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Pregnant after a Loss
MIL is begging me to change from team green
Really? I've made it THIS long & I am going to find out now?? (we have a sealed envelope with the gender)
She said that I need to bond with & support the baby as IT goes through childbirth.
oh boy ~~ that sealed envelope & team green is part of my labor 'incentive'.
Not changing. No way. No how.
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Re: MIL is begging me to change from team green
Just out of curiosity, was SHE able to find out when DH was born??
And if not, did he suffer terribly from her not knowing what he was ahead of time?
30 years ago my mother said she wasn't given an option to find out and her only u/s looked like a blurry blob. In fact, by my heartrate, the doctors were positive I was a boy, so they didn't even have a girl name picked out for me!
BFP #2 4/13/10. Bridget born 12/28/10
BFP #3 Finn born 8/11/15
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This. Though I'm not team green---in my heart, I REALLY wanted to be this time. Dh was just totally opposed to it and I *knew* he would either let it slip or if we kept it between the two of us, his mom would've gotten it out of him anyway. So I caved.
Anywho----my MIL had no idea with either of her pregnancies. My mom had u/s's with me bc she worked at the hospital and the dr's would sneak her in. She was told that I was a boy. u/s techs and u/s's in general weren't very accurate 28 yrs ago.
We found out last time but are TG this time. My SIL's MIL found out last time we were planning on finding out. She said it was unfair to my ILs who might not want to know. Seriously. To me, either way, it's fun finding out. I think it's one of the things parents should be able to pick without being harassed either way! Baby names are another. FIL groaned when we told him the middle name of our baby if it's a girl as it's from my side of the family, not his. Seriously? You got to name two kids. Now it's our turn. Anyway, I digress.
Out of curiosity - why the sealed envelope if you're not finding out until the baby is born?
Oh that's silly.... you can totally hold out now. Your MIL sounds like my mother...she wants to know the baby's name because that's the only way she says she can feel bonded to the baby. Well, in reality, she doesn't HAVE to be bonded to the baby 'til it is born, so we're STILL not telling!
Good for you for being strong!!