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I am being forced to drink. . .

redsoxbonoredsoxbono
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We went to our friend's house for dinner Thursday night.  I had bloodwork for my yearly physical the next day.  I was not supposed to abstain from alcohol for 24 hours before the bloodwork. 

I am not a big drinker, but I knew if I said "I have bloodwork tomorrow, so I can't drink" it would sound like a lie and they would be thinking "oooo, she's pregnant!"  Nobody knows we are trying to conceive, but I know everyone's wondering.

It wouldn't be so bad if I really was pregnant and people were suspicious, but the fact that the TRUTH would make me seem pregnant when I'm not is just too crazy Stick out tongue
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Re: I am being forced to drink. . .

  • MelleTXMelleTX member

    I'm not a big drinker so it's not a big deal if I don't drink, but my girlfriends know I am on the fertility train so not drinking would make them suspicious I was pregnant too.

    I sometimes use the "I'm on antibiotics" excuse. I have allergies so a sinus infection doesn't get questioned too much. Plus it's a subtle way of saying "I'm not pregnant yet".

    I also use "feeling dehydrated" while downing liters of water or "on a diet". Sometimes even the occasional "drank too much last night" trick works as well.

    Truthfully, I think I offer excuses more for my benefit than theirs. They really don't notice all that much if the drink in my hand is water or a vodka tonic. : )

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  • redsoxbonoredsoxbono
    imageMelleTX:

    I sometimes use the "I'm on antibiotics" excuse. I have allergies so a sinus infection doesn't get questioned too much. Plus it's a subtle way of saying "I'm not pregnant yet".

    I have found that the first thing I do at any social gathering now is to have a drink and make sure everyone at the party sees me drinking a sip of it.  Then, I don't have to drink for the rest of the party if I don't feel like it. . . 

    I hope the day comes when I really CAN'T drink. . .  

     

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  • pnltyboxpnltybox
    I'm not a huge drinker, but it would be odd for me to refuse any alcohol in a social situation. I have been known to turn down drinks and say that I'm trying to "be good" (calorie-wise) because I'm trying to lose a few (ok, more than a few!) pounds. The problem with this is that you have to "be good" food-wise too!
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  • CityPixieCityPixie

    You guys may be able to relate to this:  I find that not only am I timing Oing and BD I'm timing drinking events! I figure if AF arrives I get at least one benefit from that be@tc% and drown my sorrows a little! 

    On the off days I really find the social situations to be a problem.  Mostly I think I need to stay home.  The few recent times have been pretty awkward.

    I'm not a huge drinker but to turn one down would definitely be a signal to most people I know.  I tried the calorie counting thing but now my one friend just thinks I'm completely no fun  "I don't eat OR drink?!"   She "disinvited" me on a girls weekend trip because she wanted to "cut loose" and didn't think I could keep up.  Sigh.   Love the idea of being "seen" and then not drinking the rest of the event. 

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