Heartbroken and going insane?

janiem1120 · July 2010

My first pregnancy was a couple of months ago and it ended up being a blighted ovum and not developing. I was over the moon that I was pregnant and shared the news with a lot of people, which I heard you shouldn't do, but did anyway. After I had the D & C I was (and still am) heartbroken over it. Everything seemed to be perfect for a small amount of time.

This is the first month me and my husband started to try again and I thought I was pregnant again. I was getting really bad heachaches, dizziness, peeing a lot, extremely tired, ect. I had the headaches really bad the last time and was sure I was pregnant again, but trying to keep myself from getting too excitied. I took a pregnancy test this morning (3 days before my expected period) and it came up negative. Now I am spotting Crying I would really love to go home, cry a few hours, and just sleep.

I can imagine my poor husband is so tired of hearing me go through so many ups and downs as some of my close friends have to be too. I feel like they all keep telling me to relax and not stress, but I CAN'T. I feel completely abnormal trying to deal with this. I'm really trying to be happy and normal, but then if I am out and go to get a beer with friends the thought sneaks up on me that maybe I shouldn't because what if I am pregnant at that moment? I just want to know that I am not crazy and maybe some tips on how to actually relax from someone who has gone through this.

I was just so ready to be a mommy =**(

NurseDFW · July 2010

When we first started to try again I felt the same way. You worry about every little symptoms. Then you get stressed out more.
At work there was a lady who had a fetal demise at 36 weeks. I just keep telling myself that I am lucky for what I have in my life.

Just try to stay positive!! T&P's

shanna82 · July 2010

Sorry hon. We all know how you feel Sad

*hugs*

jms2005 · July 2010

(((Hugs))) You're not crazy at all. We all know exactly how you feel. TTCAL is just really hard. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Unfortunately, most of us have to go through unsuccessful cycles before we get pg again. I don't know that there are any "tips" for making it easier. Everyone has to find their own balance. Some gals use charting so they can track their cycles and know when to try, but for others this is too stressful.

This board has been really helpful for so many of us, so you're welcome to stick around and post. Newbies are encouraged to make an introduction post so we can get to know you a little better. The only board "rule" is "give support, get support" - offer an encouraging word to others when they need it and they'll do the same for you. I recommend lurking a little just to get a feel for the style of the board. Welcome!

ikissedthecook · July 2010

jms2005:

(((Hugs))) You're not crazy at all. We all know exactly how you feel. TTCAL is just really hard. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Unfortunately, most of us have to go through unsuccessful cycles before we get pg again. I don't know that there are any "tips" for making it easier. Everyone has to find their own balance. Some gals use charting so they can track their cycles and know when to try, but for others this is too stressful.

This board has been really helpful for so many of us, so you're welcome to stick around and post. Newbies are encouraged to make an introduction post so we can get to know you a little better. The only board "rule" is "give support, get support" - offer an encouraging word to others when they need it and they'll do the same for you. I recommend lurking a little just to get a feel for the style of the board. Welcome!

All of this. I look forward to getting to know you, even though I wish we didn't have to be here. Again, I'm so sorry for your loss.

mandy6418 · July 2010

So sorry you're feeling this bad. :::HUGS:::

janiem1120 · July 2010

jms2005:

(((Hugs))) You're not crazy at all. We all know exactly how you feel. TTCAL is just really hard. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Unfortunately, most of us have to go through unsuccessful cycles before we get pg again. I don't know that there are any "tips" for making it easier. Everyone has to find their own balance. Some gals use charting so they can track their cycles and know when to try, but for others this is too stressful.

This board has been really helpful for so many of us, so you're welcome to stick around and post. Newbies are encouraged to make an introduction post so we can get to know you a little better. The only board "rule" is "give support, get support" - offer an encouraging word to others when they need it and they'll do the same for you. I recommend lurking a little just to get a feel for the style of the board. Welcome!

Thank all you ladies very much for replying on this. I felt awful and really just needed somewhere to put my thoughts down about this. I have been doing "lurking" on already, but really thought I had made it through the worst and was back to being "normal." It is really strange how it can just sneak up on you and make you feel awful all over again.

While I have been "lurking" I have read up on a few posts by people who lost when they were they were almost full term and I can't even fathom how a heart can get through that. I am trying to concentrate on how I am lucky and that the Dr said that is was just something that happens and points to us being able to have a healthy pregnancy the next time. I just hope along with PMS I don't lose it everytime I get my period until then .

Thank you so, so much again and I am so extremely happy that this board is here to vent. I will certainly do my best to support others on here also. Smile

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