- Pregnancy
- Baby & Toddler
- Parents
- Getting Pregnant
- Baby Names
- Product Reviews
-
Registry
- Community
-
More
Want a personalized experience?
Download the free app
2nd Trimester
missmaryl
member
Feelings a little hurt..am I overreacting??
missmaryl
member
I posted on here a while ago about my older sister having twins (a boy and a girl) due a week after my baby girl is due. I announced my pregnancy almost a month before she did (my husband was very excited to tell everyone). At the time that she announced, I was happy and excited for her, but also felt a little like I would be overshadowed by her more "exciting" pregancy. It has taken some time, but I was finally getting over it and just happy and excited for my own baby and the fact that my daughter will have two cousins so close in age.
A couple of weeks ago I emailed one my cousins that I'm closest with to tell her I'm expecting. Apparently she had heard that my sister was pregnant, but not me. Hmmm...weird, right? This morning another cousin emailed to say she had sent a gift and that she would not have even known I was pregnant if she had not received the baby shower invite. Weird thing is that I know she called my sister weeks before the invites went out because she had heard she was having twins. This leads me to believe that my mom (both cousins are on my mom's side) told her siblings that my sister is pregnant, but did not mention the fact that I'm pregnant. Talk about putting me back in square one for feeling like me and my baby are less important...
Maybe I'm just overreacting, but it has just put me down in the dumps this morning. 
This discussion has been closed.
Re: Feelings a little hurt..am I overreacting??
I'd be kind of hurt too. I'd ask your mom about it.
You're not over-reacting, it's sad when people are so inconsiderate of such a happy time in your life. My sister had "THE FIRST!!!" grandchild about 6 months before my baby is due. So, I completely sympathize and I understand why it's a damper.
It sounds like you are reacting with grace if you've been able to express sheer happiness for her. I guess you can take minor consolation in the perks of a singleton - your baby is lower-risk, your body will have an easier time, and your baby will get unadulterated 1-on-1 mommy time. I know it doesn't make up for it, but there's not much else you can do without coming off as bratty. Like I said - I know firsthand ((hugs))
I agree that you shouldn't assume anything until you find out where they heard it. If your mom really is talking about your sister and not you, just remember that it's nothing your sister did, that your beef is with your mom. Hopefully it gets resolved though.
If you want people to know you are pregnant - tell them. It isn't your moms news to spread.
I'm assuming your sister is letting people know about her pregnancy.
I think you are overreacting.
For me, it is my news to share with family. If my mom, sister, grandmother didn't share my news, I wouldn't be miffed. If I want someone to know I'm pregnant, I'm going to tell them myself.
I'm sorry your feelings are hurt.
I agree with this and LCB. Unless you know for a fact your mom told everyone about your sister's pregnancy, I would let it go.
Unable to even.
********************
You don't understand the appeal of Benedict Cumberbatch / think he's fug / don't know who he is? WATCH SHERLOCK. Until you do, your negative opinion of him will not be taken seriously.
I agree with LCB, but I don't think you are overreacting. However, I would be a little hurt too. Whether or not it is my news to share, my mom was just as excited and as soon as I gave her the go ahead, she told everyone she could think of. Maybe your sis told everyone and not you mom. I don't think you have all of the facts.
I think it depends on who told your cousins. If it was your sister, I wouldn't be upset. She told her news to share and was letting you be the one to share your news.
If I knew for a fact it was my mom who told them, then I'd probably be a little hurt.
I absolutely agree. If my sister is the one that told them, that's fine. Her news to share. I would not be upset about that at all. But, I'm almost 100% certain that she did not tell them. She told me our cousin called her because she heard that my sister was having twins. Also, my parents are always the ones that spread this kind of news. I'm the youngest of six, they spread the news when one of us gets married. they spread the news when one of us gets pregnant. And even if my parents didn't spread the news that's fine. what upsets me is if they are telling people about my sister and not about me. I have a cousin on my dad's side that had no idea either of us was pregnant. Again, totally fine.
I know in the grand scheme of things it's not a big deal and I'll get over it. I'm just having a rough morning about it. in the end, this is a very happy time for me and DH and as long as we have each other to share that, everything else doesn't matter. i just needed to vent so I can process my feelings and then get over it. thanks for listening.
I agree.
You're being a baby.
If anything, your cousins can be annoyed that you didn't share your news with them - if you want everyone to know your business, you should be telling them. When you talk about your pregnancy, do you always add that your sister is pregnant too?
Wow. I'd be upset too. My sister and I are pg together too, but everyone KNOWS that we're both pg. it's not a surprise. AND I know for a fact that my sister is telling ppl that I"m pg too, just like I tell ppl that she's pg too.
I'm sorry. I'd probably say something to my mom about it. Make sure that when she's sharing the news, that she shares ALL the news.