I was supposed to have a baby around christmas :( Now I'll have a Christmas Angel? (Dec EDDs)

linz85 · July 2010

Hi ladies,

I've been a member of this board for about 3 months now...I had a miscarriage on May 1st. I was supposed to be 8 weeks 2 days, but looked to only be about 6, no heartbeat. I bled for ten days and was very sad and shocked by the whole ordeal. I was due December 10, 2010.

Lately so many people have been posting pregnancies on facebook and such, but whats worse is seeing all of my friends, four of whom are due around my due date, begin to find out the sex of their babies.

I mean this should be ME! It hurts so much knowing that I won't have a little baby at Christmas... I pictured my FI and I taking a picture with our LO by a Christmas Tree, a red bow on his blanket, and using it as our first family Christmas card....ouch

Any other ladies with December EDDs? You all are not alone...come join me....lets talk about our "Christmas Angels."

b2b999 · July 2010

Hi - I had an EDD of Dec. 22 and miscarried on May 6. I understand what you're going through. We had tentatively scheduled our "BIG" U/S for August 9 and as that approaches all I keep thinking about is I wonder what I would have found out.

I'm certainly not looking forward to Christmas, at all, and I'm hopeful that perhaps it won't hurt as much if I have a BFP by then.

I'm so sorry that you have to be here too, but I hope it helps to know that you are not alone.

stephsteph77 · July 2010

I was also due December 10th, and my pregnancy ended June 18. I should be 20 weeks, but instead I'm recovering from a 2nd d&c (I was still bleeding clots four weeks after my initial d&e so I had to have a follow up the past Monday). All I could think was that I should be finding out what I'm having right now, not having surgery. I was really looking forward to buying a stocking for the baby, getting those "my first Christmas" things... It sucks. To make matters even worse, my EDD is my niece's birthday. So on a day that I'll want to curl up in a ball and cry I have to go celebrate my niece. On the other hand, it may be a good distraction. Who knows how I'll be feeling then.

linz85 · July 2010

I know how that feels too. My best friend's daughter was born the 15th so we were so excited that her and I would have kids only 2 years apart. We even joked that if I had a boy they would grow up together and maybe even fall in love lol. Silly, but its hard now knowing I may never get a child as close to hers. We are TTA until after our wedding which is in May 2011..so I'm in this wierd limbo, researching things about TTCAL but not trying to conceive...I miss my baby so much...I can't stand the thought of celebrating Christmas without him.

JingleBelly · July 2010

My EDD was 12/11/10.. we found out the gender on July 7th but it was quickly overshadowed when we were told our son had a neural tube defect.. we then went to find out it was very severe and decided to terminate. I keep thinking about Christmas as well and how it wont be the same. DH and I decided to get an ornament around that time to commemorate his short little life and keep his memory alive.. It wont be quite the ornament i thought id be buying but at least itll be something to remember him.

rguinn75 · July 2010

Our due date was Dec 11th and we found out June 3rd (12.5 weeks) that our LO quit growing at 7 weeks.. I know Christmas will be hard but I keep trying to think of ways to be prepared... I plan to buy a small ornament for our tree for our LO to be with us every year... I love Christmas and hate that this will overshadow what I had hoped would be a very special Christmas...

My MIL on the other hand all she can talk about is how terrible Christmas will be now... I am to the point I refuse to spend Christmas with my inlaws...this was the year to spend with them but I just can't bring myself to sit through her emotional tirade on my behalf...We will be driving 13 hours to spend with my parents being surrounded by children... I am sure I can handle that better than my MIL going on and on about how terrible the holiday is now...

Our little Angel will always be with us... I guess he was meant to be our Guardian Angel and not our Take home baby!!!!

dolphinsmakemesmile · July 2010

I had an EDD of 12/31-a new year's baby. Even Dr. joked with me to try to have the baby at midnight so he could be in the paper. DH and I had discussed not having Christmas at our house because it would be too much for us and too close to the due date, etc. All I want to do now is hide.

My SIL asks us and a bunch of other family to all get together and do something big for New Year's Eve the other day. I swear I felt like I was punched in the gut. I don't think I'll ever enjoy a New Year's again.

I know what you mean about making future plans with the baby that is not here anymore and it completely sucks. We are all in the same boat. I am very sorry for your loss. ((HUGS)).

linz85 · July 2010

I'm sorry for all of us that have to be here. I am so thankful for all of you ladies though. Thats exactly why I wanted to post this because I knew there were others that had planned on having a "Christmas Baby" and just knew we could all talk to each other. I'm so sorry for all of your losses, and pray we get a sticky take home baby when and if you are ready. I know I want more children, but right now I just want to keep remembering the baby thats still supposed to be here...I miss him. I love the idea of getting an ornament to keep every year and I think I will do that for both mine and my parents and inlaws trees. It will be nice to at least have something to remember him by. Please keep in touch as your EDD's get closer ladies. I know I'll need it, and I would love to be here for ALL of you, (including those not having December EDD's of course)

hellonwheels · July 2010

my edd was dec 20th..just before christmas

its been especially hard since i have many friends and co-workers due around that time...seeing their bumps grow and them finding out the sex of their baby..talking about kicks...i wish it was me...but i know i have support from the ladies here...thinking of EVERYONE

weaverr1 · July 2010

My due date wasnt in Dec, but my daughter Kendall would have been 5 months old on Christmas.... I actually already had her Xmas dress picked out....that she will never get to wear (heartbreaking ).....I also like the idea of having a ornament with her name on it because she is my little angel.....

This board is so supportive, I love all of you!!!

Heathatm126 · July 2010

Hi,

My due date for the twins was Dec 24th and I was 8 weeks when I needed a D&C on May 15th. DH and I have talked about how we will deal with family this year since it has come up several times since then. I agree and am also hoping it may not be quite as difficult if I have a BFP by then. After the D&C, we went up to a special lighthouse in Maine that we've gone to many times before to pray and reflect in bad times and to celebrate in good times, so I think we will be venturing back up to the shores of Maine on Christmas Eve for the day/evening...that way, we can have our own time before then going back and spending time with family...thankfullly in a way, there aren't many babies on either side yet, so I'm hoping that will help too.

LeesMyBaby · July 2010

My due date was Dec. 24th.... I was really looking forward to a Christmas baby Sad

. I am so sorry about your loss.

liveforhim · July 2010

I feel your pain! Our baby was due on December 30th...i can only think that I would have had a christmas or new years baby...and now I won't have that...christmas is definitely going to be hard this year:( I just pray we are all blessed again very soon!

itsmevkb · July 2010

I was due January 3rd but would have been induced two weeks prior, so right before Christmas. This year is going to be doubly difficult with my EDD right at Christmas and the memory of our losing our son right after Christmas last year (I hemorraged on Christmas Eve and lost him three days later).

Right now the woman I sit next to at work is pregnant and she is just a little ahead of where I should be. She just found out she's having a little boy and everytime I look at her growing belly it makes me sad and angry that my baby was taken from me. Everyday is a struggle at this point.

I don't know what to say other than it sucks and it hurts. Big hugs.

SaraP2010 · July 2010

JingleBelly:
My EDD was 12/11/10.. we found out the gender on July 7th but it was quickly overshadowed when we were told our son had a neural tube defect.. we then went to find out it was very severe and decided to terminate. I keep thinking about Christmas as well and how it wont be the same. DH and I decided to get an ornament around that time to commemorate his short little life and keep his memory alive.. It wont be quite the ornament i thought id be buying but at least itll be something to remember him.

I was due December 23rd. I love this idea!

schlud01 · July 2010

I was due on December 25th,

... This year is going to be very hard for me and my hubby. We were so excited about having our little one for the holidays. I hurt for all you ladies going through this with me. We will get through this holiday, and we will be there to support each other along the way.

linz85 · July 2010

Hugs to all of you ladies. I am so sorry for all of your losses. Broken Heart

ohashlet · July 2010

I know exactly what you mean.

theatrechick · July 2010

I know exactly how you're feeling. I was due Dec. 1, but mc on May 16 at 11 wks, 3days. I've been doing okay with other pregnant women...I can avoid my pregnant friends on FB. But I just learned last Thursday that my SIL is pregnant and due in late Jan...and that's going to be difficult to see and deal with for the next 6 months. Plus on Friday, when I went to get a pedicure to relax, a woman sat down next to me who was exactly the number of weeks I should have been and she knows what the sex is, plus my pedicure lady and hers would not shut about it. While DH and I were surprised by the pregnancy (we were "practicing w/o a net"), and it was surreal for those first several weeks, I really miss it. I touch my belly once day and think how it should be bigger. I was really looking forward to the holidays this year, even if it meant that I would have to spend it with my in-laws.

linz85 · August 2010

theatrechick:
(we were "practicing w/o a net"), and it was surreal for those first several weeks, I really miss it. I touch my belly once day and think how it should be bigger. I was really looking forward to the holidays this year, even if it meant that I would have to spend it with my in-laws.

First, I love that, practicing without a net HAHA! And I totally get where you are at. The baby was a surprise for my FI and I as well but I got sooo excited soo fast, and I constantly touch my belly. Every AF is like a kick to the heart. I was so looking forward to knowing the sex around my bday, which just passed-so noneventful, and celebrating christmas with a newborn. ugh. So many preggos on FB too!

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