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What can I do for...

Galena99Galena99 member
in Miscarriage/Pregnancy Loss

a neighbor that just lost her baby while in 7th month?

I was thinking a massage or a gift certificate for dinner delivery?  Right now her family is over bringing dinner and caring for her 2 other children every night so I don't know if I should cook anything yet.  I just feel like I need to do something.

Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker BFP #1 5/30/07 M/C 8/26/10 at around 6 weeks BFP #2 10/16/10
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  • CleryClery
    Some kind of spa treatment would be nice. Although she probably won't feel like going for awhile but when she does it will be a nice treat. Are you Russian? I noticed your name is Galena. My name is Tatiana.
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  • mlmtggmlmtgg
    any thoughts or gift I am sure would be appreciated. We also really appreciated a beautiful plant for our garden as a tribute. If you do g/c for spa or dinner later that is really nice too - but may want to make it for in a few weeks when all of the immediate friends/family are gone, and she may really need the  break and support.
    m/c#1 07/16/08 (11 weeks), m/c#2 10/10/08 (8 weeks). and then nothing since except every test possible (no answers). IUI#1 and #2: BFNs Super lucky to be buddies with Peetie. Our out of nowhere, surprise DD born 5/29/2011
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  • maramarriemaramarrie
    the dinner idea is great. Some friends of ours gave us a restaurant gift certificate in their card and made a note about us not feeling like cooking when a bad day comes and all the meals are gone. A lot of families brought us food for at least a week which was nice; they "signed up" for different days so that food wouldn't overlap all on one day. I would be sure to give a card too. If you still have flowers in the yard, a nice arrangement from your own yard might be nice. You don't have to go spend money on flowers, though, to be a good neighbor. That is nice of you to think of her. None of my neighbors knew me very well, but I know some of them must have known I was pg. They just didn't know us well enough to know when we lost the baby. I didn't ever get anything from them, but I didn't expect it either. You are a nice neighbor. Thanks for thinking of her...from all of us!
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  • vera1127vera1127 member

    It may even be nice to just send a card saying that even though right at that moment they might not know exactly what they need, but when they figure it out to let you know. That way they know you are there for them. Check in on them periodically once you see the movement dying down over there and see what you can do to help out...offer to clean, cook, etc. I'm sure it will be much appreciated. You are a great neighbor.

     And my husband is Russian! Tatiana is our favorite baby name...I'm learning it all slowly but surely!

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  • jam1111jam1111
    I think the gc for food delivery is good. 
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  • Galena99Galena99 member

    Thanks for all of the replies.  I know things must be difficult for everyone here, and it means a lot to me that you took the time to help me think of ways I can help my neighbor in her most desperate time of need. 

    I think I'm going to do a combination gift of a half hour massage and a certificate for dinner for the family.  I also am going to call her when I'm on my way out to the store in case they need milk, snacks, etc. 

    Galena isn't my real name, but I took it from the name of a rock when I was studying them in high school (not the prettiest of rocks, but a name I fell in love with). 

    Thanks again!

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