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I didn't expect it to be this hard...

Mrs.BabbsyMrs.Babbsy member
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so next week my MIL is going back to work which means the end of in-home care for us. We start with a new family next week. It's a family I know, but man am I having a hard time with it. GEEZ, I am actually a mess.

The thought of dropping them off is killing me. I feel like I am going off maternity leave all over again.

I wish I could afford a nanny or be a SAHM.

I know it could be because of the last in-home sitter I had, she was an effing nightmare.

 

 

 

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  • Mrs.BabbsyMrs.Babbsy member
    PS the bump errors are also getting the eff on my nerves!!! I want to post and chat! UGH!
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  • hannah&benhannah&ben
    ((hugs))
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  • EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member

    We recently switched nannies and it was VERY hard too.  It's weird.  I dont' get it - but I was just so fricking nervous and upset about leaving him w/ someone new. 

    It's all fine now- I like her and for the first time in forever, the last time she was over, he didnt' cry when I left!   I was shocked, but happily so!

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  • howleyshellhowleyshell member

    Have you looked into nannies?

     

    Have you posted on Craigslist to see what you could find at what rates?

     

    I'm asking because once I had 2 kids it was actually cheaper to have a nanny than to do an in home.

    I pay around $100 a day.

     

    I'm soo sorry.  Daycare is by FAR the hardest part of parenting IMO.

    Breaks my heart.

     

    But.... when it's good it's GOOD.  There are days I swear my nanny takes better care of them than I do.  She LOVES them and they adore her.  She's much better at 1:1 undivided attention than I am.   I hope you can find that kind of situation soon! 

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  • Mrs.BabbsyMrs.Babbsy member

    Hannah, I am just going to drop them off to you everyday:) HA! You see how good they are:)

     

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  • hannah&benhannah&ben

    Awwww... I wish I could watch them everyday... But I'd have to take them lots of places in my car :) 

    I can't open a daycare in my basement but I am available for back up!! Any time lady - for real!!

    ETA: and yes, they are SO good!!!

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  • oct11bride03oct11bride03

    ((HUGS))

    When our nanny flaked on us and we had to put K in daycare I was a mess. The first few weeks were rough, but we settled into a routine and I saw how happy she was there and it's been great. Hang in there, hon.

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  • DavezWifeDavezWife member

    I get that... I always have a hard time leaving Ava, no matter who or where it is. The only glimmer of hope I can offer you - they're getting to the age where your family room just isn't gonna cut it, they'll want some new walls, new yards, new things going on. Opens their world up a bit more... they'll do & see new things.

    Door shuts, window opens.

    You can do this mom ! ;-)

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  • CourtedCourted
    I feel you.  I am going back to work full time in like 2 weeks and Nico has to start back up at a day care now. I am bummed and am going to miss being arounf him as much as a I was before.  :(  
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    it will get better!
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