shower question for 2nd baby?

vanessaNOV2 · July 2010

My mom is wants to throw me a "meet and greet" baby shower for my 2nd baby arriving in Jan. We will be waiting to find out gender at delivery. I just had a baby (9months right now) and have alot of baby stuff already. DH and I didn't have much ($$) when DS was born so some of my baby gear was borrowed and has been returned (to friends and fam).

My question is when should my mom have the shower?

I'm going to have a c-section so I know I will be out for at least 3 weeks. But I also will need some equiptment before delivery (like a crib and breast pump).

So it seems if I purchase everything else I don't have then I will have everything and there would be no need to register for anything...right?

Thanks-any advice would help, also if you have been in this scenerio before!

hopefulmom · August 2010

You might want to purchase your crib and breast pump because most people that come to second showers or greet and meet parties bring either clothes or diapers. If you have a good friend in the "know" they might give you something you mentioned you needed/wanted (monitor, etc). You will find this especially because your kids are very close in age.

TulipsAndChampagne · August 2010

I agree with hopefulmom...you are going to need to buy the big ticket items on your own. Second showers are more or less sprinkles and will be things like clothes and diapers. Do not assume nor get your hopes up that people will be buying you such elaborate gifts.

Did you have a shower with your first baby? Especially, since they are so close, I would really stop and think about how your potential invitees will take the second invite to a gift giving event in a year. Yes, every baby should be celebrated, but it is not other people's jobs to buy you the things you as a parent are responsible for in order to "celebrate each baby".

KatieM1106 · August 2010

I would not call it a shower. Perhaps you could register for those little things you will need over the first year that add up? I don't know what they are, but you probably do!

LadyDelilah · August 2010

From what I have seen sip and see's usually prompt girfts like stuffed animals, clothes, toiletry sets and little keepsakes. I would not expect big ticket items or things that are even really practical.

NewFamily09 · August 2010

I think as much as you can, you should buy everything you need for this baby on your own. I don't believe in having real showers for 2nd babies. I think you should do a meet and greet after the baby is born, but don't call it a shower. In fact, if it were me, I might even say something about we want your presence not presents. I'm actually due in January and I'm thinking about doing a little meet and greet open house party myself, but I will make it clear that it's just to meet the baby, not to give gifts.

CrazyToast · August 2010

I agree with PP - you need to get the big stuff immediately so you have it. As for registering, I don't think you should with a 9mo old already. Besides, you really shoul start your purchasing of what you need now...and spread it out until LO arrives.

It definitely seems that the 2nd baby shower (which is by nature smaller, if even acceptable in certain social circles) will be a lot of clothes and keepsake stuff. Plus all of your guests will know gender at a meet and greet...and probably buy stuff specifically boy or girl.

mani_and_me · August 2010

If it were me, I would register for those big items (you said you were purchasing those on your own anyway) simply for the the 10% discount you get. At BRU if the items are not on your registry you cannot take advantage of the discount.

Even if you have it before the baby arrives there is no need to inform anyone of your registry. Just like all the other post mentions most guests will bring items such as clothes and diapers etc. since this is baby #2. In my circle a lot of my friends give gift cards.

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