XP: Should ending BFing be this difficult?

theemc · July 2010

My son will be 1 year at the end of August when I return to school. With the approval of my pediatrician, we decided to start him on cow's milk when he turned 11 months old (2 days ago). To make a long story short, today was the first day that I stopped BFing him and gave him bottles with a cows milk/breast milk mixture. He drank them right up. And you know what? I started crying my eyes out. When I put him to bed tonight after his bottle I was sobbing. More than likely he is my last baby (my DH and I are "older" and we also have a daughter from his previous marriage). I think the fact that I will never have that nursing bond with him or any other baby again has affected me more than I ever imagined. Anyone else share these feelings? How long did they last?

Thanks for listening... Crying

LoveEeyore · July 2010

Yeah I cried when DD#1 weaned. I was planning one night for it to be her last night But she reached for the crib and didn't want to nurse (she 14 months and I was pg). My twins are not showing any signs of slowing down right now, but since DH's vasectomy, I am deeply saddened at the prospect of weaning them since they are definitely my last.

iteachk · July 2010

I weaned DD slowly, and I want more kids, but it was still really hard. I was over it in a few weeks though. Hang in there!

Cityplanner · July 2010

We'll be day weaned by the end of the weekend. She's still nursing at night, but I can tell that even that is becoming a bit less important to her. I was ready to stop pumping at work, so it came as quite a surprise to me how disappointed I was do be done. We may have others and I am taking comfort in that now, so I can see how, without that, it would be harder.

I'm happy to see her grow up, but it was a pretty amazing thing to know that I was still growing her even though she was on the outside. That's clumsy, but that's the closest I can come to describing how it felt.

DEBBIE33CASEY · July 2010

I only EPed so i never even got the nursing bond but when I stopped EPing and pumped my last time I also sobbed. It was literally the end of an era for me. And I felt sad for several weeks and it took even longer for me to emotionally come to terms, which sounds kinda extreme, I know. But I was so proud of how long I made it and always felt like I should be doing it longer...

Lesley0228 · July 2010

I weaned after months of a failing supply. I was down to nursing once a day and pumping three times a day and kept trying to set a date to stop, but just couldn't bring myself to do it. One day at 9 mo she just refused to nurse that morning, so I got her a bottle. I tried every morning for a week and she refused every time. I assume she decided my crappy supply just wasn't worth the effort. I was very emotional about finally stopping. In some ways, I'm glad she picked when we stopped and I didn't have to, but in other ways I wish I could have known that the last time would be the last. I hope to have another LO in a couple years, so I have a whole list of things to do next time to make BF last longer. Congrats on making it so good and good luck with school!

jlk1256 · July 2010

I totally understand where you are coming from. I thought it was hard. The funny thing for me was that I was sad at first and she seemed fine with weaning and then once I was okay with the idea she started asking for it more. Now I am ready to be done, but she is not happy about it. SHe is 16months and we are down to one nursing maybe a day or every other day. I wish my milk would just dry up but it isn't! Good luck to you!

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