Trying to Get Pregnant

New at TTC and very confused =(

Hi there I am 25 yrs old, in pretty good health... My boyfriend and I want to start a family... I stopped taking the pill LAST september...It will be one year soon and nothing.. I have been on BC since i was 18 and have avoided the possibility of being a mom like the plague and now that I (we) are ready in our relationship and financially... no luck. My sister got off bc in december and by feb. she was pregnant! What is wrong with me!? I know that my uterus is tilted/ retroverted, could that be a factor? My cycles are perfect every 30 days, I know 5 days before my periods starts because i get pms symptoms... So i know my cycles are regular and I have timed the times to have sex when I would be ovulating.. I'm just confused, I thought this would be easy, I just never once thought that I could have any trouble with this and I just don't even know where to start. I feel like I can't even talk with my mother or sister about it because they have never had a problem like this, I guess I feel a little alone and lost and completely confused.. =( 

Re: New at TTC and very confused =(

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    Hi there I am 25 yrs old, in pretty good health... My boyfriend and I want to start a family... I stopped taking the pill LAST september...It will be one year soon and nothing.. I have been on BC since i was 18 and have avoided the possibility of being a mom like the plague and now that I (we) are ready in our relationship and financially... no luck. My sister got off bc in december and by feb. she was pregnant! What is wrong with me!? I know that my uterus is tilted/ retroverted, could that be a factor? My cycles are perfect every 30 days, I know 5 days before my periods starts because i get pms symptoms... So i know my cycles are regular and I have timed the times to have sex when I would be ovulating.. I'm just confused, I thought this would be easy, I just never once thought that I could have any trouble with this and I just don't even know where to start. I feel like I can't even talk with my mother or sister about it because they have never had a problem like this, I guess I feel a little alone and lost and completely confused.. =( 

    I'm no help with the uterus thing, but I'm curious as to what you're going to know when you O/timed sex right?

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  • I would recommend getting a copy of Taking Care of Your Fertility and start temping/charting. Go to any fertility friend ticker on the boards (since so many girls have them it wont be hard to find) and sign up for fertility friend. It will tell you everything you need to know. Don't worry there's probably nothing wrong. You need to start temping and charting though. Good luck
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  • charting will help since you probably don't know when you ovulate

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  • Everyone is going to recommend that you chart to make sure you are even ovulating.  I wish I would have began this the first period I had off the birth control pill.  Now, going into month 7 (starting to chart this cycle), I am fairly sure I have anovulatory cycles (have had only 2 cycles since December), but without temping and charting, I would have never known what was going on with my body on my own.  I'm just learning as well.  These ladies here KNOW what they are talking about.

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  • well, you've come to the right place :)

    though it can take a healthy couple up to a year to get PG, i too, would be very frustrated after 8 months.

    how do you know when you ovulate? if you're trying around day 14, you could be way off, even using OPKs could lead to imperfect timing.  many many women DO NOT ovulate on day 14.  in fact, with  30 day cycle, i'd assume you O between day 16 and 20.  charting your temps and cervical fluid is the only way to know  (without blood tests) that/when you are ovulating.  i suggest reading the book "taking charge of your fertility" and checking out the website Fertilityfriend.com (click the ticker in my or anyone's signature to get there.) 

    read this to get info about this board https://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/31027678.aspx ,andlurk round here, read many, many posts and you will learn a lot.

    good luck! 

  • I'm so sorry you are feeling frustrated and confused. Charting will definitely help you pinpoint Oing and also help you see patterns in your cycle. Fertility Friend is a great site to use to get started. Just click on any of the gals tickers and it will take you right to the site. Good luck!
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    charting will help since you probably don't know when you ovulate

    Definitely!

    I mean, coming up on a year, it wouldn't be unreasonable to move on to an RE to check everything out (this includes tests for both you AND your SO).

    Still, one easy step in figuring everything out is to start by pinpointing when you ovulate by charting,since if you ovulate later than you think you do, maybe your timing has been wrong all this time.

    Edited to clarify.

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  • Well I know it may sound silly but I have an APP on my iphone where I check the days i start my period and it guesses my "fertile days" I have also used the ovulation predictor web sites and they also tell me the same dates.. So around those days we make sure not to go out, just stay home relax and have fun =)
  • imageCristi84:
    Well I know it may sound silly but I have an APP on my iphone where I check the days i start my period and it guesses my "fertile days" I have also used the ovulation predictor web sites and they also tell me the same dates.. So around those days we make sure not to go out, just stay home relax and have fun =)

    seriously, get thee to a library and check out TCOYF! those predictors are crap! everyone ovulates at a different time in their cycle. they could be right for you, but it would only be coincidence. there is a fertilityfriend app you should replace it with! ConnCottage is right, you could go get checked out when you hit the year mark, but a timing issue is seriously the easiest/cheapest one to fix.  

  • imageCristi84:
    Well I know it may sound silly but I have an APP on my iphone where I check the days i start my period and it guesses my "fertile days" I have also used the ovulation predictor web sites and they also tell me the same dates.. So around those days we make sure not to go out, just stay home relax and have fun =)

    Websites and apps are essentially just guessing, but temping/charting will really help you get to know your body and help you pinpoint your O date. That and maybe throw in some OPKs - it couldn't hurt. I've read so much about it, and I can't wait to start my next period! Wow, that sounds weird.

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  • imageCristi84:
    Well I know it may sound silly but I have an APP on my iphone where I check the days i start my period and it guesses my "fertile days" I have also used the ovulation predictor web sites and they also tell me the same dates.. So around those days we make sure not to go out, just stay home relax and have fun =)

    That is 100% worthless.  Even with a "perfect" 30 day cycle you can O on different days.  Click on my ticker and sign up for Fertility Friend (it is free) and chart that way.  Much more accurate

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  • imageCristi84:
    Well I know it may sound silly but I have an APP on my iphone where I check the days i start my period and it guesses my "fertile days" I have also used the ovulation predictor web sites and they also tell me the same dates.. So around those days we make sure not to go out, just stay home relax and have fun =)

     

    I think what you are talking about is a Ovulation Calculator, which is not as accurate because it is not personalized. Charting at Fertility Friend - you have to take your Basal Body Temp every morning and it charts your cycle, when you see your temp shift...it pinpoint O. I hope this helps you...it might also be some good evidence to take to a doctor, should it come to that. Good luck!!

  • In addition to the other suggestions, you might want to talk to your doctor about how having a tilted uterus can affect your ability to conceive. If it doesn't hinder your ability then your mind will be at ease. If it does, they can discuss options with you. Good luck!


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  • First of all welcome! I will agree with what everyone else said. I just wanted to add a quick note about the tilted uterus. I was told at my last annual exam that I too have a tilted uterus. My Dr told me it "may" make TTC a bit harder. Mainly bc it can make it harder for the sperm to enter the uterus. GL! 
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  • Thank you for the info, everyone here is so helpful. I guess I'm just having a emotional moment since I started my period about 2 hours ago and its like knife in my heart every time. I do keep track of my periods and use online date predictors and also an app on my iphone which is really great. You mentioned cervical fluid. I have honestly not noticed any in a very long time maybe months. I used to be able to tell when I was ovulating by the obvious changes in CF but I realized I have not seen any at all..
  • Wow thank you, I will check that out right now, thank you so much.
  • Everyone else has you covered - I will just add that a tilted uterus should not affect your ability to get pregnant.  Good luck!
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    Thank you for the info, everyone here is so helpful. I guess I'm just having a emotional moment since I started my period about 2 hours ago and its like knife in my heart every time. I do keep track of my periods and use online date predictors and also an app on my iphone which is really great. You mentioned cervical fluid. I have honestly not noticed any in a very long time maybe months. I used to be able to tell when I was ovulating by the obvious changes in CF but I realized I have not seen any at all..

    Are you just noticing CM (or a lack thereof) by checking externally on your undies or when you wipe? Most people find much more CM when they check internally.

    To learn how, and to learn all about charting your basal body temperature to pinpoint your ovulation date, check out these tutorials, they're great: https://www.fertilityfriend.com/courses/past.php (you may need to create a free account to see, I'm not sure).

    Edit: I can't type tonight and feel a compulsive need to correct my spelling and/or grammar errors.

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    Thank you for the info, everyone here is so helpful. I guess I'm just having a emotional moment since I started my period about 2 hours ago and its like knife in my heart every time. I do keep track of my periods and use online date predictors and also an app on my iphone which is really great. You mentioned cervical fluid. I have honestly not noticed any in a very long time maybe months. I used to be able to tell when I was ovulating by the obvious changes in CF but I realized I have not seen any at all..

    Oh sweetie, AF is a whore. She plays with your emotions and she just sucks. Your questions and concerns are completely normal - I had no idea about most of this stuff until I joined here, but the ladies here really know their stuff and are extremely helpful! I would definitely check out the FF tutorial that ConnCottager recommended about about CM/CF. Super helpful! Good luck to you!

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  • I was in the same boat when I first came on here...using an ovulation calculator until everyone explained it to me.  I don't chart, but I do use OPKs.  I use the digital ovulation predictor kits.  When they smile at me, I have sex for the next couple of days.  I STRONGLY suggest these.  The calculator told me I would ovulate several days later than I most likely did.
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    I would recommend getting a copy of Taking Care of Your Fertility and start temping/charting. Go to any fertility friend ticker on the boards (since so many girls have them it wont be hard to find) and sign up for fertility friend. It will tell you everything you need to know. Don't worry there's probably nothing wrong. You need to start temping and charting though. Good luck

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    Everyone else has you covered - I will just add that a tilted uterus should not affect your ability to get pregnant.  Good luck!

    This...  I had some bloodwork and an intrauterine ultrasound done before trying to conceive because I have uterine septum and they wanted to confirm it wouldn't cause issues in TTGP.  From those scans, they determined that I have a tilted uterus but I was told by my Dr that it shouldn't cause any difficulties in conceiving.  Definitely follow these ladies advice and ready TCOYF and start temping at least- it will give you MOUNTAINS of information.  GL!

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