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We lost the baby
I am not sure what to write. I just know that I want to get it out there that we lost the baby. I was 10 weeks by the calendar but the baby was gone by 8 weeks. It just happened last night/this morning and the wound is still fresh. I am sad/mad/confused/etc. My husband has been great but it does not make it easier. I feel like I am the only one who is going through this.
Not sure I want to write anymore but thanks for "listening".
RJ
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Re: We lost the baby
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I'm sorry for your loss. The same thing happened to us last year....I was 10 weeks but when they did the US they said the baby was gone by 8 as well. It was so hard because a "fill-in" doctor said...."this is SO common." Who wants to hear that!! My husband did a wonderful thing. We went to Bachman's and bought a rose bush and planted it. It has been VERY helpful...especially seeing it bloom this summer. When I take in the flowers my husband says it is our angel watching over us now. I had a D & C done because it was an incomplete miscarriage and St. John's actually does something pretty cool. They work with a cemetery that takes the fetus and puts it into the "memory pond" after it gets the ashes. We've stopped there for some time together. It is sometimes very helpful to join a group which is often offered at the local hospitals. It took me quite awhile and I still think of it now.
I am very sorry and can relate to the pain you are going through. I hope some of the ideas I've given will help you. I also looked at some books which helped me realize everyone heals in their own time and you shouldn't be expected to just get on with life.
Let me know if I can offer an ear. Again, I'm sorry for your loss.
I am very sorry for your loss. I went through a miscarriage, too, and it was easily the hardest/saddest thing I have ever experienced. It really helps to have a great support system.
You can PM me if you need to vent or talk or whatever.
BFP #2, 12/12/11, m/c 12/25/11
BFP #3, 3/09/12, CP 3/10/12
BFP #4, 7/22/12, DD#2 born 4/2013
There is no grief worse than one's own. Take your time - talk it out, don't talk about it when you don't want too - all on your own time. Take care of yourself, remember that your husband is hurting too and is dealing with it in his own way too - and that it isn't easy. HUGS