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Frankly not having much of a problem waiting to find out the gender
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Just have to say, I am excited to find out the gender. But frankly it stresses me out a bit. Only because I have been using it as an excuse to not worry about shopping yet and once I find out, I know its time to make some decisions. Every time I think about picking out a crib, I go cross-eyed.
On a more serious note, I get irritated when people think about the big u/s as simply a fun time when you get to find out the gender. Its actually the u/s where you will find out for sure if you baby is developing normally or if LO is having major issues. I am excited for the big u/s, but knowing the potential implications, I will probably feel like throwing up right before.
I give up trying to get a ticker. I have a DD that is 2.5 years old and is awesome. Maybe I'll add a quote to distinguish myself. Hmmm. How about...
"It is more fun to talk with someone who doesn't use long, difficult words but rather short, easy words like "What about lunch?" - A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh
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Re: Frankly not having much of a problem waiting to find out the gender
Thank you!
I COMPLETELY understand that is SUPER exciting if you want to find out the gender of your unborn child, but I was and will be worried until I see my baby and that it gets a clean bill of health.
Same here, with my daughter I had ultrasounds (for medical reasons) at 18, 22, 30 and 35 weeks and we didn't know the gender until our 35w one so I'm not holding my breath for this time around.
It's exciting but certainly not something I would spend extra money on.
A few of the birth month boards have actually had a "respect the ultrasound" post, where OP asks everyone to please refer to the 20 week ultrasound as the "anatomy scan", not the "gender ultrasound". Most people tend to respond well, and agree, but there are a few who get all pissy about it.
I completely agree with you. Finding out the sex of your baby is a distant second to making sure that baby is developing normally.
Carina 12.28.2010 | Aurelia 9.23.12 | Chart - Round 3
ETA: I also hate when people tell you to have something sugary before the u/s so that baby will be jumping around, you know, "cause it's so cool to see them hyper in there!" Ya, but that's not the point of the u/s, and the tech probably won't be able to get the proper measurements!
If you want to have a fun u/s where you see your LO dancing around, pay for one and eat as much sugar beforehand as you want.
I completely agree with you. I see the big u/s as very nervewracking because I really want to see a healthy, normal baby, regardless of the gender. And then once I know the gender, I am actually going to have to stop procrastinating and start researching. I am so afraid to make the wrong choice!
Thanks for posting about the big u/s not being about gender.
Harper Oksana, born on her due date, January 20, 2011, and the love of my life
I'm with you, OP. I'm excited to find out the sex of the baby, and the excitement can head into impatience from time to time - but to be completely honest, I am far more anxious/nervous about the anatomy scan than I am excited about finding out the sex.
Plus, I feel almost team greenish even though I'm planning to find out the sex, because nothing about the anatomy scan will change my shopping/planning at all.
~EDD Nov 18, 2017 with my IUI success story~
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I agree. It really bugs me that people seem to forget all the other important information that comes from that u/s.
DH and I waiver on finding out the sex or not. Not be a downer or anything, but now that we have a 1:160 chance of an NTD, finding out (or not) the sex doesn't even really matter. We just want to see a healthy baby and if not a healthy baby one that will still have hope for a rich life despite adversity.
Also to add...
Medical science has gone leaps and bounds since WE were born. ( I was born in 82') I know my mum never got an ultrasound. She never even got to hear my heartbeat until she was well into her 3rd trimester with a normal stethescope.
I'm so thankful to be able to see my little one on a screen and see it move and yawn. I love hearing the HB at my appointments. I think a lot of people take this kinda stuff for granted.
Maybe that's why our LO is a maniac at our appointments... all I can get down is fruit. Never thought of it that way.
This.
I get an ultrasound at every single appointment because I'm high risk, so in between appointments I like to delude myself into thinking that if there was something MAJORLY wrong they would have picked up on it at my last appointment....it keeps the stress level down between appointments.
Being high risk, I'm ALWAYS aware that something could be/go wrong at any time in this pregnancy...but to keep myself out of the nuthouse I try REALLY hard to focus on the things I can look forward to...seeing baby, hearing heartbeat, finding out sex, ect....instead of stressing about what they could find wrong at the next ultrasound.
Not to be a total Debbie Downer, but the reality is, that we will never be out of the woods...any of us.
Something can go wrong with ANY pregnancy, at ANY time, including during a full-term delivery. Once the baby is here we have to worry about SIDS and RSV and all sorts of other tragedies. Once they're kids we've got a whole new set of problems to worry about at night. Truth is, the worry never goes away....my Dad still has panic attacks when he can't reach me immediately by phone.
But we can't spend our lives in a panic over things that haven't happened to us yet, and according to statistics could, but likely won't. Just appreciate what we've got today.
Very very true. I am usually pretty upbeat. I have just been more worried lately, which is completely unlike me. Thanks for the reminder to focus on the positive. I needed to hear that.
Me, too. I have a regular appointment on Tuesday and I am so anxious to hear the HB again.
I've been worried about all the hiking we did at high altitude in Colorado a couple of weeks ago. My doctor said hiking at high altitude was fine, just to stay hydrated. Well, idiot me decided to ask Google after DH and I got back from a moderate hike at about 11,000 feet. It said, "If you are having trouble breathing, your baby is, too." I freaked out, "OMG, Pip couldn't breathe! What if Pip's little heart stopped beating, and I have no symptoms of a m/c?! ..." Ugh, I need to calm down and trust that everything is okay.
And, while I'm excited about the possibility of finding out the gender at the anatomy u/s, it's been kind of fun not knowing what Pip is.
Agreed.