Facebook question

Happyfeet10 · July 2010

Did any of you post anything on FB about your loss...I'm debating, I feel like there are a lot of people I am "friends" with on FB that probably don't know what happened and I would like to say something, but I also feel this is kind of private and I don't post much on FB anyway. Just curious if you posted anything?

acast187 · July 2010

This is what my FI posted on his FB it made me cry...

"I never got to drive 90 down the highway trying to get there in time. I never got to hear your first cry. I never got to hold you for the first time and look into your eyes, but I will never forget all the joy you brought in two peoples lives."

Mine was alittle different but along the same lines...

PrincessDi80 · July 2010

I have not and will not be posting on FB. My good friends that I want to know, know. I don't want anyone else knowing, nor need their sympathy.

Happyfeet10 · July 2010

acast187:

This is what my FI posted on his FB it made me cry...

"I never got to drive 90 down the highway trying to get there in time. I never got to hear your first cry. I never got to hold you for the first time and look into your eyes, but I will never forget all the joy you brought in two peoples lives."

Mine was alittle different but along the same lines...

That is so sweet and sad...thank you for sharing.

a&b=him&me · July 2010

I never posted an "official" message. But, I did post a poem about her death as a note.

acast187 · July 2010

Happyfeet10:
acast187:

This is what my FI posted on his FB it made me cry...

"I never got to drive 90 down the highway trying to get there in time. I never got to hear your first cry. I never got to hold you for the first time and look into your eyes, but I will never forget all the joy you brought in two peoples lives."

Mine was alittle different but along the same lines...

That is so sweet and sad...thank you for sharing.

I wasnt sure how my FI felt about the baby but when all this happened I knew that he wanted it just as much as I did!

Shayna0182 · July 2010

I did, but my circumstances were a little different. I had updated my status with doctors appointment updates, plus I was 29 weeks with Hannah, so we had a funeral for her. I didn't have Facebook when we lost Grace, but I'm pretty sure I updated Myspace with info on it. I don't have anyone on my friends list that I wouldn't want to know about it.

luckymrs. · July 2010

Neither DH nor I wrote anything, nor do we plan to. To each his/her own, though.

acast187, I think what your FI wrote is beautiful (and sad, of course)!

acast187 · July 2010

luckymrs.:

acast187, I think what your FI wrote is beautiful (and sad, of course)!

Thank you he has been my rock through all this! I since he posted that I have never once questioned if he loved the baby like I did!

Cow-girl · July 2010

Absolutely! I have been very open about my losses IRL and on FB... You would be surpised at how many people responded that they had also lost babies. It is therapeutic for me... And I have also posted about friends who have lost babies.... (and I have alot of FB friends from the loss boards)

I dont want PL and M/c to be a "silent epidemic" anymore.. And have made it my mission to talk about it. I even have a photo album for Grace, no pics of her but pics of her memorial stuff and her garden. And every Oct 15th I post about PL Awareness...

I think its really up to you whether or not you feel comfortable talking about it.

prplprincess05 · July 2010

if you want to tell certian people on facebook you can private message them

butterfly843 · July 2010

I posted when we lost the twins since everyone knew I was expecting. Since no one knew this time except for our parents and best friends all I posted was something about how life sucks and it is so unfair.

chusum · July 2010

I never shared my BFPs on FB, and only told my immediate family along with two friends. I try to stay pretty vanilla with my posts on FB, if I post something cryptic someone will inevitably ask if I'm pregnant, or what is going on. I like to avoid those, "try to figure out what I'm saying/who I'm talking about" status updates. My DH doesn't have FB, and even when he did he never posted anything, so I didn't have to worry about him talking about it.

liveforhim · July 2010

I agree with cowgirl...it shouldn't be a "silent epidemic" anymore..when I shared it with people who knew me so many people told me about their losses as well.

The way I did it though was made a private event and invited those who I wanted to know...my DH didn't want everyone and their brother knowing..haha

bethskye · July 2010

Because it was a later loss, I posted a note for friends and family. They were grateful because it gave them a venue to comment and express their grief, but as previous posters had said to each their own. It also gave me an opportunity to give funerary information without having to rely on a phone chain for friends and family.

dc2heartsdc5 · July 2010

i agree with cowgirl..i hate that it seems like we shouldnt talk about infertility or losses because its an unpleasant subject...i only have a few friends from the boards and close RL friends on FB..no old high school friends i dont talk to regularly i posted "my body hates me, and i hate my body" (I was and still am very bitter) dh posted "i wish i could escape the horrible reality" my 15 year old brother broke my heart when he posted "i hate getting my hopes up to be let down once again its so unfair" he was really looking forward to being an uncle..and that made me break down in tears

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