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Attachment Parenting
so..balance? Hobbies/activities with DH?
What you do with your DH/SO? With a 1 yr old, all our weekend activities revolve around her, which is fine since DH works and doesn't see her all week. He wants to do something that is just for us that is fun. Any ideas?
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Re: so..balance? Hobbies/activities with DH?
Do you have someone who could babysit for you? or are you looking for an activity that you can both do and just have LO around?
Dance classes, hiking, other classes: painting, yoga, karate, pottery etc etc
What did you used to do together before LO?
Me and DH have movie nights when LO is in bed. We always sit down and eat our evening meal together. But beyond that we haven't managed to get out of the house, just the two of us much at all.
Elizabeth 5yrs old Jane 3yrs old
Yes, both our moms LOVE watching her, so that is never an issue. We do date nights twice a month. I like the dance class idea, we did that before our wedding.
Before kids, our social life was more active, so we went out to dinner, out for drinks, etc more often. Plus, we both worked and had $$ to throw around...not now. I like the movie nights, and the DVR like the poster below suggested. It's simple and we don't really do that. I was just hoping for something that would give us more to talk about/connect with each other with.
I just replied about this...we don't have hobbies in common other than DD. My husband's exact words were, "we don't have anything to talk about, we don't have much in common. I need to connect to you on a friendship level." I feel like a bored child by saying, "theres nothing to do!"
Me and DH are the same. So eating our dinner together at the table has become really important for us to sit and talk and catch up with each other. Last night DH ate his dinner (which I'd already cooked) while I fed LO and I was pissed.
Also as a SAHM I try and keep up with what's going on in the world so that my world doesn't become too, "all about the baby"
We also email each other during the day. Not obsessively (he does have to work after all) but just randomly to share info or something funny.
It's winter here so getting out of the house isn't easy. But come summer I want us to get out as a family to do stuff that we can all enjoy. A walk round the gardens, the local outdoor theatre festival etc etc
Elizabeth 5yrs old Jane 3yrs old
If you are looking for talking activities movies and tv may not be the solution...
DH and I have gone bowling, or played pool, although at times anything that can be competative can cause issues, lol. Geocatching is something else if you are anywhere that there is a countryside? I dunno, there are some people I know here that do it, but I have never been.
Wine tasting? Maybe go to a hotel/ info stop and pick up some tourist brochures to see what you can do in your area? Cooking class? Woodworking class? Just go for a walk?
If money is an issue I bet you could pop over to money matters and get some suggestions from them of good together, communications oriented activities that don't cost much... hope this helps!
I SAH also and try not to feel like all I can talk about is the baby, but it's hard, we always come back to her! It's summer where we are, but are housebound as well because it has been close too 100 degrees here! I like the emailing idea...now that I think of it we DID do that a lot before we got married because I was working and by the comp all day. I could do that more from home when she naps.
I'll say that eating dinner together (and now C joins us at the table, before she sat up we laid her on the table between us) is really important for us. We talk about our day, what happened at work for him, what C and I did, anything else interesting happening/gossip.
Do you have apple/peach/fruit picking places? That's something that you could take LO with you and do an activity, and it can be pretty cheap if you don't go overboard. Or hiking/walking in an interesting/new place.
And I try to listen to NPR during the day so that I have non baby ideas in my head to bring up occasionally, like I heard this interesting story on NPR and I tell him about it and we talk about it.
How about arranging to meet some kid free friends for happy hour (pick someplace with good happy hour specials so it's cheap) or just the two of you go?
This is going to sound silly, but DH and I have talked about doing something that we used to do (separately) when we were young and single: trivia night at a local pub.
Also, we golf together and take walks with LO in a wrap when he's sleepy...he just chills out on my back and DH and I have time to talk.
We've had lots of talks about what hobbies we can cultivate as a family...we've decided that once LO is big enough to ride in a bike seat we will be a biking family....until then, we're a hiking family.