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Good appointment with my counselor

achase123achase123
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Try to make this brief:

We talked about a lot of things and I updated her about SD and his most recent run in with the law.  She was NOT suprised.  I also told her the divorce was final.

SD had texted me Monday and wanted to know about taking P to his neices b-day party/baptism.  He wanted me to come too and then his sister emailed me asking the same.  I told my counselor that I wasn't into going and hanging out around his family just so they could treat me terribly and ignore me.  And all of it would be for Super Douche's benefit and why should I try to benefit him when he isn't paying CS or seeing P on a regular basis?  Plus my concern is that he hasn't seen P in so long that he would need to bond with him w/out so many other people around.  She was 110% in agreement.

And I talked to her about my fears with C.  She said I need to let my guard down and risk getting hurt.  She also told me to check myself about feeling jealous because C didn't cause those feelings in me, SD did.

All in all I felt way better and I told C about it.  He was in agreement and understood why I have trouble letting my guard down.  I am just going to try to not let fear of getting hurt rule me.  I am going to open up my heart and risk getting hurt because C is worth it.

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  • mrgnmrgn member
    I would be taking A to the family party - but my situation is a lot different than yours. You have to do what's best for you! Sounds like things are going great!
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  • achase123achase123

    imagemrgn:
    I would be taking A to the family party - but my situation is a lot different than yours. You have to do what's best for you! Sounds like things are going great!

    I thought about taking him to the baptism but I just feel really uncomfortable about it.  I don't get along with his mom at.all.  His grandma and I are also not on speaking terms. 

    I talked to my friend about it last night too and she said that she wouldn't go because P needs to bond with SD one on one.  Plus SD is sooo messed up he probably wouldn't even show up.  We also are going out of town on Saturday so it would be tweaking our schedule to go.  All in all I just feel like it wouldn't be a comfortable situation at all.  If SD really wanted to take P he could get his professional supervisor like he is supposed to do.

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  • monkey_mama09monkey_mama09
    imageachase123:

    And I talked to her about my fears with C.  She said I need to let my guard down and risk getting hurt.  She also told me to check myself about feeling jealous because C didn't cause those feelings in me, SD did.

    This is really good advice that I'm going to have to remember.

    Sounds like you know what you need to do about the party.  And C sounds like a great guy!

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  • carrieannewcarrieannew member

    There are 364 other days in a year that his family can see P. If they choose to not see him those other day's they should not get to see him the day they want, nor should you be put in a situation that is only too there benefit and be treated badly, which you know will happen.

    Your making the right choice I feel.

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  • fauxshelleyfauxshelley member
    imagecarrieannew:

    There are 364 other days in a year that his family can see P. If they choose to not see him those other day's they should not get to see him the day they want, nor should you be put in a situation that is only too there benefit and be treated badly, which you know will happen.

    Your making the right choice I feel.

    I agree with Carrie.

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  • blondnearbyblondnearby
    Maybe its just me, but I would go just to piss his family off and make them uncomfortable.  LOL   I would make sure my DDs stayed by me the entire time so if any of his family wanted to interact with them they would have to interact with me:)   I like watching people squirm.
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  • achase123achase123

    imageblondnearby:
    Maybe its just me, but I would go just to piss his family off and make them uncomfortable.  LOL   I would make sure my DDs stayed by me the entire time so if any of his family wanted to interact with them they would have to interact with me:)   I like watching people squirm.

    Oooh, you are BAD!!!  It WOULD serve them right for all the *** they put me through.

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