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Advice Needed - Super Clingy

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My DD has become SUPER clingy over the past 2 to 3 weeks.  I mean I can't even unload the dishwasher without her fussing, coming into the kitchen and pulling herself up on the back of my legs and standing there and crying.  So actually leaving the room for me to get a load of laundry or even pee is an all out dramatical event! She is still crawling, not walking yet.  It it driving me CRAZY.  

Does anyone have any advice on how I should handle this?  I am struggling because her cries go straight through me and I also don't know how much one on one time I should be spending with her vs. her playing alone.  I also can't even sit on the sofa for 5 minutes where she doesn't want me sitting on the floor with her which has done a number on my tailbone.  

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Re: Advice Needed - Super Clingy

  • EveryNameIWantIsTakenEveryNameIWantIsTaken member

    DS went through that too but has for the most part gotten over it.  I either had to let him fuss or do what he wanted me to do.  There was no in between in his mind.  The one thing he still gets mad about is me being in the kitchen.  We have a baby gate up since it is a galley kitchen and he knows how to open the oven.  If the oven is on and I am cooking, he is locked out.

    I really don't have much advice but can offer encouragement that she will get over it, probably sooner than later.

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    My DD was like that as well.  I remember when she was 18 months old she would follow me around yelling "UP UP UP" because she wanted me to hold her all the time.  My DD was clingy since birth, she never wanted anyone but me.  She eventually grew out of it, it took a while but I think she was an extreme case.  I tried not to give into her all the time, I would try to distract her with a toy, pots and pans if I was cooking, etc.  It was super frustrating though, hang in there!  
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  • HarrietNJMommyHarrietNJMommy

    It's a phase. It will pass. Some kids have it longer than others; some start earlier, some start later; with some it doesn't even seem like they have it.

    What you can try to do is play a game with her when you want to leave the room - hide for a second and then come back, making it longer intervals each time. Eventually, she won't fuss or scream as much.

    I forgot what this feels like. DD#1 was by far my WORST kid with this. She had separation anxiety from age 3 months to age 2.5. Yes, THAT long! Somehow I dealt with it. If I needed to pee or get something done, then I would leave her in the playroom (gated safe area) and let her cry. She is now a VERY well adjusted (although very shy and observant) 4.5 YO.

    DD#2 wasn't that bad, although we did hit separation anxiety with her.

    DS - really no separation anxiety even though he is the most attached to me. He will whine for 30 seconds and then be on his merry way and find something to play with.

    GL!

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  • gatogrrlgatogrrl member
    Like the other posters said, you can ride it out.  Believe it or not, I missed DD's super-clingy phase after she was done with it and suddenly wanted nothing to do with me. 
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