I hate the fact I was so excited about my pregnancy I told people and now when I see them they ask the nice question of how I'm feeling and how's the baby. The thing I hate most is the answer I have to give them. The baby is no more. I miscarried. and that horrible pitying look that they give me sucks. Yes. It sucked. Yes. I wouldn't wish this upon my worst enemy. and NO i don't want to talk about it with you.
I work at a preschool. Found out I was pregnant before we got out for the summer. miscarried 1 week into summer vacation and now i'm seeing my coworkers all over town. ugh.
Next time. I'm keeping my mouth shut.
Re: Know what I hate? (vent)
I'm with you. It sucks when people ask, but their understanding and support helped me heal. For a while I felt remorse about telling people and imagined them saying "That's why you wait to tell", but now I can care less about what people think. I also was excited and shared the news and it didn't change the love I felt or the outcome of the pregnancy.
Sorry you are dealing with this. =(
I feel the same way. We miscarried at 12w3d. I had finally told three of my closest friends literally the day before we miscarried. I hate that I had to then tell them, essentially "oh, never mind." It was awful and I cannot stand the "omg, I am so sorry! How are you?" I know they mean well, but how do you think I am?
I have to go to work this afternoon and I am just dreading it for this reason.
I hear you. We told no one we were pg and did not tell anyone about my m/c but for my managing partner when I was actually having the m/c (and only to explain why I was disappearing from the office for appts and taking off the day of the d&c).
I know that makes for less support after the m/c, but I am glad in a weird way that I didn't have to explain it to everyone and rehash it when I did not feel ready to. I did finally tell 3 of my best friends about the m/c last week. They were super supportive but honestly I don't know if that will change how we kept things to ourselves should we buy lucky enough to be successful TTC.
BFP #1 5/2010 - Missed m/c at 8 weeks
BFP #2 2/2011
Baby G welcomed with love and relief 10/2011
Surprise BFP 1/8/2013...say what? Baby A arrived 9/2013
Motherhood is not for wimps
BFP #1 - m/c on 12.22.09 @ 8w3d
BFP #2 - d&c on 07.22.10 @11w1d
BFP #3 - DS born on 06.22.11 @41w3d!
BFP #4 - Due 04.24.13
It's a tough lesson to learn, and I didn't get it after my first loss. I blabbed to everyone about this pregnancy about 2 weeks after I found out.
I don't know. I hate lying or "ignoring" my pregnancy (when I thought it was viable); I feel like I owed it to the baby to share our joy with everyone.
Never again; parents only next time.