Venting!

kbel424 · July 2010

I'm so irritated, DH just told me that his best friends wife is expecting their second baby and is due the same time we would have been. I said "super" and walked away, and now he's upset with me that I'm not happy for them!

tlcW0714 · July 2010

Your feelings are completely understandable!! I would have acted the same way,...to them, however, I would act happy ..but at home, you should be able to show your true emotions!! And, I would say that emotion was warranted!! ((hugs))

butterfly843 · July 2010

Sorry dh doesn't understand why you are upset.

rock-elle · July 2010

I'm coming out of my Troll hiding spot and saying'Aw--eff him!' ONLY because he should be more sympathetic and understanding about this!!

So IMO I'd tell him to eff off!!

kbel424 · July 2010

Yeah, exactly. Its great for anyone to find out they are expecting, but announcing it to us so soon after my loss and then dh being upset with me? I haven't seen them yet, so its not like I was rude to them or anything. I'm just upset thinking about watching her go through pregnancy when I should be there too. And I didn't mention that his best friend is an ass and I can't stand him. I thought dh would be more understanding.

serendipity · July 2010

It sucks when they just don't get it. I'm sorry you're having to go through this, honey. Hopefully he'll come around and see why it's hurtful to you. When you just find out, there's no time to prepare yourself to act "happy," and like PP said, you should be able to express your true emotions at home, even if you have to pretend elsewhere.

Do you think he'll come to realize things on his own, or could you talk to him about it? Now is a horrible time to have to muster patience so that you can explain your feelings, but it's rough when he doesn't understand!

BabyTrippin · July 2010

((Hugs)) Sorry YH is being a poophead. I totally understand what you're feeling.

RaineFaye · July 2010

I totally understand where you're coming from. In fact, I had the exact same argument with my DH last week.

Thank Heavens for this board. Sometimes even husbands don't get it. ((hugs))

cutebride73 · July 2010

I'm sorry that your DH is not being more understanding about this. I would tell him that he is supposed to be your "safe place" and you should be able to vent to him about things. Especially since you were not being rude to them in person. You need to be able to share your feelings and even if he doesn't feel the same, he should respect and sympathize with you. ((hugs))

MCH77 · July 2010

I am so sorry. I understand.

I am really scared of when this happens to us. DH's bestfriends are trying again and I just know I won't be able to take it if they are pg before us. Love them dearly, but I want my baby.