s/o a second child

knelli · July 2010

The last post got me thinking... I think in all honesty the real reason I am afraid of having another child is that something will go wrong again. I feel like I have a 50/50 shot of losing another baby and if that does happen I will loose it... I will loose my sanity. The whole time I was pg with Elise I kept waiting for them to tell me that I lost her as well... and I would have to be commited.

Then I think, how can I possibly raise DD if I break down and go into such depression. These are the twisted thoughts that go through my mind. Sad!

Gem17 · July 2010

I'm sorry. It's terrible that the thought has to be there in our mind of another loss. Take your time to decide. For myself, there isn't anything I wouldn't do to have another child.

PurpleK26 · July 2010

I'm sorry you feel this way. I think that thought will always be on the back of all of our minds from now on.

The only thing I can say to maybe 'help' a little is that I've had 2 aunts who've had a late loss and another aunt who lost her son at age 13. All of them had older/other children. ALL of them have said that knowing that they had to be there for their older children made day to day functioning possible. I know that all of us will also have that going for us, should any of us have another loss.

katie9136 · July 2010

I totally feel the same exact way. The only thing that *almost* makes me feel better is that I know I CAN grow a sticky baby now. Or at least my body did once?

kellieok · July 2010

I am so sorry you are having these anxieties. I think the same thing too though. I think that since we have had a loss, we automatically assume the worst... Even though my loss was early on, now that LO is here I worry about SIDS all the time and I am constantly questioning my parenting.