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my first shower

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I attended a shower today. I purchased a gift and all, it was difficult but I made it through selecting a gift. One little outfit brought on the tears. The shower was nice but I lost it when she was half way through opening her gifts, so I left with tears streaming down my face. My best friend is also pregnant so I know I'll have to go through this again. My cousin just had her first baby 3 weeks ago and I hadn't gone by to see them. She finally asked me when I was coming today. I'm surrounded my new moms and pregnant loved ones, many of whom do not know about my loss. I'm dealing but wish I was still with child. A lot in my life has changed so suddenly this year. I'll be grateful when the new year comes. 
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  • s5m9js5m9j

    I'm so sorry for your loss.

    I understand it can be tough to be around pregnant women and new babies and not having the mothers understand. It took a lot just for you to buy a gift and attend the shower so I give you kudos for that. My SIL had a baby about a month ago and we have only seen him about 3 times because of our loss, it is so difficult to be around a happy baby when we are so sad and depressed and he brings our more sadness in us.

    Could you tell your cousin what happened so maybe she will understand why you haven't seen her or the baby yet? I understand if you don't want to tell her.

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  • ColleenS629ColleenS629 member
    I'm sorry. Sad One of my friends just gave birth, one's pregnant, another's pregnant with twins, my cousin is pregnant, too. It's really hard to not be in that "club" anymore.
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  • Ernie52408Ernie52408 member

    I'm sorry. I think you're a very strong woman for even going.

    I have a ton of pg friends and family right now. One should be having a shower next month. I've already decided that I'm going to skip. There is no way I could sit through it.

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