I'm really conflicted about this. I go in for my initial dr. appointment a week from Monday and I have no idea if they're going to schedule an u/s since my last pg ended in m/c at 9 wks. We found out about the m/c at my 1st u/s. Part of me knows that whatever will happen will happen and I have little to no control over it. And after reading these posts about people freaking out over things that came up in the u/s I'm not sure I want to go there in my head when I can't do anything about it. But, then I think if it's all good and I can hear the heartbeat and it actually puts me more at ease? I don't know. Am I the only one?
Re: Anyone not sure they want an early u/s?
My first u/s is at 9w1d. I think that's about as long as I would want to wait. Like you said, if it's going to happen it will, but you can see quite a bit at 9 weeks.
I don't think u/s before 9 weeks are much good (unless you're high risk) because they DO just cause more worry. There's a good chance you what see what you're supposed to that early.
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Normally with our midwives, we wouldn't have one until 18 - 20 weeks (the BIG ultrasound)...with DD, that was totally fine with me. THe wait seemed to take FOREVER, but it was ok.
But I also had a m/c a couple of months ago, so now I am sometimes wondering if it wouldn't put my mind at ease to have one earlier or if it would just make me more anxious if they saw something not quite right.
Really, I just want to hear the HB. Our first appointment is at 11 weeks, so if they can hear the hb with the doppler, then I would be ok with waiting for the big u/s again. I just need a little more reassurance this time around!
I'm one of those people freaking out over what was seen / not seen in my first US ............. and I don't think I would pick to do it if I had the choice honestly.
My doc just set it up and I said okay thinking it was normal since this is my first pregnancy. It is causing me so much stress. I'm trying not too, but it's hard. And besides..I've found myself obsessing over the internet searching for why things may be...........my husband finally told me I had to stop or he was going to kill me. I know he still love me though
But you have to know whatever you decide is what's best for you! I'm just giving you what I would have done if i had the choice.
Yes, but many times before 8-9 weeks, they can't find a hb. And that makes people freak out.
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Yeah, and the baby measured exactly at 9 weeks on the u/s too, there was just no heartbeat. So I honestly don't even know if an earlier u/s will put me at ease since I know it could still happen. I think I'm going to suggest that I not have one until 9 weeks. If something happens like I start bleeding or whatever, then I will get one. But otherwise I just don't need the stress right now.
I had a miscarriage back in December, and I thought early ultrasounds would do a lot to put my mind at ease. I've had 3 now and the appointments have put my anxiety through the roof.
Personally, I would forego the early ultrasounds, but I think I am in the minority. Ignorance can be bliss for me sometimes.
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