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In honor of Carrie's post...

dandyelledandyelle
in TTC After a Loss 6 Months+

What is your best response to one of these lovely comments?? You ladies crack me up all the time, and we only talk on the interwebz. I KNOW some (if not all) of you have gotten in a good reply or two of your own. So now I'm curious as to the best response you've even given to someone's asshatted comment.

Here's mine...

Full On Monet Neighbor With 3 Kids by 3 Different Dads: "I'm really sorry to hear about your loss, but you know, God has a plan for everything."

SuperDandy: "Well, eff God AND his plan if THAT'S the truth. I can't imagine God has a plan that ends with my baby tally at zero and yours at three."

F.O.M.N.W.3.K.B.3.D.D.: "Was that comment really necessary?"

SD: "Probably no more than yours. The next time something awful happens to you, comfort YOURSELF by saying God had it in for you all along."

 

I am now waiting for my tires to be slashed.

 

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  • schen0510schen0510
    Priceless!  I wish I had the balls to say something like that.  I usually think it but it never comes out.
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  • CarrieLeigh84CarrieLeigh84 member

    My stepsister (who was in the delivery room with me) told me to "get over it" 5 months after my loss.

    My response?

    I punched her in the face.

    Stillbirth at 23w6d on Sept, 22, 2008 M/C at 5 weeks June 14, 2010 My miracle, James Frederick born May 2, 2011 via C-section
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  • Scout05Scout05 member

    Good for you! I love your response!

    Mine generally involves swearing, so I'm not a good one to ask.

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  • KelinandKevinKelinandKevin member

    imageschen0510:
    Priceless!  I wish I had the balls to say something like that.  I usually think it but it never comes out.

    Yeah, this is me too.  I am not as quick witted as the other ladies here.  I come up with good stuff but it takes me awhile longer!  :)

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  • triple_sevenstriple_sevens member

    I don't respond. I'm just not confrontational and I try to appreciate the kindness in people's intentions.

    But when my mom told me she thought I had something chemically wrong with my brain as a result of the m/c because I was still depressed 5 months later and "that's not normal," I screamed at her over the phone.

    BFP #1 10/17/09: missed m/c at 7 weeks; BFP #2 10/22/10: chemical pregnancy; BFP #3: 1/28/11

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  • dandyelledandyelle
    imageCarrieLeigh84:

    My stepsister (who was in the delivery room with me) told me to "get over it" 5 months after my loss.

    My response?

    I punched her in the face.

    Carrie, you're my hero.

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  • michroccmichrocc member
    imageCarrieLeigh84:

    My stepsister (who was in the delivery room with me) told me to "get over it" 5 months after my loss.

    My response?

    I punched her in the face.

    We're not worthy.  We're not worthy.  We're not worthy. 

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    Seriously awesome response.

     

     

    BFP#1 10/19/09, m/c 12/5/09, BFP#2 2/03/12, m/c 2/12/12, BFP#3 3/18/13, LO born 11/22/13

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  • rjl07rjl07
    imageKelinandKevin:

    imageschen0510:
    Priceless!  I wish I had the balls to say something like that.  I usually think it but it never comes out.

    Yeah, this is me too.  I am not as quick witted as the other ladies here.  I come up with good stuff but it takes me awhile longer!  :)

    This is my problem too.  I'm usually so floored by the stupid comment that I don't say anything at all.

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  • JuJuBe3JuJuBe3
    imagetriple_sevens:

    I don't respond. I'm just not confrontational and I try to appreciate the kindness in people's intentions.

    But when my mom told me she thought I had something chemically wrong with my brain as a result of the m/c because I was still depressed 5 months later and "that's not normal," I screamed at her over the phone.

    Totally sounds like me. I haven't had to scream at anyone yet, but I'm betting it will happen and it will be someone in my DH's family. 

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