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No right to be sad

I feel like I have no right to sit here crying and being so sad. I have two gorgeous, healthy, wonderful daughters. Yet, I just found out our third baby stopped developing a few weeks ago. I haven't even talked to the dr. yet, so I don't know if I have to wait to miscarry, or have a d&c. We're leaving on vacation tomorrow for a week too... and for once, i have no desire to call the dr.'s office myself. I want to pretend it's not happening.

I also feel like maybe this is what I get for beating the odds twice. In October 2008 I was told I only had a 6% chance of getting pg on my own. Since then I've gotten pg twice. Once was 2 weeks later w/my amazing 13 month old daughter. Then, w/o even trying, I found out we were pg again on July 4. I know there are women who have it way worse than me. I am truly grateful for everything I have. Yet my heart still breaks today for my third little baby.....

Re: No right to be sad

  • You have every right to be sad! It doesn't matter that you already have children. This baby was yours too and it makes no difference what # child this is for you. I am so sorry for your loss and I hope things get figured out with the Dr soon for you.
    6/28/10: Lost our sweet baby Addyston at 18wk 1day to pPROM 7/24/11: Michael William born at 24wk 2d due to IC after an emergent cerclage at 18wks, 4wk home BR and 2 weeks hospital BR. Grow strong our little Miracle! 9/17/11: Michael joined his sister in heaven after 8 amazing weeks with us on earth. He fought a very hard fight but NEC was too much for him in the end. Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers Lilypie Angel and Memorial tickers Lilypie Pregnancy tickers
  • Big hugs! So sorry for your loss. It's your baby you have the right to mourn.
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  • You have every right to grieve for the child you lost.  I have a healthy son, and I still think about  my daughters everyday.  
  • You absolutely have the right to be sad.  It's your baby regardless of how many blessings you have had already.  Miscarriage sucks and sadness is expected.
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