So I only have 9 days left which we are both really excited about.. Dh thinks I will deliever after my due date, so he decides to tell me wednesday that he is going to Reno,Nv (we live in Portland,Or) to go help a friend bring back a car that his friend bought... Its a 10 hr drive there and 10 hrs back... So he will be gone for about 24 hrs with a few stops on the way there and a few on the way back..
So I have told him that the baby could come at any day and he just doesnt realize this... His other two children ( not from me) were born at 42 and 41 weeks so he thinks that he has enought time... I have told him how much I really dont want him to leave but he just says he will be back, So I got pissed the other day & told him that I hope she comes while he is gone. I really dont I want him to miss his daughters birth but he is acting like shes not coming soon.. Does he not realize babys come when they are ready.. My last appt I was 2 cm dilated and told me that It could be anyday ( I know they all say that) ...
He will be leaving in about 4 hrs and I know he is going but I am scared that I will have to do this all alone.. My family lives 2 states away and I dont have anyone that will be there with me... I was so upset last night when he called me and said he was going to be working late I had to hang up the phone because I was crying so hard... I am really upset and dont know what to do... I have told him how I felt and he says I'll be back!!!!!
Ugh I am gonna hurt him if he misses his daughter being born!!!!
Re: So Pissed at DH!!! (Vent & Long)
He's an idiot and I would probably kick him in the balls if I were you. Not only is it horrible that he's leaving but the fact that it is upsetting you and he obviously could care less is crappy also. Seriously my DH would NEVER do this and I would never let him.
I feel badly for you and I hope that you don't have that baby when he is gone
I agree with PP, regardless of baby's due date, the fact that he is causing you all this stress pisses me off!
I think you are right and he is wrong, but I do hope your daughter waits for her dad to get back before making her appearance.
::hugs::
I would be super annoyed too. On the small upside, if the baby does come, they were saying in labor class that usually the first 8-12 hours of labor (1st stage) go really slow and can be mostly done at home. But, I would be really freaked out too to do ity alone.
My DH is going to his sister's wedding in CA 11 days before our due date. He will leave Sat afternoon and come home first thing Monday. The flights don't work for him to come home Sunday night (wedding is Sunday afternoon), but we did look up the last flight- just in case. I am worried he will come while he is gone, but I just tell myself they say 1st babies are more likely to be late. But, I am okay with him going. If I wasn't, I know he wouldn't go. That is where I would say your bigger issue is.
Oh I would be beyond pissed!
There is no telling, you could go into labor tonight, or it could be next week. Not to mention that you just plain NEED him there. Who leaves their 9 month pregnant wife to drive across the country to fetch a car!
He's an idiot. I would let him go- and if/when you went into labor have a friend by your side and then remind him for the rest of your marriage how he dropped the ball.
Sorry- I'm not in a good mood today.
Who wants to take bets that he calls from Reno saying that there is a "problem" with the car and that they will be late ?
Trying to help a friend my ass. He wants to go gambling one last time before the baby comes, and to him it is worth the risk of missing Aubree's birth.
Dad-to-be here....
The worst part is that if he happens to get back before delivery, he'll get to gloat about how he "knew" it would be okay.
I can't imagine taking the slightest risk of missing our baby's arrival.
Um. Yup! There is NO way that A) DH would even TRY to do this and
I would let him go if he DID want to do it. Seriously, it would be stay, or his sh!t on the lawn and the locks changed.
I wouldn't count on this. I woke up having contractions and delivered my baby 8 hours later. I planned on laboring at home for a while too but when I woke up with contractions they were already between 5 and 8 minutes apart. When I was admitted to the hospital about 3 hours later they were 3 minutes apart. I am probably more of the exception but it does happen.
I would find a friend who can take you to the hospital just in case. There was no way I could have driven myself.
That's what I was thinking. They want you to come in at the point where you can no longer talk through your contractions. Say you get to that point, what are you supposed to do? Take a cab to the hospital?!
Nice!!!
Alecia was that your wedding dress?? I likey!
i would totally do this. serves him right.
I told DH he is allowed to leave up until 2 weeks of the due date. And then he's sitting his butt at home and I don't want to hear a word about it.
I don't care for YH. He seems like he knows it all just because 2 births have panned out that way with a different woman.
You're right, he's wrong. Hope your LO stays put til he gets back!
So I'm guessing this "friend" doesn't have anyone else to ask??? Real sweet of him to ask someone who is about to be a father again at any given moment!??!? I would be furious at both of them and if it were me, I would secretly hope that he misses it. You and the impending birth of your daughter should be his #1 priority right now.
Good Luck:)
OMGosh I totally feel what you're going through. I would probably kill DH if he decided to go do something like this being that close to the end.
I'm sorry... You're right, baby will come when she's ready so hopefully she'll be ready AFTER he comes back.