Moms of Toddlers

~adamwife~ · July 2010

How are you surviving right now? I am so tired that my bones hurt.

When I got pregnant this time, I thought surely it can't be that bad, I did it with a LO last time. But now I'm realizing how much easier it was last time, because DS1 was only 7-8 months when I got pregnant - he wasn't very mobile, he still napped twice a day, wasn't eating much solid food, etc.

Having to cook three meals a day (DS has food allergies, so I have to cook what we eat) and entertain two little boys is taking every ounce of energy. All I want to do is curl in a ball and sleep for days. It doesn't help that DS2 is still waking through the night to nurse.

Anyone feel my pain? How are you handling it?

MrsTotty · July 2010

I'm going to be honest .. I handle it with a lot of TV, a lot of easy meals, and a lot of help from DH. He was so great and took the kiddo out of the house for pretty much all of yesterday so I could sleep and throw up in peace.

papagena · July 2010

I go to work, come home, lay on the floor on the bad days while DS climbs over me. I am a living jungle gym. We're eating a lot of quick dinners, and the kitchen is a mess. That's how I'm almost-but-not-quite doing it.

lexigrl · July 2010

Thankfully I haven't been too tired or I am just so busy I haven't had time to notice. I work full time and DS is in daycare but once we get home all he wants to do is run and play outside. DH does all the cooking so thankfully I don't have to worry about that.

There are nights though that once DS goes to bed I just collapse on the couch.

~adamwife~ · July 2010

MrsTotty:
I'm going to be honest .. I handle it with a lot of TV, a lot of easy meals, and a lot of help from DH. He was so great and took the kiddo out of the house for pretty much all of yesterday so I could sleep and throw up in peace.

I think that's why today (Monday) is so hard. DH was an angel this weekend - he cooked all the meals for me, he took the boys out of the house so I could nap, he let me sleep in, etc. It makes being here and doing it alone a lot harder today. I want my husband back

ncbelle · July 2010

I haven't really hit true 1st trimesterness yet (although I was reminded this morning of how TIRED 1st tri made me last time) - so I've got nothing. My plan is to go to sleep early and nap with kiddo if needed (although not sure how that would work with 2). I'm also really lucky in that DH will be home a lot during the day until classes get going again next month. Have you tried night weaning? Kiddo is still waking up about once a night right now because of teething but DH has been able to get him back to sleep pretty quickly most nights so I get to sleep.

ademc05 · July 2010

1 and 2 are 23 months apart 2 and 3 will be 21 months apart. All I can say is that I'm right there with you. My kids can't have dairy, which seems to be in everything in some form. I even have to make bread for them for just a simple sandwich. It doesn't help when you don't want to do anything. Mainly, your 17/18 month old really ought to be weaned by now. Take that problem out of your life.

TiffaniLaine · July 2010

I am struggling to make it through EVERY SINGLE DAY. Nothing gets done, I stick with seeing the couch and the bathroom. Its horrible. I dont know how people do it.

~adamwife~ · July 2010

You guys are making me feel better. I too am a human jungle gym. lol

I wish I could find a way to do simpler meals. It's hard when he's allergic to milk, eggs, peanuts, and soy. We can't eat meals that aren't cooked in my kitchen. I have tried the crockpot, but the smell of it simmering all day makes me gag.

Hopefully this will pass soon.

~adamwife~ · July 2010

ademc05:
1 and 2 are 23 months apart 2 and 3 will be 21 months apart. All I can say is that I'm right there with you. My kids can't have dairy, which seems to be in everything in some form. I even have to make bread for them for just a simple sandwich. It doesn't help when you don't want to do anything.

Someone who feels my pain. lol We have to make our bread too (or pay an arm and a leg for allergy-free versions).

~adamwife~ · July 2010

ncbelle:
I haven't really hit true 1st trimesterness yet (although I was reminded this morning of how TIRED 1st tri made me last time) - so I've got nothing. My plan is to go to sleep early and nap with kiddo if needed (although not sure how that would work with 2). I'm also really lucky in that DH will be home a lot during the day until classes get going again next month. Have you tried night weaning? Kiddo is still waking up about once a night right now because of teething but DH has been able to get him back to sleep pretty quickly most nights so I get to sleep.

I started night weaning on Friday and it's going OK. He still wakes every night 2-3 times and wants to nurse, but luckily I can get him to calm down by rocking him back to drowsy and putting him in bed. Problem is, he wakes my older son during the freak out and then I have to get him back to sleep too. DH helps when he can, but he could sleep through a freight train in the room, so he's not much help.

aqua_love · July 2010

i'm just over 13 weeks and i am just starting to feel "normal-ish" and by that i mean i can stay up till 9 or 10 pm rather than passing out on the couch at 7 pm.

i will embarrassingly admit there were days things just didn't get done like they should. there were days after work, we'd have dinner and i'd go to bed the same time as dd. we'd just catch up on the house during the weekend. i know not everyone can be happy with a sink full of dishes, but that's what worked for us.

as with almost everything with pregnancy and a newborn, remember this too shall pass.

papagena · July 2010

~adamwife~:
DH helps when he can, but he could sleep through a freight train in the room, so he's not much help.

I hear you there - once when my DS was just a few weeks old, I had to throw a pillow at DH to get him to help me. The wailing newborn nor his wife's calls seemed to work. Of course, after he got me what I needed, he fell asleep and promptly forgot the entire episode until I told him about it the next morning. I swear - I'm up within 2 seconds of hearing DS it seems, and he is dead to the world...

iris427 · July 2010

The 1st tri crappiness hasn't really hit me yet but I like to take her to the Y and drop her off in the daycare room and just chill on their couch for an hour or two. She has fun playing and I get a break.

ademc05 · July 2010

~adamwife~:
ncbelle:
I haven't really hit true 1st trimesterness yet (although I was reminded this morning of how TIRED 1st tri made me last time) - so I've got nothing. My plan is to go to sleep early and nap with kiddo if needed (although not sure how that would work with 2). I'm also really lucky in that DH will be home a lot during the day until classes get going again next month. Have you tried night weaning? Kiddo is still waking up about once a night right now because of teething but DH has been able to get him back to sleep pretty quickly most nights so I get to sleep.

I started night weaning on Friday and it's going OK. He still wakes every night 2-3 times and wants to nurse, but luckily I can get him to calm down by rocking him back to drowsy and putting him in bed. Problem is, he wakes my older son during the freak out and then I have to get him back to sleep too. DH helps when he can, but he could sleep through a freight train in the room, so he's not much help.

Ha, ha! Don't you love this one? Or when it's 5am and the older one is ready for the day? Same here.

ReeseM · July 2010

https://babyrabies.com/2010/07/06/hello-world-so-nice-to-re-join-you/

Here's a link that Totty shared with me a few weeks ago. And it does get better. It really does.

~adamwife~ · July 2010

ademc05:
~adamwife~:

ncbelle:
I haven't really hit true 1st trimesterness yet (although I was reminded this morning of how TIRED 1st tri made me last time) - so I've got nothing. My plan is to go to sleep early and nap with kiddo if needed (although not sure how that would work with 2). I'm also really lucky in that DH will be home a lot during the day until classes get going again next month. Have you tried night weaning? Kiddo is still waking up about once a night right now because of teething but DH has been able to get him back to sleep pretty quickly most nights so I get to sleep.

I started night weaning on Friday and it's going OK. He still wakes every night 2-3 times and wants to nurse, but luckily I can get him to calm down by rocking him back to drowsy and putting him in bed. Problem is, he wakes my older son during the freak out and then I have to get him back to sleep too. DH helps when he can, but he could sleep through a freight train in the room, so he's not much help.

Ha, ha! Don't you love this one? Or when it's 5am and the older one is ready for the day?

This is precisely why night weaning has taken so long. My options - pull the baby into bed with me and let him nurse all night long OR wean and deal with trying to get two kids to bed multiple times through the night? Up until this point the first option made more sense, but now my nipples hurt too bad to deal with three hours of suckling through the night. lol

And yes, the oldest has been fond of getting out of his bed at 5:30 am, layihng behind the door and banging on it with his feet until the whole house wakes up. I can't wait until it starts staying dark longer!!

SarahTx5701 · July 2010

ds has been going to bed a bit erlier. 7;30 or so, we do watch tv, dh helps a TON with getting dinner ready. laundry is in a pile on our couch and the kitchen is clean for a day and a dump for two more.

I do what I can. and dh does help. But yeah....it sucks. I'm hoping it turns around in a week or two because I cannot funcation.

I only have one, so I can only imagine having 2!

Is there anything you can make a ahead of time, like maybe spend a day (without kids) cooking and making casseroles to freeze to pull out later?

I'm sorry. It awful...hang in there.

Symharmony · July 2010

I can totally relate to you. I have two boys that take a lot of my energy. My second DS is very clingy and still nurses a lot at night. I'm happy my DH can help out in the evening when he is home. The evenings are especially worse for me. My mom also helps out when she can as well. I'm glad my first DS is starting preschool in a month. It seems my two LOs are harder when they are together, because Cedric enjoys picking on Sebastian and making him cry. I think that's why Sebastian can be so clingy to begin with. I also rely on television more than I care to for Cedric. It keeps him engaged and out of Sebastian's space. I definitely feel your pain. I'm hoping it gets better once I start the second trimester. I'm hoping I'll regain some energy to keep up with these two.

MTOW · July 2010

So far I've had more energy than usual -- to the point where it's hard to sleep. But as long as I'm going, I either don't feel sick or don't notice that I feel sick, so right now I'm just trying to get as much as I can done before the other shoe falls and I can't move.

This weekend we moved the furniture out of the guest room/future toddler room, and then while DH took DD to the zoo, I repainted it and steam cleaned all the carpets. When I finished that, he still wasn't back, so I got out the furniture sliders and started moving furniture into the room. I was trying to find tools to dismantle the twin bed we're putting in there when he came home.

papagena · July 2010

MTOW:
This weekend we moved the furniture out of the guest room/future toddler room, and then while DH took DD to the zoo, I repainted it and steam cleaned all the carpets. When I finished that, he still wasn't back, so I got out the furniture sliders and started moving furniture into the room. I was trying to find tools to dismantle the twin bed we're putting in there when he came home.

Surprise

I won't say I hate you.... but... Totally jealous! My house is a mess!!!

laura&dan05 · July 2010

I have a 16 month old and due to my SCH I'm not allowed to pick her up. I'm not following that rule all of the time because it's impossible along with the modified bedrest the dr. suggested.

She only takes one nap a day but as soon as I put her down I eat lunch and take a nap too. Even if I don't sleep I lay in bed for at least an hour. It's hard because my mind is racing with all of the things I could be getting done so I have to force myself to rest.

In the evenings DH is a big help and when he's out of town I have a babysitter come over for 2 hours. She helps me with dinner, bathtime, and bedtime (so I can minimize the amount of times I lift dd). During the day if DH is out of town my mom helps a lot by taking dd for 1/2 the day or sometimes the whole day. On the weekends DH gets up with dd and lets me sleep in while he cooks breakfast. It's a HUGE help.

I can't imagine what it's like having 2 little ones to chase after! You must be exhausted all of the time. Hopefully once you get to the second tri things will get easier.

~adamwife~ · July 2010

Symharmony:
I can totally relate to you. I have two boys that take a lot of my energy. My second DS is very clingy and still nurses a lot at night. I'm happy my DH can help out in the evening when he is home. The evenings are especially worse for me. My mom also helps out when she can as well. I'm glad my first DS is starting preschool in a month. It seems my two LOs are harder when they are together, because Cedric enjoys picking on Sebastian and making him cry. I think that's why Sebastian can be so clingy to begin with. I also rely on television more than I care to for Cedric. It keeps him engaged and out of Sebastian's space. I definitely feel your pain. I'm hoping it gets better once I start the second trimester. I'm hoping I'll regain some energy to keep up with these two.

I love your boys' names. What cuties!

Two little boys are a lot to keep up with. Can you imagine having another one? lol

mylesmomma · July 2010

I work nights so I am really really tired this time around. On the days I work I have a sitter come and sit with the boys until noon so I can sleep for 5 yrs. On the days I'm sitter-less I try to keep them busy like bring out a huge thing of leggos, or let them take allt he cushions off the couch to build stuff, train tracks, etc. It takes me a while to get it put together and then they quiet down.

Thank god all these guys want to eat is chicken nuggets, cheese sandwiches, etc lol! I make a quick lunch and we all take a nap together

Symharmony · July 2010

~adamwife~:
Symharmony:
I can totally relate to you. I have two boys that take a lot of my energy. My second DS is very clingy and still nurses a lot at night. I'm happy my DH can help out in the evening when he is home. The evenings are especially worse for me. My mom also helps out when she can as well. I'm glad my first DS is starting preschool in a month. It seems my two LOs are harder when they are together, because Cedric enjoys picking on Sebastian and making him cry. I think that's why Sebastian can be so clingy to begin with. I also rely on television more than I care to for Cedric. It keeps him engaged and out of Sebastian's space. I definitely feel your pain. I'm hoping it gets better once I start the second trimester. I'm hoping I'll regain some energy to keep up with these two.

I love your boys' names. What cuties!

Two little boys are a lot to keep up with. Can you imagine having another one? lol

Thanks, your two are very cute as well. I'm excited to be pregnant with number three, but I'm also nervous. Some days I can barely handle the two, I can't even imagine what three is going to be like. Smile

FLStateSweetie · July 2010

DD and I chill out around the house and that's it. I'm off for the summer and planned on accomplishing a lot. Ha, the house hasn't been cleaned in ages. DH helps and that's about the only time things get done, otherwise the laundry is in baskets, dishes in the sink ... and I don't care (ok, I might be lying, but I'm trying to convince myself).

The only advice I can give is what a PP said, can someone (DH or grandma) watch the kids so you can cook a bunch of meals at once and freeze them. Then you just have to heat them up.

LucyGoosey81 · July 2010

Ugh. It's very hard

I'm sooooooo tired. The one perk that I have is that I'm off work this summer for the first tri, so I'm able to nap when DS naps. That REALLY helps. Of course he's napping now, and what am I doing?? Dumb. LOL!

My meals have gotten much simpler. I can only do so much. The thought of cooking some things makes me soooooo sick. I do what I can and that's it. Some things are just processed (ew...but I can keep it down) for right now. DH isn't a fan, but I reminded him it's just for a short time. I'm hoping for only a couple more weeks of this.

DH has picked up the slack of my housework for the most part. He does the dishes for me, which is HUGE as the thought makes me sooo sick.

I guess I'm just doing what I can.

labooshki · July 2010

Sadly, YoGabbaGabba helps. And I'm still taking him to the sitters 2 days a week for a few hours so I can relax. I hate plopping him in front of the TV, but seriously it really helps.

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