I'm still mad

JuJuBe3 · July 2010

After our first loss, my DH's parents came over one night just to talk and give us hugs and a bouquet of flowers. After the second, not a word. I don't need a red carpet and flowers, but am surprised they have not said anything to me at all. The same is true for one of DH's sisters.

I feel like they look at me with pity or like I'm too old and busted to have kids. They may not really feel that way, but them saying nothing tells me, at a minimum, they're not being supportive. And they are family, so I think we're stuck with them.

I know we all have people who've not been supportive or said stupid things to us in regards to our losses. Do you think you'll ever get past it?

rjl07 · July 2010

I'm sorry. With some people I can get past it because I know they don't get it. It's the ones that should know better that piss me off. ((hugs))

Brady1* · July 2010

When I went to my parents house before my D&C to tell them in person I lost the baby, they thought it was more important to go out to dinner and shopping than to come to the hospital and wait with my DH. Yeah that hurt and I'm still not over it.

I'm sorry your IL's aren't supportive, they're family and you'd think they'd be there for you. ((HUGS))

babes12 · July 2010

i find the only people who get it are those that went through a similar experience otherwise they just don't get it. even my mom who had 2 m/c's didn't seem to concerned that i went through a D&C or that i even had a m/c. lets just say it was forgotten about very easily.

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KristysRedBarn · July 2010

I'm sorry. People who say stupid stuff but you know they mean well, that I can get past. Intentions are very important to me. MIL has said and done some horrible things and continues to do so. I'm not getting over that and am no longer putting forth much effort with her.

BeachCole · July 2010

rjl07:
I'm sorry. With some people I can get past it because I know they don't get it. It's the ones that should know better that piss me off. ((hugs))

This exactly.

I'm sorry, Julie ((hugs))

dondraandluis · July 2010

I'm sorry hon. I think for me it would depend on who said or did something.

vflipo · July 2010

((hugs)) I'm sorry! I am still not over my dad's lack of acknowledgment of our first loss. I hope to get over it someday. I decided we're not telling him about this pregnancy until I'm in the hospital after giving birth. That's how angry it makes me.

pepomntpat · July 2010

{hugs}

butterfly843 · July 2010

((hugs)) I am still annoyed at some friends who never mentioned our loss, they act like I was never pregnant. I don't think they are doing it to be hurtful I think they just don't know what to say. But certain people who say stupid things I just can't get past.

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