I was outted at a funeral!!! (LONG)

turtlebabies · July 2010

So one of my dearest friends lost her father earlier this week. Her DH and mine have been BFFs since Elementary and I've known her for the 9 years I've been with DH so of course I told her as soon as I knew I was PG. Turns out her response was OMG me too! We're off by like 2 weeks from each other. Anyhow, tonight was her dad's funeral and of course there were tons of our mutual friends there (who don't know yet). When I walked up to her mom the first thing she says (in a voice much louder than one used at a funeral) "Congratulations! I am so happy! So your baby will be born like my new grandchild?!"

I was mortified! I must have looked like a deer caught in a headlight! Of course I responded but in a much lower voice but too late!

When I turn around its like every person in the room was staring at me with this wide grin! My friend's DH looked at me in horror cause he realized what happened and just turned and ran. It was quite funny actually. And my poor friend kept apologizing as I kept telling her not to. I spent the rest of the 2 hours having people come up and congratulate me telling me they didn't know to which I kept saying "That's because we didn't want to tell yet". {Insert BIG smile} Of course I made sure to end each conversation with "Please don't tell anyone else" but that's like talking to the wall!

So here's my dilemma. It so happens that tomorrow I have my cousin's baby's baptism. Of course the whole fam will be there including my middle sister who does not speak to me (her decision influenced by her nut of a BF). I feel like I have to tell them before it gets to them cause you know the world is as small as pea. But I really don't want to tell my sister yet. I know. I'm stupid. Maybe its the hormones. Aside from that, I REALLY don't want the baby's baptism to turn into an all about me event. Its just not fair to her.

Then at night we have a surprise birthday party for one of the friends who found out tonight but of course the rest of our friends are going to be there. I really don't want to tell everyone yet but can I really expect those who know not to tell? YEAH RIGHT!

Ahhhh. What do I do??? This probably seems like a silly problem to you all but I really wanted to wait and more so since I haven't found my real Dr yet and haven't been able to get a real Due Date yet. Ok, if you are still reading this book, I"d appreciate any of your thoughts, ideas, advice.

Thanks!

Oriana.Ocampo · July 2010

I would probably just not say anything and if someone comes and confronts you about it, just be honest and say "I haven't told many people because I was waiting to see the Dr." Most people should understand. HTH

britishbride05 · July 2010

do your parents and grandparents or other really close family members know? if they don't, tell them asap. It may not be the ideal way to tell thlem, but it's better to tell them sooner than find out from from someone other than you and your DH.

As for the rest of your family- if you're not that close to them, don't worry about it. If they ask you, tell them the truth, but don't offer up any info. Half my family found out from other family members, I didn't call everyone or make a big announcement. i just told my parents, sister and close cousins.

that's just imo, though

MrsJOSEnADRI · July 2010

britishbride05:
do your parents and grandparents or other really close family members know? if they don't, tell them asap. It may not be the ideal way to tell thlem, but it's better to tell them sooner than find out from from someone other than you and your DH.
As for the rest of your family- if you're not that close to them, don't worry about it. If they ask you, tell them the truth, but don't offer up any info. Half my family found out from other family members, I didn't call everyone or make a big announcement. i just told my parents, sister and close cousins.
that's just imo, though

This! DH posted it on FB after our we told immediate family and friends in person or over the phone. So, everyone else found out there or by word of mouth.

turtlebabies · July 2010

Out parents and siblings know but not my close cousins and not my grami who's in spain either. I think you guys are right. I really would hate for them to find out through someone else.

Ugh, can't I just hold on to my lil secret for one more week? LOL.

JennLovesJason · July 2010

I think your family would probably rather hear the news from you than through the grapevine BUT it is totally your decision and its such happy news I can't see anyone really being upset that you wanted to keep it a secret for a little while. I guess I don't have any real advice I just wanted to tell you how much you are going to LOVE going through this whole experience with a close friend. I have a friend who was three weeks ahead of me and we were always sharing stories and experiences. It was great to know that the things I was experiencing were "normal" and had someone to talk to who could really relate. It turns out her baby was a few days late and mine was 2 1/2 weeks early so our girls are only 4 days apart!

UMwife · July 2010

Oh my friend, I'm so sorry! I know you really wanted to wait a while longer before revealing your secret, but as others have said, good news travels fast. Especially in groups of people who know each other. My advice would be to fess up and tell those who don't know yet. It's fabulous news and I don't see how anyone would be upset that you didn't share sooner. I would just tell close family and friends who don't already know and let the news trickle down to the rest of the family...that way it's not you "taking the spot light" at the baptism. And besides, even if people congratulate you and Lex at the baptism or later that night at your friend's party, it's not like anyone is going to be offended or upset with you. Being pregnant is a wonderful thing, and I'm sure eveyone will be overjoyed to find out your secret.

xoxo

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