- Pregnancy
- Baby & Toddler
- Parents
- Getting Pregnant
- Baby Names
- Product Reviews
-
Registry
- Community
-
More
Want a personalized experience?
Download the free app
Babies: 3 - 6 Months
NBR: If you are an animal lover, come in
Ok, DH is making me mad. I am a HUGE animal lover. I have a golden retriever who is currently living with my parents. We (my dog and I) moved in with my parents before DH and I got married. Lucy, my dog, ended up staying there the first year we were married b/c we lived in an apartment and we didn't want to make her live there. Well, we got a house last September and she is STILL living with my parents. DH doesn't want her here because she sheds. Well now my dog is so adjusted and happy at my parents that I don't think I could bring her to live here. Plus, her and my dad are BFFs. So anyways, we have a parrot. He is kind of psycho, I will admit. My husband bought him about 2 years ago. He was sweet at first but then turned crazy. He is still sweet to me sometimes. Well, DH has arranged for someone else to take him. He doesn't ask me, he just does it. He hates the bird now. He worries about DS with the bird, understandable. I just feel like there was no compromise on this issue. Why does he get to decide? I feel bad for the bird. I don't want him to go. But apparently I have no say. It isn't just about the bird, its about the fact that he just decided without me. He doesn't care how I feel about it. Any suggestions on what to do/say to him? I'm just angry about the whole thing. He isn't an animal lover like me. He doesn't get it. Thanks for letting me vent!
Sorry so long!
This discussion has been closed.
Re: NBR: If you are an animal lover, come in
I don't think he should be able to decide that without consulting you.
At the same time, you should accept that he really doesn't want a bird. Your marraige is your number 1 priority right? DH is insisting on re-homing our cat because he hates cats, and I'm not happy about it, but at the end of the day a pet has to be a two person decision. I insisted he find a very good home, and that's that.
i agree with the PPs. even if the bird is crazy, he should have talked with you first before deciding to get rid of it.
maybe yall can compromise and get a dog that doesn't shed?
Yes, shedding is annoying but it's not that difficult to manage. We have two dogs and they, of course, shed like crazy. We own a good vacuum and use it 2-3 times per week. We also sweep up at least every other day and we have a special handheld vacuum that we use on the couch every couple of days. All in all it doesn't take up that much time once it's all said and done.
Also, if you brush your dog regularly it will drastically cut down on the shedding. Buy a Furminator off of Amazon. It's amazing how much loose hair you'll be able to get off the dog with that thing. I always joke that I could knit us a third dog with the pile of hair!
As for getting rid of the bird, it's a household pet therefore it should have been a household decision. You should have discussed it together and you should have had a say in where the bird was going to go. Let him know that it hurt you that he left you out of such a major decision because you marriage needs to be a partnership.
I'd be angry. Even if he bought the bird you are married and what is his becomes yours too. That is a decision that should be made together.
I don't think the parrot is crazy. It is common for birds to be bonded to one owner and aggressive towards the other. Birds perceive owners as mates and will attack the owners real mate for territory.
my read shelf: