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Pregnant after 35
Naturally preggers with first child at 41!
Hi all! I am new here, and still kind of shocked that I am.
I really thought that there was a slim-to-none chance that my husband and I would concieve, as everyone had us convinced that it was next to impossible. But... I kind of lied to my eggs all along and told them that they were only 30 (and luckily they didn't card me). 
So... here we are. I am SO excited, and yet starting to get terrified because just about everything you read says how tricky it is at this age.
Here's my question to all of you in this situation - how do you balance the sheer joy of FINALLY expecting after a lifetime of wanting to be a mom, and not telling too many people and/or not freaking out with all the statistics and the ever-present "don't get too excited yet"?
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Re: Naturally preggers with first child at 41!
Yeah for you! We are also pregnant and I am 41. Our second and I was 36 for the first one! No worry, girl! Go with it and be positive. Don't fall into the trap or funny vibes you get from those around who just don't get it. We love being a little older and you will be fine! We didn't tell many either at first and made sure all was ok with the babe. I am 6 months along and doing great! Be happy and have fun! It truly is an amazing experience even at our "old age"
Congratulations!
DH & I decided to wait until after my first doctor appointment (at around 10 or 11 weeks), and at that time we only told our parents. We waited until after the amnio to tell everyone else. It was incredibly hard to wait, but we did it.
Congratulations and welcome!
The timing on telling everyone is really up to your personal preference. We told at 8 weeks with our first when I was 33. We told at 8 weeks with our second when I was 35 and lost that one at 10 weeks. We waited until over 14 weeks at age 36 to announce this one because the second one made me very anxious to share.
The worry never goes away, but neither does the excitement!
DD#1 - January 2008
DD#2 - September 2010
Congratulations and welcome to the club. I'm 42 and expecting my first in October and everything is proceeding without any concerns. Yes, things are a bit more scary at our age, but remember there are so many happy endings.
I was so relieved and encouraged by the positive reaction my doctors, both PC and OB/GYN had to my pregnancy. During our first appointment, my OB said something that brought tears of joy. This brilliant man said that he's more concerned with the overall maternal health rather than age. He did inform of us the increased risks and explained our screening options. I felt so wonderful leaving his office!
I still fretted about the milestones (heartbeat, NT Scan, Anatomy US) until 20 weeks. Some about of concern is to be expected, show me a mother who doesn't worry.
As for when to tell family and friends, we planned to wait but that quickly changed. The day we got our BFP his dad was undergoing a second surgery for a life threatening condition, we told him before surgery to lift his spirits. After that, my husband couldn't stop telling everyone out of sheer excitement. Best laid plans....
Overall, everyone has been encouraging and supportive. My older sister, who had suffered a miscarriage, was reserved during the first tri. I knew she was protecting me as she's always done. Now she's obsessively shopping for 'her nephew".
Trust your body, be informed about the risks and adopt as many healthy habits as you can.
Wishing you a healthy and happy pregnancy!
Congrats!!! You are 5 weeks? I am just 6 weeks. Looks like that would make you a March Mama. Feel free to join us on March 2011 board!
Congratulations!!!! We waited till 12 weeks to tell the majority of close friends and family. Immediate family and friends were told sooner as it was just to hard to make excuses as to why I was not drinking all the delicious wine around. We still have not told the rest of friends and outlying family until we get the results from blood work telling us if we need to have an amnio and if we do then we wont tell the "public" until that is over.
IF you tell your immediate family and friends then you have someone to talk to and I found that made it allot easier. Also, avoid small social groups if your a drinker as people will notice, large ones are fine as you can easily get ginger ale or dump the drinks in the nearest planter or restroom. We just tried to do more daytime stuff with friends and I wore clothing that hide my bloated belly, which is harder then you think in summer in san diego.
As for all the scary statistic...after my 2nd MC I vowed to myself that I would not read those things or let people talk to me about them as then I would then turn and over research it on the internet and stress myself out. Obviously I do read enough to be aware of what I need and what tests are best. As for people commenting on your age, I don't have much advice, here in SoCal it seems like it is fairly normal so not to many haters. and within my family my cousin just had her first at 40 so she broke the ice for me
sorry i am so long winded...you should see my yelp reviews!
ENJOY being prego as much as you can!
Hi. I'm 38, and pregnant with my third. I like to think of it as circles of friends and family. I've told the inner circle of friends and family (the ones who will take my calls at all hours, and would be able to help me if we lost the baby) now at 8 weeks, and when I get to 12 weeks, I'll tell my next circle, and then I'll tell everyone after 16 weeks.
That's the plan, anyway.
Congrats!
I a few months shy of 37. I went off the pill and was pregnant 2 1/2 months later... shocker for us! Based on everything we read, we were expecting that we would be "trying" for over a year until I finally got pg. Wrong!
My first dr's appt is @ 8 1/2 weeks w/ an u/s. If everything looks normal, we are going to tell everyone then!