moving on to a better, hopeful day

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